Please, please give me your thoughts! | ADHD Information

While I don't want to encourage you to throw away 10+ years of marriage, I am also a strong believer in not taking abuse in any form - verbal or physical. Verbal abuse can be just as destructive emotionally. I was a victim of it in a relationship for 3 years. It takes its toll.

I'm sure you have told him time and time again how you feel... and I'm sure you have probably tried and tried to get him to become more educated on the subject of AD/HD?

Something else to think about - turn it around on him. Does he have insecurities of his own? I mean, it's common knowledge that schoolyard bullies are mean because they are trying to make themselves look tough or important, or feel better about themselves. The same can be applied to adults.

All that aside, congrats on the awesome news!!!! If you can't get the support you need at home, you know you will always get it here!
First... C.C.! On getting published.   Second... do this for me to your husband.
How long have you been married? Has he ever been sympathetic or supportive of your ADHD? Even in couples w/o ADHD present, I've listened to women who complain their husbands don't show enthusiasm for them when something as good happens to them. So you'e not alone there.

You said "and then he hung up." When he's home, face to face, does he give any support? When he can see your face, how elated your are? I just re-read your post, I guess he doesn't. Bcgirl expressed it perfectly. You're going to have to weigh your priorities. Life is too short, especially to sacrifice your happiness.

Guess you're going to have to rely on us, your friends, to be happy for you, and be supportive.

What kind of business is it you're interested in starting? You may have said, but it also may have gone right over my head.

You go, girl!

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I am trying to get my own business going at home...(along with ten million other things).  I recently was published in the paper in the homes section twice.  This is not a small town...its Houston...and I was really excited...well my husband did not seem too excited and I kept asking him why.

Today I received an e-mail saying I was chosen to be in the spotlight for upcomming new interior designers again in our city paper...and I shared the e-mail with my husband...he said that's nice again...just like the other articles...then I yelled at him and said why cant you be happy and supportive of me...I told him when he does this it makes me feel like a failure...and like I can't do it...he then said "well I think you only care about being written up in the paper and not about running a business" ....this is sooooooo not true...I had the opportunity and the free PR is very beneficial to my business...I just got one client from the article from last Sunday...a friend recomended her and she did not call untill she saw me in the paper...

I know my slow poke ways of getting going are due to my ADHD...but when he puts me down ...I feel like I am in elementry class again and I have tried and the teacher is telling me I haven't tried...and I shouldn't say just elementry...it is all my life..I try and everyone seems to be able to have this telepathic way of knowing more than I do about my actions and tell me I did not try...I know I have and I feel like I am beating my head against the wall...

What should I do about my husband? He makes me feel like such a failure...with everything...oh yeah when I tell him this he tells me I am overreacting and that I am acting like a 12 year old and then he will hang up.