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Thanks for your advice. Actually, I went to my doctor today and he took me off adderall and put me on Effexor. I felt so enraged all because I felt people would not acknowledge the severity of Bipolar disorder and ADHD meds, but I didn't know why. Yesterday, I was angry and violent most of the day, and today I just couldn't stop crying, shaking, and I couldn't breath. A simple comment felt to me as if someone was trying to personally atack me. Adderall was such a horrible effect on me after it wore off. Causing things that I am too embarrased to discuss in this forum.  It was so scary. I think maybe I am not ADHD. I love you guys, but sometimes I just can't seem to relate.

arueing on the internet is like peeing on your leg. When you are done  you are all wet, uncomfortable, feel foolish, feel like everyone is noticing that little wet mark and  no one else sees or  feels a thing.  Honestly, I hope you both just let it go and look forward.

Bobel....I think u gave some good advice. To Ivel and Beirce...Please do not let this Disorder pull either of u back into some sort of isolaiton, it is an easy thing to do; it feels so familiar but it is not good for any of us. One of the things we know about our disorder is that we are sometimes sensitive to criticism or even perceived criticism. We also know that we sometimes miss social cues that make us appear to be rude when it was never our intention to be so...It sounds to me as though u two have bumped heads over the pitfalls we ADDers often face with miscommunication. It is part of the hell of this disorder. We cannot blame each other when our symptoms show up as we interact on this board. As far as winning goes..there is no winning if one person leaves with hurt feelings, and self-imposed isolation, and the other person is left with feelings of "what did I do wrong." We have had enough of this from people who don't have a clue about us...we do have a clue about ourselves and our disorder.  So...we need to just be here for one another....that's all...just be here, putting ourselves on theboard in hopes that someone else relates to our pain, our silly stories, (our inability to type)...and the great thing about this board is WE DO! relate to the feelings and events shared here. If either of u pull out of this board, we all lose, becasue we lose your input, your slant on this disorder, your needed view on life and its many issues.

She was talking about me.  I simply said why I was offended and for that I was accused of being rude.  I was not rude, I was upset and it was I, that was offended by her reply on the Parents of Adhd children page which she claims she was answering a question, even after rereading 3 times, I still didn't see the bipolar question she says she was answering.  There were also contradicting posts made by Ivil that I did not understand, she asked for help on meds at one place and in another she answered herself with advice for the same problem.  So that simply confused me and I questioned her about it.  After being here for a short amount of time to realize this is a place I really enjoy, and after meeting new friends, friends who have A LOT of things in common with me I think we will remain very good friends. When in need I guess I will go to them. I have been to all the boards and tried to offer my advice on what I know, and my opinion.  I am 31 and do not intend to get in a pissing match with someone who has gone to two boards and a private message to me saying how rude I was.  So offend me all you want, I guess I will go elsewhere.  You win. 
[QUOTE]So offend me all you want, I guess I will go elsewhere. You win.[/QUOTE]


April...it would seem a shame to dismiss everyone else on the board, where you're just as important as everyone else, because you had difficulty with one member. Please don't judge the entire forum because of one person.

If you two are having a problem, just avoid one another. How does that sound to you, to the BOTH of you? April? Ivette? hmmmm?

Forgive me for "sticking my nose in here," but I just want to cry when I see anyone feeling badly. We're here for support, so let us support you. GypsyWomyn38411.9073726852WOW

Bierce,

Actually I wasn't planning on mentioning your name. The post I sent to you via IM was meant to be private. I pour out my emotions in here because I use this site as an outlet, regardless of whether it applies to you or anyone in particular. I posted responses to your specific replies explaining my notes and apologizing for not being able to clearly convey my thoughts.

Perhaps your comment hurt more than it should have because it hit close to home because I suffer episodes of mania, depression, and suicidal tendencies in addition to ADHD, and I know that treating a child who is believed to be bipolar is a whole different game. Using stimulant medications to treat ADHD or ADHD-like symptoms in a child with bipolar disorder can worsen manic symptoms. This is a very serious matter.

So, maybe this all got started the wrong way! You are mentioned that you are a 31 year old woman. Let me introduce my self: I am a 27 yr-old Psychiatry student, a mother of two girls (bipolar, ADHD), who suffers from a variety of disorders and health issues. I have not gone too far into my education, but I love it.  I have a Computer science degree, but emotionally could not deal with the demands of the career. Thus, my medical knowledge is limited. I give my opinion on matters that can relate to what bits and pieces of information I have accomplished to gather through life-experience, and research. By no means have I done this with the purpose of imposing my opinions on people's lives.

Yes, many times I come in here asking for help, asking questions I can easily find an answer to on my own. Most times, I just like to hear an encouraging, positive word and the perspective other people can have on the matter. I just have a difficult time expressing my emotions.  Maybe, I should stop this.

 

 

Thank you for your support. I just wanted to say that the last message was not really intended for the members of the ADHD adult forum. No, its not you guys. It was someone from the parent of ADHD children forum, but apparently they've been having some difficulties being "nice" overthere because there was another message like mine just posted. Oh well, I just put it here because I know that person came in here to post a nasty message for me.

I like the Adult forums, I have had a much better experience relating with other people who actually deal with ADHD. Perhaps is because many of the parents do not have to cope with this disorder and cannot understand. It kind of makes me sad because my grandmother used to treat me pretty badly and could not understand me as a child. Some of them talk about spanking, upgrading their kids meds, and wine about their behavior alot. I shouldn't go overthere anymore. I am just glad I am here for my daughter, who also has ADHD. We both take meds and are not against them. I just made the mistake of suggesting researching alternative forms of treatment.   Oh well its time to "leave the drama for my mama"!... Thanks again

Thank you GypsyWomyn