wits end need help

Hi

We have a 16 yera old daughter and since she was 6 she started having viscious mood swings and getting angry so easily. Weve had problems ever since. She used to hate going to school and refused to go. But since then she has changed schools and is happy enough. She gets annoyed and angry so easily sometimes at teachers her behaviour at school is generally good but if another student or teacher says something she will get annoyed. She has attacked us on several occasions and had a knife out before. She swears all the time when annoyed and often comes out with stupid noises and bites her hand hard. She often runs about being silly making these noises. She is predicted D's at skool. She finds doing homework very hard as she gets bored after starting it. She also gets bored with her work at skool. And she is really bad at maths she just cant work them out. and often gets very worried about things

please help we are at wits end. She has not been diagnosed with anything. Is it worth taking her to the doctors to be checked out for anything. Thank you

Well its sounds like you and your daughter are both going through an awful time. Do you think finding some help and an explanation to why your daughter is behaving the way she is is worth it to all of you?

We have spoken 2 her on several occasions. And asked her why she behaves like this and she just said she gets annoyed with us. And dosent know why she is like it.

We really dont know what to do next

I would definately talk to a psychologist immediately....it sounds as if she had ADHD which left untreated may have now moved to, or is beginning to move to ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) or CD (conduct disorder).  Please take her to get some help....it is definately worth it, but go to a specialist (psychologist/ psychiatrist) rather than a family physician if possible...

This sounds as if it is as frustrating to her as it is to you and your family because she says she does not know why she acts this way....remember this fact and it will be easier to handle....everyone in the family doing their part...

There is help out there for her....help her find it, and involve her in the process so that she doesn't feel forced into it...talk to her about your family's struggle to deal with this as a family, that you're all worried about her, and tell her that you want to learn what is the best course of action for ALL of you to take...have her pick which doctor she would like to go to or something which involves her in the matter

good luck!