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yes, i was the extremely shy and quiet nerd...

but then again i feel sometimes that I have social anxiety disorder, also....hmm...maybe I need to go get that checked out....

I tend to be very censored, something I've learned from saying too many wrong things. I wouldn't say I'm shy, though. I'm not afraid to speak up in a crowd or to flirt at a party.I am not shy, but I find few people who are interesting enough to talk a lot with.
So, I am somewhat quiet. I'm afraid it is too obvious to others when I'm no longer interested - my wife tells me this about talking to others. So, I'm trying to practice feigning interest just as a politeness/social nicety.
I was VERY talkative as a child. You could not shut me up As I grew older, people started commenting to me MORE AND MORE often about my talkative nature and how inappropriate it was. As time went on, and my "talkative nature" grew and grew, I started to get myself into some real trouble. After the message sunk into me I began to turn in the other direction. Now, even at 45, I am tolthat my "quiet nature" rubs people the wrong way. It hasd cost me a couple of jobes and many social situations that would have otheriwse been fun.
bcgirl...if no one has replied to the "other" poll, you can still delete it, can't you? Or is that not so with polls? Just thought.I know we ADDers have a tendency to be very talkative, but I feel that it is of course not always the case. I'm curious to see the results of this! bump - just trying to put distance between this and the one I goofed.  I'm an odd combination.  I can talk a lot to people I am really comfortable with, and like.  I am very quiet with certain people for whatever reason.  It can take me forever to get to the point of trusting people that I just don't feel comfortable with in my gut.  Other times I can talk to someone in a grocery line that I've never even met just perfectly.  I've never quite understood my inconsistencies.

 I can be very talkative....but I am also shy.  So while some people think I never talk, others pray for me to shut up! LoL

 I also think I tend to keep quiet around 'new' or unfamiliar people because of the way the ADD effects me.  I don't like 'looking stupid,' and I tend to lose my train of thought and go all over the place, especially in uncomfortable situations....so I keep quiet.  I'd never really thought about it like that before, in regards to the ADD.

[QUOTE=ZORG] I was VERY talkative as a child. You could not shut me up As I grew
older, people started commenting to me MORE AND MORE often about my
talkative nature and how inappropriate it was. As time went on, and my
"talkative nature" grew and grew, I started to get myself into some
real trouble. After the message sunk into me I began to turn in the
other direction. Now, even at 45, I am tolthat my "quiet nature" rubs
people the wrong way. It hasd cost me a couple of jobes and many social
situations that would have otheriwse been fun.
[/QUOTE]
ZORG, although my "talkative nature" also got commented on since childhood, and the message was always there, I've never been able to control it, no matter how much it sunk in. My talking cost me plenty of jobs and social situations.    If I'm going somewhere, or starting a new job, I'll tell myself beforehand, Okay, keep your mouth shut! I try, I really try....but my mouth always wins. I'm still working on it, tho. Well, I tend to be very talkative. I will blab on and on about anything and everything. I love to meet new people and I love to tell stories and make people laugh. Sometimes I think I talk too much, my wife has learned to just tune me out:) but I'm like a bottle of soda that has been all shook up and once you remove the cap there is no turning back.
At parties I'm usually a social catapiller. I'm very anxious on the way and then break out of my cocoon as soon as I arrive. (I think I talk a lot just to hide my true nature, wink wink)
I do like to hear stories from others and do a great job of listening, although my attention can wain at times and I want to just add in my 1 cent or jump up and dance:)
Now on the Flip side: Every now and then I go through a phase were I don't want to be around anyone. I just want to sit in the dark with the candles lit, some music on and a kittie in my lap. The only people I can deal with are my wife and kids. I can't even leave the apartment or answer the phone. I call this my rebooting phase-I think my brain just needs to reorganize and take a break(which for me still involves thinking-a lot-, but without as much outside stimulation)
I also can write a ton and love to write. As you can see I have trouble posting anything under 2 paragraphs:)    this is toooo funny.      EVERY ONE in my family tells me that i can go to the grocery store and come out with a new best friend! hahahahahaha  i never really realized it till it was physically pointed out to meabout a month agoI am generally talkative to anyone and everyone, whether they like it or not. But, in large groups I clam up completely.

I am a combination of both. I talk way to much to people I feel comfortable around. I takes me a while to get to know people and how I CAN relate to them to know whether I WANT to talk to them or not.....I don't waste my time on shallow "me,me,me people".........

I am the owner of an antique store so I have to be "ON" all the time when I'm there, but most people are nice, I have to admit....

KIM

depends entirely on the amount of beer I've had 

Mark -

Depends if I'm on Adderall or not. If I am - I want to talk to everybody about everything. If not, I pretty much keep to myself.I am very talkative these days... to all people, but when I was a teenager I didn't say much...

If i get a beer, or a 32, I talk like a waterfall...
I am very shy with people I don't know.  Once I know someone I open up and talk a lot more.  I've been told that my shyness comes accross as being stuck up sometimes too.

I picked the "talkative, but only with family/friends" option.

With new people, or people I don't know very well (like the first 6 months at a new job!) I tend to be extremely shy. Apparently I was really shy when I was little. My parents have told me that I did the "hide behind parents' legs" thing a lot. The one exception to this would be if someone asks me a question about one of my favorite topics... my "zoo" (pets), or ASL, some geek/computer subjects... but anything else? I clam up completely. And big groups freak me out completely, even if I know and feel comfortable with everyone there.

But with family/close friends I can be a total chatterbox. And apparently loud when I get excited! It's like there's something squishing my ADDness when I'm with "normal" people, and when I'm with people that I know accept me and with whom I feel comfortable I let it all go and it just comes flooding out.

I tend to tald to anyone, anytime, anywhere...but with meds...I am alot less compelled to talk...it is really weird....I can communicate better specific topics...but just chatiing or BSing with someone when I take my meds...forget it.

It's very situational for me... I get very quiet when I'm around those who don't know me. I just always get the feeling that the minds of others are just moving at a different pace (slower [ha, ha]) than mine does.

Talking too much has been tough for me. I've gotten myself in way too much trouble without ever knowing that I was annoying anyone, until, I got on medication. Then I realized that I had this need to be the center of attention, without ever thinking that I was acting in such a manner.  Now that I'm on meds it's not that the problem is gone, but, at least I'm aware of it and if I stay consciouness I have the chocie to talk or not talk