Alone time or not? | ADHD Information
Oh YES! I definitely would rather be alone for most of the day, first off cause I'm a student and second off I get distracted SO easily. I also need time alone to think, this is wierd cause it just happened to me yesterday. Considering the fact that I'm in this very difficult dilemma, I told my husband to please go downstairs cause I need to be alone. At first he was mad, but I think by NOW, after 8 years that he should know me by now. I'm thinking about taking my tests in a separate room away from students because I think most of my problems on tests are related to being sensitive to external stimuli. Like, when I'm taking a test, I keep thinking about the class and other things, I can't explain it. But all I know is I HATE TESTS AND I NEED HELP AND I HOPE THE SCHOOL WILL GIVE IT TO ME!!!! Sorry, I'm really frustrated and I think I need to be alone now!
Me too, to some extent. While I like to be alone most of the time, every once in a while I do feel an urge to just want to be around people (maybe out or boredom, or maybe just because it's human nature to be social?).
I wouldn't say, myself, that I'm anxious around people - I'm actually comfortable with people, so that may not be the reason I like to be alone. I'm especially outgoing with people that I know, or even people with whom I've simply broken the ice with. Those people will say that I tend to talk too much actually!
Perhaps it's what they do? I very much like to be in a controlled situation, and it seems that the more people get invovled, the more chaotic it becomes. That is, for instance, why I don't like to go to bars, clubs, or big parties... I'm afraid people will do something stupid.
Maybe this is an OC attribute of ADD???? Any ideas?A few other threads have me wondering about this topic. While everyone needs some alone-time to just be away from other people (for whatever reason), I wonder if AD(H)D has anything to do with it.
I, for example, am discovering that I require alone-time at least 75% of the time... I'm even beginning to wonder if it's healthy. If I don't get my alone-time, I start to feel out of control I guess... it's a chaotic feeling. I think the computer also draws me to this sort of "habit"....
What do you all think?
I am very anti social myself, but I go through stages, I want to be alone for months, then I flip to the other side and need to be around people.
Sometimes I am real timid, and other times I am confident and agressive, I am by no means a witty person, not real functioning interaction skills so I usually feel consious about being around people too long. But I am Bi-polar myself.
I wanted to vote twice because I have to have alone time...and if I have stuff I like to do ...I could keep my alone time ongoing without any others to interfere...if I am board...then I tend to want someone around until they bore me then I need more alone time....I voted constantly wanting alone time because currently I have tons of projects that I love to do and I want to be alone to do them...Many people claim that I led them on to thinking that I was outgoing when in fact I need lots of time by myself. Even with medication I still feel like I pick up too much noise from being around people. I'm easily overstimulated and as a result end up exhausted. It's like a vicious cycle for me. I like being with people but the after effects and noise just wears me out.
After being around people it seems like their voices and what they have said get trapped inside my head, I can't really hear what they are saying but I am able to recognize their voices all blended together. It seems to take a while to process it out of me. I really find it irksome.
I need both. One philosophical statement that has stuck with me for years now goes like this: We are defined by the nature of our relationships with others. I find the idea motivating -often but sometimes daunting when I feel alone when I am with others.Ghead
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Also, to ditzy.... as an intermediate step with regard to tests, try those foam earplugs. I personally found that I concentrate better if I'm physically in the room with the other test takers but can't hear them too clearly.
< =""> gearhead38429.0036111111I've always described myself as an extroverted recluse. An oxymoron, I know....but that's me!
[QUOTE=gearhead] I need both. One philosophical statement that has stuck with me for years now goes like this: We are defined by the nature of our relationships with others. I find the idea motivating -often but sometimes daunting when I feel alone when I am with others.
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Also, to ditzy.... as an intermediate step with regard to tests, try those foam earplugs. I personally found that I concentrate better if I'm physically in the room with the other test takers but can't hear them too clearly.
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If the school don't allow me to take the test in another room i'll definitely try that, thanks.
I still feel like I pick up too much noise from being around people. I'm easily overstimulated and as a result end up exhausted. It's like a vicious cycle for me. I like being with people but the after effects and noise just wears me out.
After being around people it seems like their voices and what they have said get trapped inside my head, I can't really hear what they are saying but I am able to recognize their voices all blended together. It seems to take a while to process it out of me. I really find it irksome.
[/QUOTE]I can identify with that. I constantly long for alone time. And it's usually because I feel so much more sane when I'm alone. I can only concentrate on something after I've gotten my brain into the right state to accept the task. I really LIKE to work but no one would know it because I can't do it around people. So I waste a lot of my time at work, intending to do it at home. Then I get home and this person wants this from me and that person wants that and then I find myself back at work, having done none of my work! ack! It's the voices! And the expectations! (They're almost as loud as the voices.)
When I'm alone for long enough, it's sometimes surprising what I can accomplish. But it always feels like there's a certain amount of time (even alone) that I have to spend doing certain things (like this, for example) to sort of soothe my brain into accepting the tasks I've put off all week with intentions of accomplishing them on the weekend. I will NEVER, NEVER catch up this way. never. haha.
Unfortunately, since I found out earlier today that I have to go celebrate a birthday tonight (and I don't know yet what time), it is very unlikely that I will accomplish much of the 2 or 3 days worth of work I have to finish this weekend. I'll just keep thinking, 'do I have to get dressed now? do I have time to finish this other thing before I have to go? because if I only do it halfway, I'll have to start over when I get home b/c I won't remember what state of mind I was in when I started it.' sigh.
I need to have people around me most of the time. Else i feel anxious... but I also tend to get claustrophobic if I can't have enough alone time.... I am very Introvert.. but appear Extrovert in some cases...