Just found child stealing....HELP | ADHD Information

Just wondering if any one can tell me if you have ran into this with a ADHD child.. I have a young daughter who in the past has never really stolen anything...and if she had something that wasn't hers she could return it unharmed....which I had in the past made her do....The problem starts now like this........

She had stole some stuff that is not returnable......(if we made her return it, her dad or I or worse her would get hurt and hurt very bad..)..what she took would of taken at least 3 trips and then she hid it under the deck.  I don't know what made me look there,but I did and what I found had me so scared that I nearly vomitted and was shaking.  All that is now in dumpsters around the city we live in and I am still scared Sh***less.

Has anyone else had to deal with a young ADHD child who lies and steals....she was actually trying to lie her way out of it, and she was caught redhanded...Please anyone ....any info.....we are now looking into shrinks, etc...but that may take time.   Any help would be ever so much greatly appreciated.  Thanks

I took Concerta, I found myself having terrible difficulties with impulse control and lying. I lost interest in working in school and would leave on impulse, I would steal frequently and then lie to avoid criticism and even start to believe my own lies. I was able to keep them going for ages before I quit Concerta and the stealing, lying etc. quit too. Drugs become a problem for some ADD/ADHD patients as your giving them stimulants. For example a friend of mine began smoking marijuana on adderall and she swore it was the only way she could cope with the medicine. hope I've helped!We have had to deal alot with this. I am not exactly clear about what you are referring to that has you scarred SH***LESS, but I can say that this is all impulse control. My step-daughter stole jewelery from me. I did not realize this for two weeks. When I went to pick her up from day care for the weekend, they informed me that she was trying to dispose of the evidence so I would not catch her( I search everything). She fessed up. We have had more trouble with dangerous lying. She lied at school and got on the yellow bus, not the day-care bus to go home. She was taken to day-care by the polce. Her mom's response was to blame the school for this. I said it would not have happened if she hadn't lied in the first place.  We had to show her that she was in imminent danger, and that required an immediate response. We stripped her room down to that essentials. Her bed, pillow, and the ugliest sheets we could find(she loves her linens). She had to earn back everything by not doing the undesirable behavoir. We made a point to catch her doing the right behavoir and rewarded that. She blossomed, and we have not had this problem since(6 mths.). We did again for the constant stealing, but we are still in the process of earning it back. Kids lie and steal, probably ours more than "normal" kids, but do I think it is a psychological problem, not really. Again, I don't know your exact situation. Try SHOWING her how her trust has been broken. GOOD LUCK!

[QUOTE=Doran]ADHD had nothing to do with it.[/QUOTE]

Actually stealing and lying though its not only a symptom of ADHD and normal kids will do it too,IS also a part of ADHD,this was one of the main reasons why i took my son to the doctor in the first place,2 years of stealing and no matter what I did he didnt stop.Doctor told me its obssesive behaviour and is linked to ADHD.

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Lets just say that the things she "took" are illegal, as the people she "took" the stuff from have a illegal income.  She knows now that what she did was extremely dangerous for her and her family and that it was really wrong.  And hopefully that will help her learn her lesson. 

Thanks to all for any support.......this is a long tough road.........but I am sure it will all turn out......Oh do I hope...

Hey Doran...I know that.........Have been dealing with ADHD for 5 years

I was simply asking if any one dealt with that type of theft, not asking to be called down. 

And as for her self esteem it is INCREDIBLY good, she is a very outgoing. lovable, caring person....I have done nothing to hamper that....If you are hear to insult maybe you should not be giving your opinion.

[QUOTE=Doran]

Hey guess what.

Kids without ADHD lie and steal too.

The worst thing you can possibly do is to link this incident or her impulse to do what she did to "ADHD".

 

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okay you missed the entire point of that story... the point wasn't ADHD causing these problems it was the medication, note the title of this part of the message board: "ADHD Medications" ;)

Hey guess what.

Kids without ADHD lie and steal too.

The worst thing you can possibly do is to link this incident or her impulse to do what she did to "ADHD". You will start down an irriversable path of self esteem devastation.

 I would encourage you to ask yourself this question as you go about your days and nights.......are you helping your child believe that they are somehow debilitated, somehow inferior, somehow excused from achievment, or personal growth because they have ADHD?

Give her no special treatment and make sure she learns the lesson that needs to be learned, for her own self betterment.

ADHD had nothing to do with it.

 

Just a update...........I spoke with a counsellor for kids with ADHD who said it could of been a lot of things, but the main was......she is having toruble with boundaries and not realizing she needs to stay in our 4 acres of yard.  And since her mind wanders sometimes she will

Feeling much better about all now......thanks to everyone for the support