Is your house a mess? | ADHD Information
I LOVE YOU GUYS!!! Okay, I'm mostly a stay at home mom, I work one or two days a week, I have 6 and 5 year old sons. My neighbor sends his kids over to play (6 and 3) is my house messy, HELL YEAH! Toys everywhere, different video game systems. A newspaper or magazine here or there, and backpacks thrown...wherever! My hands have broke out in a rash, (blaming it on dishsoap hubby has been doing dishes! 
) so the dishes have to wait until he can do them. And if I don't do it within the hour of my dear friend adderallxr kicking in, it doesn't get done! While he was doing the dishes yesterday he said, "hey what are you doing?" Well what I was doing was very important, I was watching Major League 2!! I did do all the laundry though yesterday all 5 loads, washed, dried, folded AND put away, so I don't know why he was griping! That was a big accomplishment for me! I keep trying to explain the whole ADHD to him, he understands it for our 6 yo but not me. He seriously needs to come on here and meet all of you and read your posts. MAYBE he would understand a little more. But thanks for posting little things ALL the time that sounds JUST like me! I learn something new ADHD related EVERY day here.
LOVE YOU ALL!
My house is a mess. I don't know how people fit all those tasks into their daily schedule. I could blame it on the fact this is a very small house & I also run my business out of it. I work at the stock daily - inventory & sorting, etc. - but it always looks exactly the same. I lack the concept of working step by step in a linear way, & am all over the place. I will write out a plan of where I am going to put stuff, etc. but I get hung-up on how to start.I lived in the same house for 25 years (family of 6) & when I moved, er - I never did pack. (Don't ask!)
I moved in with my son. One day I was telling him that the remote control had been missing since the move. He replied " Do you know what else has been missing since you moved in - my floor!"
Thank goodness, i really thought there was something wrong with me! my mothers house was always spotless! I have 5 children, 3 live with me and one of the older 2 come on weekends, it just doesn't matter how hard i try i just cant keep up with the house., as for keeping up withthe kids, forget it. I swear they think we have a maid, i clean every night after i finally get them to bed
, then i finish whatever i missed while there in school. i absolutly hate weekends, i have to do spring cleaning every weekend!!! It's nuts, i thought i was cursed
I feel alot better knowing that i'm not some kind of misfit. THANKS GUYS (AND LADIES)
SANDRA AND VERY MESSY KIDS!
You don't know how happy I'm to hear other people are messy.
None of my friends are messy, I thought there was something wrong with me!
lee03
Well, I too am a stay home mom. I am anal about some things around the house,,, but am terribly unorganized, and so yes, it is usually a mess although I work at it all day it seems.
Remember,,, your kids are home all day, so they are messing up the house all day. Its a never ending battle. !
You can clean constantly, or spend time with your kids and have it a little messy. I choose to be picky about the important things,,, like the bathrooms and floors,, but let toys be out ect. I would rather spend some quality time with my kids than be perfect.
My neighbor chooses to be perfect. Her house IS perfect. But her kids are not allowed to bring toys out of their rooms at all, or touch practically anything in the house. Its not worth that. Nows the time to raise your kids. Soon enough it will be just you, your kids grown and gone,,, and your house will stay clean when you clean it.
Bet you'll miss those little hell-raisers by then though.
:)
Hang in there
Trail-seeker, I have a neighbor the same way, her house is immaculate, everything is always perfect, and her kids arent allowed to play anywhere esle also. I actually have that same rule, but it never happens. I just get tired of looking at the mess! When I get a good paying job, I think I will pay someone. Gyspy Womyn, Love the avatar, and the bear thing cracked me up! When I had a job, it was very neat also. My husband likes to have company over too, but whenever he does, he gets to clean up! On a daily basis, I'm too embarassed to invite anyone over.
Thanks you guys, I feel much better!
Yes, always a mess.I have always been a clean freak to the point i would spend my whole day cleaning house. I bothers me if I dont clean it, I get frustrated if it isnt done.
As a kid I would keep cleaning the house to make my mother happy, I figured if I cleaned house it would put her in a good mood, I guess the habit has stayed with me.
Sometimes I wish I could ignore it but i cant.
MY WHOLE HOUSE IS A TOTAL WRECK!!!
this bothers me, cuz my hubby likes company over sometimes, BUT I'M TOO EMBARRASED TO LET ANYONE COME OVER....
I am a mom of 3 and when I was a mom of 2, I worked full time and although the house wasn't immaculate, it was clean. Now I am a stay at home mom and I cant seem to catch up on anything. Once I clean/dust/mop/vacuum the downstairs, upstairs is a complete mess. There is always some laundry to fold, and I am just not a neat person, my closet is a playroom for the kids to hide, jump and sleep on all the clothes on the floor. I really try to catch up, but I just cant! I try to enlist the children on small things like towels, but it is still too much for me to handle. Does anyone else have this problem?
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My room is a mess I guess, clothes on floor, desk cluttered, bed unmaid, etc. The rest of my place is pretty tidy thanks to having a clean roomate!
I used to be embarassed, but *shrugg* what's the point?
Also, besides my having ADHD, people with Tourettes, like me, are also OCD. My desk at work was impeccibly clean and orderly. I had to keep making sure the papers we piled in perfect piles...no corner out of the 8x11 shape.
I think it does bother my cat. I just told her if I cleaned up, she wouldn't have all the places to jump to and from, nor as many hiding places as she has now. So don't complain!
Oddly, I love cleaning other people's homes...and get paid for it (friend's only). Now if only someone would pay me to do mine...
GypsyWomyn38416.7300347222I am a little OCD so I HATE a mess! I also work 7 days a week so, of course, it is a mess. My husband does do some things, but I always have to go behind him because it is not done exactly the way I would do it. (But I don't criticize him!) I finally had to get paid help once a week to keep me from going ballistic! Okay... I can answer yes and no to this question!When I was a teenager - my room was impeccably neat. Not necessarily clean (as in dusted, etc), but my desk was orderly, my bed was made, and my all my knick knacks on my dresser were arranged just so. I think I was definitely OCD, because if someone came into my room and moved something, or dropped a piece of grabage, or wrinkled my bed, I immediately had to fix it. And I mean had to. My friends used to mess things up on purpose just to get me going.
When I went to university and started living in a dorm room, I was still very neat. However, I didn't have mom to do my laundry anymore. I would look in my drawer and discover that I had no underwear left, and realize it was laundry time.
When I got my first apartment, everything went to hell. I now had several rooms to keep neat, rather than just one. My dining room and coffee tables got buried. I had boxes of stuff everywhere. Dishes would go unwashed for days. Food would spoil in my fridge. Laundry that DID manage to get washed would remain in the basket in a wrinkled heap. Unwashed laundry was piled on the closet floor. My bed was never made. In short - it was a disaster. My roommates were just as bad or worse than me. I blamed them - but I know it was just as much my fault as it was theirs.
Today, I live with a fantastic man. He is perfect for me - he does the dishes and the laundry, and even makes the bed. He makes my lunch for me. When I get my lazy ass around to cleaning the bathroom, he even vacuums and dusts. In return, he gets a fantastic dinner nearly everyday, because I do love to cook.
I think I just got really lucky. LOL.I keep the house clean...but I use every cabinet or cubby to put something...however there allways seems to be dishes in the dish washer and sink...my husband recently told me to order more flatware because he can never find a clean spoon.
I take all my husbands clothes he piles for the cleaners and put them in my trunk so to him I did it..took them to the cleaners....but I forget they are all in the trunk of my car
MY CLOSET
My closet since I was little has allways been the dumping ground..I cant tell you how much stuff gets broken from me stepping on it not knowing it is under the pile of clothes....LOL...anyway I have extended my pile as an adult to my guest room...the bed seems to be an extension of my closet...clean clothes and towels etc...you name it and it is piled in there...it is so overwhelming that I can't even begin to go in there...
My house is very very clean... under all the piles of clutter!! My house always looks like a tornado just went through. The floor has scattered jackets, hats, shoes, toys, papers, everywhere. I try to keep the kitchen relatively clean, so that is my place of sanity, but that is a battle. My husband is home all day (I work) but he doesn't appear to even notice the chaos. Of course if one is oblivious to a mess, one doesn't think to clean it up. 