Husband has ADD, unemployed | ADHD Information

This is no help I'm afraid, but I can relate to your husband's research-no show behavior- I've spent several days doing adhd research (on me)and am no closer to actually working on my problems. It might be a female solution, but the "limbic tug" of a coach might be helpful, (HOPE= Hello,Obligate,Plan&prioritize, Encourage), while that of a  pregnant wife might be too overwhelming.
 Researching becomes a trap. Is he getting exercise? Does he know how to break things into bite-size bits? Does he belong to any adhd support-groups? Can he be levered from the computer to the real world?  [QUOTE=alohashirt]BTW - has anyone heard of affordable, low cost ADHD coaching?[/QUOTE]

Haven't looked around just yet.  However, this may or may not be useful: 

Turns out that, as ADHD is an official "disability," coaching, meds, etc.. are tax deductible.  This will save me a good bit on the return I just filed.  I may even go back and ammend previous returns as ADHD is hardly "free."
There are some coaches out there with lower fees. Many of the ones with higher fees will also take on some clients for a reduced rate or probono. Quite often if a coach can not take person on for a reduced rate he or she can reccomend somebody who can.Have you guys thought about working with an ADD Coach? Does the carreer counselor that he is seeing having any experience working with adults who have ADD?My husband has ADD, and is on adderall as well as wellbutrin.  He has been out of work for 7 months, and is having a really difficult time making progress with his job search.  He does tons of research, and spends hours and hours perfecting his resume and cover letters, but rarely gets around to sending any out! I think its partly a confidence problem and partly the ADD.  I am getting worried, because right now I am 5 months pregnant with our first child and the only breadwinner. If he doesn't start sending out letters soon, I am afraid we will have no income coming in when the baby comes.  I want so much to be supportive, but my own fears make it really difficult for me to be patient with him.  He is seeing a very expensive career counselor, and yet still is not balancing the research and writing side with the networking and getting his name out there.  We have talked about this so many times, and I know he knows its a big problem, but does not seem to be able to move past it.  Can anyone offer suggestions on how to help him?What kind of a job is he looking for boring office jobs suck for ADD people. Jobs that have been fun for me have been Air Crew Member (Navigator), White Water Rafting Guide, Fire Fighter. Jobs which might make more money and still might be fun include construction and real estate sales. It doesn't matter what your degree is in, try for the fun job.I feel your pain. Actually I have ADD and am gainfully employed, but my
husband, who has not been diagnosed, lost his job 8 months ago. I have
done everything I can to help,revise his resume, look for jobs on the
internet, help him write cover letters, and negotiation letters, to no avail.
He doesn't want to "work" for anyone else, but his self-marketing in his
line of work just doesn't seem to be working. He wants to start his own
business, but the people who wouldn't hire him before are the ones who
would solicit his work. So I'm at a loss. It's making our marriage
untenable, and it was already rocky before. I agree with John K.

It would be great to have an AA like group for ADHD adults.
I just doscovered that a friend of mine also has adult ADHD
and it was so good to speak with another person about their
experience.

BTW - has anyone heard of affordable, low cost ADHD coaching?

For the original poster, and subsequent posters who have to deal with an ADD SO [Significant Other], I honestly hope they will seek – and accept – help. As the “ADD boyfriend” -- and ex-husband – it is absolutely devastating to be unable to hold a romance together. On top of all the other life failures we have faced, this has to be the most painful. Have you mentioned this site or any like it to your SO? Were they at least willing to give it a read? This post hit me right between the eyes:

[QUOTE]Researching becomes a trap. Is he getting exercise? Does he know how to break things into bite-size bits? Does he belong to any ADHD support-groups? Can he be levered from the computer to the real world?  [/QUOTE]

“Paralysis of Analysis.” Story of my life... Examine something to death but never get to square one? I'm thirty-eight years old and only now feel like I may win the battle with that disastrous habit! This is a subject near and dear to my heart as well.  Thank God [or insert your deity/higher-power-of-choice-here] for a girlfriend who just intuitively has the ability to coach without coming off as hostile or preachy.  I tell her frequently she should be a business coach, specializing in those with ADD, depression, and the like.

For myself, I only found this discussion board yesterday.  I find myself spending maybe a bit too much time reading and posting but I think its just the thrill of finding folks who can relate.  Off and on over the years, I've searched for regular, face-to-face meetings -- a la' Alcoholics Anonymous and the like -- specifically for "us."  From nearly fourteen years in AA I can honestly declare that there is nothing quite as helpful as a room full of people with whom we can identify. 

Dang. I need to do some more work. I may add more to this later; time permitting.  Hoping for the best for all involved,

jk

I can understand your fears, my husband with ADD is a slow mover himself and not much of a go getter.  I do find however when the going gets tough he does somehow pull it off so I pray he does for you.  Did I tell you he decided to re-do our spare room when I got pregnant and went into it gun ho,I mean tore the walls to re-insulate then got lost his motivation. This 4 weeks before my child was born I had tools and a shop vac and other various things all over my house.  With the nesting instinct going on, 8 months pregnant and my house a mess, i cried for days.  Finally my brothers came over and cleaned it up for me and helped him finish the day before I came home with our baby girl now 5.  Now my child takes after dad  and both are sweet .  Good luck