Uggh! Told someone exactly what I thought | ADHD Information
Oh my gosh! I can't beleive I did it again....I have a qusi friend that is the wife of my husband's work out buddy...she thinks he is cheating..and he is not..anyway she allways sends me e-mails etc of what he is doing...and she went so far this last time that she even said my husband was with him cheating..anyway she arranged for a divorce..even kicked him out...well her whole life is like this...she owns her own business (for 16 yrs) and she has never had the same employee for more than 6 months..she finds something wrong with them and then fires them..or they leave because they cry from her...anyway when she started saying that I was dependent on my husband and that I needed to be independent so that I don't rely on him so much....well anyway...I asked how her relationship is going (thinking to myself she seemes to be the expert)
...and she replys that everything is fine he is back in the house and they are great...well I couldn't help myself and without thinking I sent her an e-mail about what I have thought about her for the past couple of years...I told her to read the borderline personality disorder book..."I Hate You, Don't Leave Me!" It is about borderline personality order ...I wrote a term paper on it in psychology and it is her so much....any way..I went to far..I shouldn't have sent it to her but I did then she freaked and asked what she did for me to think she was crazy..I have ignored her calls and e-mail today (just told her yesterday)...but I don't know what to say when she calls..I am not going to tell her I did not mean it..she is so BPD..she could have been the centerfold for my term paper...
anyway..why do I just say what I feel with out thinking even on meds..why can't I stop it....
Hello,
I would not worry too much about what you said and did. I would simply send her another e-mail and tell her that you were not trying to be mean or nasty. However, you have researched BPD and how it can negatively affect a person's life. You think she might have some symptoms of BPD and it might help her to read the book and perhaps talk to a doctor. That's it. Keep it short and simple. Don't make a big deal out of it because if you do, she will also.
After that, I'd suggest you not be so friendly with her. So her husband and yours work out together. Big deal! That doesn't mean you and she have to be friends. From what you said about her, I don't think she is helpful for you and YOU count the most. Maybe sending the e-mail was the best thing you could do. LOL! Find another friend.
amelia 