Urrgh!! | ADHD Information
I haven't lost my cool for a long time. Do any of you know people who will constantly criticize you and put you down, but heaven forbid if you EVER say anything negative to THEM, watch out!? They can give it out, but can't take it.I just guess their sh*t doesn't stink like everyone else's does.
I'll cool down soon...and I forgive and forget easily, but not this person who I wanted to grab and shake till their eyeballs popped out!!! She's sooooo rude!! And will now make my life a living hell for at least a month. (VERY close neighbor in RV park) It's people like her who give the title "poor white trash" to people who live in RV parks month-to-month. URRRGGGHHH!
Common friends, I need a shoulder, or better yet, a HUG!
GypsyWomyn38454.4956134259
I have someone exactly like that that I have to deal with at work. He critisizes every single tiny thing any of the rest of us do, but he of course is beyond reproach. Very frustrating! I feel for ya!
Oh yes. I know that person VERY WELL ZORG38422.6294097222Oh, thank you, I knew I could count on you guys!!! I'm feeling better already.
I love you people!
I also think a lot of people really RESENT it when you are smiling all the time, happy, you know? Like where I used to work, when I was truly enjoying my job, people really resented that! They made life miserable for me, until I finally quit. Last job I ever worked, and miss it.
GypsyWomyn38422.6162962963Just a thought... have you ever tried NOT to be sensitive to inferior behavioral patterns?
You should pitty that woman... not let her get to you... and when people can't take joy in other peoples hapiness, pitty them.
[QUOTE=GypsyWomyn] Do any of you know people who will constantly criticize you and put you down, but heaven forbid if you EVER say anything negative to THEM, watch out!? They can give it out, but can't take it.
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Gypsywomyn:
You just described my mother...
Something similar just happened to me that sounds JUST LIKE THIS regarding my mom, me and my pregnancy:
I know how it is......
Just a thought... have you ever tried NOT to be sensitive to inferior behavioral patterns?
You should pitty that woman... not let her get to you... and when people can't take joy in other peoples hapiness, pitty them.[/QUOTE]
TaagMan....Of course, I've tried not to be so sensitive to people like her, but if I could easily accomplish that I wouldn't be on an ADHD board!!! 
GypsyWomyn38454.4872337963
Ouch, Gypsy! Hon, you know you have my hugs, lots of them!
Gypsy, listen to TaagMan. I believe he's got the best way to deal with people like that. And oh, yes I know these people very well, too!!!!! I was married to one of them for 12 years and the other one raised me. The ole saying about daughter's marry men just like their fathers, well it became reality for me. 
People like that usurp positive energy from people that are happy, because they are so miserable. They are usually envious, jealous, and very selfish people that require being the center of attention. When someone else comes in to their small world being the COA, they become vicious and insensitive.
My mom always asks me why I don't have any friends and my reply always is, " I met someone today but all they talked about was themselves, they never asked anything about me, like family, friends, how long I've been here, nada. I have no desire to be friends with people that are so superficial and utterly selfish and self-centered. They are pathetic, empty individuals."
That seems to be the way a lot of people are today. 
No thank you, I would rather be by myself.
Remember, sweetie - Your happiness cannot be taken away from you unless you allow it to be. You have the power to control your thoughts and feelings, and if you become unhappy because of what another person said, then you give them your power, therefore, they have control over you. Someone like that person you mentioned is not worth your time just to make you sad. Take control of yourself back and do not forfiet your power for another low, superficial person's happiness.
ladyhope38422.6760648148TaagMan...I do pitty her, that's why up until today, I took the sh*t and abuse she's been feeding me. But I just couldn't handle it today.Thanks for your help, TaagMan.GypsyWomyn38454.4883217593Actually, I know WHAT I ought to do, but what I was asking for today was just a hug, or possibly similar stories (which, thank you, I've gotten)...not necessarily solutions. Can you understand that? Oh, what the hell, tell me anything you want...just please don't tell me "I should." That expression just doesn't sit well with me. Thank you all!
I've always hated the anger that can explode from me so easily.
Ladyhope, that was awesome, thank you!!GypsyWomyn38422.6827662037
I am not offended in any way. I am sorry that I was so insensitive... and for my timing.
Just another thought.... (i do think allot)... I am somewhat amazed, how this have been blown out proportion. I weren't offended at all... actually I didn't even get that you were rude to wards me, before you made an apology hehe....
And... here's the hug you deserve hug:
EEEEKKKKKThat big one makes me dizzy!
Thank you ALL for your kindness...and HUGS! A girlfriend had me over for a great dinner. Girlscout cookies for desert. And we watch "Ray." What an EXCELLENT movie!
I'm feeling much better now, and will go to sleep much calmer.
[QUOTE=ZORG]EEEEKKKKK
That big one makes me dizzy!
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Zorg ...hold onto a wall...you will be fine..it was for GYP..she needed it....
A wall my @$$... I'd rather hold on to.........Well, I might be better off keeping that one to myself........
There you go. Understanding hug.
You might consider what I call the "Spongebob Approach". Classic. When the bad person comes to you with any range of negativity, just look at them blankly for about a count of 5, then say with a slight smile; "Well good luck with that!" With only the SLIGHTEST enthusiasm and no pause after 'Well'. You may need to rent the movie to see how it's done.
But then you MUST walk away with a smile. It's fun, puts them where they need to be, and shows them that whatever affect they had intended to impose on you had absolutely no effect. And, they have NO recourse.
Have FUN with these mere mortals!! They are all here for our amusement!!! Haven't you noticed how upset they get when you are being yourself?? As long as you aren't endangering anyone, have a ball!!!!
These are all merely suggestions, nothing you SHOULD do.
Gypsy,
I have a friend just like that, and over the years she has gotten worse. I started to end the realtionship with her, but it was hard since I babysat her son every monday and our kids love to play together. There has been some horrible retched things said to me and bout me, and it turns out that she was just jealous of me. She makes well over 100k/year and i am a stay at home mom with 3 kids and my hubby doesnt make that much, so whenever she came around, she always would criticize. ALWAYS!!! She is also always complaining, so I got fed up, and I wrote her a letter, not too harsh, but I told her why it was so hard to hang out with her. She never responded to the letter, but she has not complained or criticized since.
Anyway, here is your hug!
hello gypsywomyn,
Story of my life, day late and a dollar short. i do know exactly how you feel, there is always that one person who shouldn't bother you, but no matter what ends up being the one person who can push your buttons and crawl right under your skin. Amazing how the little things seem to be so overwhelming, and the biggest annoyance's. well we love ya!!! and we understand ya too. so the heck with all the insensitive, negative, and uneducated neighbors, ect... you always have us!
SANDRA
Zorg I have filled your blank with tons of stuff and had fun with the game...you are too funny! Good luck with that! LOLThanks, ADDave! Good idea. Here's a for you for that one. Group Hug? Is it possible?
[QUOTE=ADDave] These are all merely suggestions, nothing you SHOULD do.[/QUOTE]
And for THAT....Merci! For you! I love the Spongebob approach. I always try to figure out what could possibly possess someone to behave in whatever wretched way they are behaving, so I can understand them if I can and avoid making the same mistakes (a valid concern since I make a huge number of social mistakes 
). I think lee03 has a good point. I think that when I see someone who I see as being nearly perfect (in contrast to my own chaotic disfunctional self) I feel like pointing out that they are not really so perfect in order to make myself feel less inferior. I'm also very sensitive to criticism. If I had the impulsive part of ADHD, I could see myself being just such a jerk as you describe, born out of my own feelings of inadequacy. Fortunately my tongue is tied more often that not!
Then again, some people are just plain mean!