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I AM AT A CALL CENTER, AT MY JOB, TRYING TO TALK ON THE PHONE, AND THERE IS AN "INDIVIDUAL" STANDING OVER HERE, FRATRANIZING, NOT WHERE SHE IS SUPPOSED TO BE, MIND YOU, AND SHE IS SMACKING CHEWING GUM!!!!!!!!!!
HER MOUTH IS HANGING WIDE OPEN, AND YOU CAN HEAR HER SALIVA AND CHEWING GUM ALL THE WAY OVER HERE!!
I AM GOING TO TAKE A SPOON AND GOUGE MY EARS OUT IF SHE DOES NOT LEAVE AND GO BACK WHERE SHE IS SUPPOSED TO BE IN HER OWN WORK AREA VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!
whew, ok, i just had to get that out...
pregnancy hormones and ad/hd quirks do not mix well...
sonya_h38439.6933680556do you have adhd?
There is another thread somewhere in this forum that talks about the ad/hd quirkds...i know that a LOT of ad/hders HATE mouth sounds!!
this was a moderate irritation for me in the first place, that really got on my nerves...
but since i have been pregnant, this irritation has went from moderate>to SEVERE> to downright INTOLERABLE TORTURE!!
sonya_h38439.7462268519
I know what you mean and it must be the hormones. When I was pregnant with my son I was sitting in a meeting and a co-worker was sitting behind me eating his lunch. Well, he would always eat with his mouth open, smacking away, food flying everywhere. It got sooooo bad that all I could hear was him eating and tuned out the speaker at the meeting. I finally turned around and said, "ALAN, ENOUGH ALREADY!!!". Well, I guess it was loud enough that the speaker stopped speaking and everyone looked at me in disbelief. Alan just told everyone, "Its ok, she's pregnant". While they laughed I couldn't believe that no one else was bothered by his slurping and smacking. Am I the only one who hears this?????
Anyway, I just think it is funny how things can get to a person at certain times. All I can say is stay calm and keep the spoons away from your desk!!!
Hee hee hee... if that was the edited version of your message, I'd love to see the original!!Yeah, pregnancy and adhd are an interesting combination! It just spaced me the heck out- I'd spend hours upon hours every day in neverland.
UUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THEY ARE DOING IT AGAIN TODAY YOU GUYS!! WHERE IS MY SPOON????
Now there's something I would have to do also! Urgh! I once had tapes I bought of the hypnotist that helped me quit smoking. I just couldn't listen to them, because you could hear his dry mouth and lips smacking together. (We need a smiley icon w/finger sticking down throat.) May I suggest you gouge THEIR ears and not yours with that spoon! I'll even hold them for you!GypsyWomyn38440.614212963or rather, i would not mind ripping their tongues out ALONG with the chewing gum and throwing the whole lot away. sonya_h38440.6199768518
Ok Sonya, get that person over here and have them read this message.......
Hey you, gum smacker, do ya think you can keep the gum as well as your saliva in your mouth and at your workstation! You see, I can hear you all the way over here in Illinois and it is disgusting me! Too hear you slurp your way thru a stick of gum makes me want to vomit as well as find you and shove the piece down your throat. So it is in your best interest to take your chewing gum, your spit and the class that you are lacking, and get the @$@% out of here!!!
Ok, that should do it!!! This is easy when you are PMSing.
[QUOTE=kfranks]When I was pregnant a woman you sat in the desk next to me would always wear Ralph Lauren perfum. I used to love the smell. All around her desk smelled great. She told me she had the shower gel, body lotion, the whole nine yards. It never used to bother me until.......I was pregnant. I think it got really bad when I was 6-7 months along. One day I walked in and the smell hit me when I walked through the office door. Never noticed it before at the office door. As I walked closer to my desk I started to get sick to my stomach and then I couldn't even sit next to her. I did have to tell her that her perfum made me sick, literally, and I couldn't stand to be around her or her desk. I told her it was from the pregnancy, hormones and all, and she understood. Since we were pretty good friends she didn't take it to heart and she cut back drastically on her morning regement until my son was born. After that, things were back to normal.[/QUOTE]
Ugh.... I'm not pregnant, but perfumes like that still really bother
me. I can't wear it myself, and if someone else is wearing it and is
near me for any length of time, I get a vicious headache. I think the
stuff should be banned from poorly ventilated office buildings.ANY scent bothers me if it lingers for any length of time. My boyfriend spilled French Vanilla coffee on our couch one day a couple of weeks ago, and the smell kept wafting past my nose for days. I LOVE French Vanilla coffee, but it didn't take long before that smell REALLY got to me.
LOL!!!!
this is what I did: I went over and confidentialy talked a supervisor (one of the ones who understands me) and I had an ink pen in my hand;
I asked the supervisor, what is the policy on chewing gum? she said, that we are really not supposed to have it, but some people chew it anyway. I very quietly explained to her, that I was going to take this inkpen, here, and I was going to jab it deep into my ear until I was deaf, unless she did something about this "individual's" popping and chewing with her mouth wide open. I then gently explained to her, if THAT didn't work, then I would be killing myself.
Later on, she put up a little pop up note on the computer to the entire department reminding everyone of the gum policy...
IT WORKED!!!!
ahh,,, the splendid relief!
AHHHHH!!!!! The power of pregnancy!!!!!
You go girl!!!!
(its nice to know i live vicariously through others)
Us ad/hders tend to be much more sensitive to with our senses anyway, be they sounds, smells, or touches, even certain sights....that's why we have so many little quirks and things that other people do, or smells that get on our nerves...
that is also part of the reason why we can't focus very well, we are extremely sensitive to our surroundings, and can't drown out things that are "attracting" our other senses when we are supposed to be doing work, or other things...
We ad/hders also tend to be a little bit emotional at times--with our emotions, some of us tend to linger on the "extreme" ends of the scales at times, no matter what emotion we are dealing with...
and plus that, your senses AND emotions go hay-wire while you are pregant, anyway, no matter if you're an ad/hder, or not..
put ad/hd and pregnancy all together, and you can have a potentially lethal combination, i have recently found.
Just wait, bc girl!! One day, perhaps, you will find yourself pregnant...--you think smells bother you now?? JUST WAIT!! something as simple as a split-second whiff of your french vanilla will send you running to the toilet!!! I used to LOVE cinnamon candy before I got pregnant....I had some cinnamon candy in my pocketbook in my house one day, it was two whole rooms away!!...I HAD TO SEND MY HUSBAND TO THAT ROOM AND HAVE HIM GET THE CANDY AND GO THROW IT OUT BECAUSE TO ME, IT WAS "STINKING" UP THE WHOLE HOUSE (i could smell it from 2 rooms away), AND I WASN'T ABLE TO GO NEAR IT!!
luckily, for most women (unfortunately, not all of them though) the morning sickness only lasts for the first trimester, and then it starts getting better...it did for me, although, right now, once in a blue moon, i still have those days...
But my EARS!! I JUST CAN'T STAND THE SOUND OF CERTAIN THINGS!!! it is SO MUCH WORSE, now than it used to be. At certain lectures that I go to listen to every week, if the speaker has a dry mouth, I HAVE TO LITTERALLY GET UP AND LEAVE!! I CAN BARELY SLEEP BESIDE MY HUSBAND ANYMORE, BECAUSE HE SNORES WAY TO BADLY, PLUS, HE WHEN HE TURNS TOWARD ME, HE STARTS BREATHING ALL OVER ME, and I feel suffocated!!! there are people around me that have colds (PLUS they smoke), and the SOUND OF THE MUCUS rolling around their throats are enough right now to RUN ME TO THE LOONEY BIN!!!!
i think i will go mentally insane before this child gets here...
I am also affected by certain scents, if too strong. I stopped going to this bar in Portland, Maine, because the bartender wore Polo, which I absolutely couldn't stand! However, I'm guilty, too. I wore Pachouli oil one day to a job, and got many complaints. I was asked not to wear it again. No problemo. They obviously didn't remember the 60s and 70s. Some clothes I still have from that era still carry the smell....and yes, I've washed 'em since 1970!
Sonya,
I have never been tested or diagnosed, but by looking back at myself as a child and now raising an ADHD/ODD 15 yo, there are too many similarities. And still today I find it very hard to read a book or listen to a speaker without wandering somewhere off in lala land. I can't even clean my house without being torn away by the silliest thing. I have never been able to focus on anything long enough to understand it.
I don't know if smells are getting to you also. When I was pregnant a woman you sat in the desk next to me would always wear Ralph Lauren perfum. I used to love the smell. All around her desk smelled great. She told me she had the shower gel, body lotion, the whole nine yards. It never used to bother me until.......I was pregnant. I think it got really bad when I was 6-7 months along. One day I walked in and the smell hit me when I walked through the office door. Never noticed it before at the office door. As I walked closer to my desk I started to get sick to my stomach and then I couldn't even sit next to her. I did have to tell her that her perfum made me sick, literally, and I couldn't stand to be around her or her desk. I told her it was from the pregnancy, hormones and all, and she understood. Since we were pretty good friends she didn't take it to heart and she cut back drastically on her morning regement until my son was born. After that, things were back to normal.
Maybe you can tell this gum smacker that because of your hormones certain things are getting to you and one of them is the "gum chewing". Maybe she will be compassionate towards you and when she is around you, not chew so hard. Its just a thought....but then again she might do it more just to piss you off.....but still, keep the spoons off your desk!!!!!
Hope things go a little better for you!!
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ugh!!!!
I forgot about how MUCH I hated this one!! Let me guess, i'll bet
he sounded like snot was dripping all over his reading material, didn't
it? And let me guess, i'll bet he sounded like he wasn't
sniffling "efficiently" enough, like gurgling through his nose! I HATE
THIS ONE!! PEOPLE, JUST GO BLOW YOUR NOSES!! IT'S SO SIMPLE!!
Ooh this one can be tougher than it seems. When I was a kid, I had chronic allergies. I still do in the fall, but when I was a kid it was all the time. I had snot on my sleeves all the time, sniffling and gurgling always. My dad once joked with me that sniffling drove him nuts, and each time he gave me a hankerchief it would come back weighing 5 pounds lol. When you have chronic allergies you are literally a snot factory, and any amount you blow is replaced in seconds. The only way to avoid an extremely painful nose rash is to just suck it in and swallow it down, becasue all that nose blowing takes a huge toll after a while.
scarygreengiant- i didn't mean to sound insensitive. the post was all about how i was feeling about it. it was less about judging the sniffler. fortunately my behaviour isn't as impulsive as my thoughts. i'm in enough trouble as it is.
btw- i was a kid with a faucet for a nose too. i had severe hayfever and was clogged and overflowing at the nostrils from April thru the first frost or two in Sept./Oct. every single year from the age of ten or so. it was terrible. even now that i live in Colorado away from many of those allergens, i still sometimes have days so bad nobody can even understand what i'm saying!
how about this for a question- are allergies more prevalent amongst us than in the general population? maybe this is an entirely different thread.
seeker- I get really bad allergies in the fall and spring, and I have sensitive sinuses. I used to get sinus infections all the time in high school, not so much now, but if I get a cold I have it forever.
I have a cold right now that the rest of my family had, but got over in a few days. My nose has been dripping like mad and I'm always sniffling or blowing my nose. I feel really bad about it because I know it grosses other people out- it grosses me out and it's coming out of MY face.
ARGH! my roomate just came in and started eating a sloppy gross sandwich and she NEVER closes her mouth when she chews. and she is ALWAYS eating. it is so disgusting. oh, good, now her jaw is popping. GROSS!
illhtac38447.5174189815Yes, I agree with seeker. We did not mean to offend those "nose faucets"
out there...it was more about how we feel, and what's going on inside our head at the moment. just like the gum smackers., if we ourselves were smacking the gum, it tastes so good to us, we would never notice. just like we know how miserable it is to have a nose that is being a "faucet" at the moment....
it was just another one of those "quirks" we were mentioning, not one that we necessarily wanted to DO ANYTHING about. Just another one of those things.
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The only way to avoid an extremely painful nose rash is to just suck it in and swallow it down, becasue all that nose blowing takes a huge toll after a while.
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OMG....how gross, I have officially started my diet........teehee
[QUOTE=seeker63]
then, there was this kid siting a bout 20 or
30 feet away, and a few times every minute he would sniffle. the sound
was unbearable to me. sniff, sniff, sniff, sniff, ............ i was so
irritated i thought about getting a box of tissues and pummeling him
while lecturing him at the top of my voice about how to handle bodily
functions w/out disgusting others.[/QUOTE]
Hey be a little more sensitive (emotionally). When I was a kid my nose was a snot factory.
Whenever I tried to blow my nose people would get annoyed and yell at
me to stop so I would try to hold it in and I ended up sniffling. Then
people would get mad at me for sniffling and tell me to blow my nose! 
They were the ones who got mad at me in the first place for blowing my nose!
You just can't please everyone. In the end I just decided to blow my
nose every few seconds. It is the slightly less miserable option
because at least you get relieved for a few seconds. I can't stand having that stuff dripping down my throat. Unfortunately, with my AD/HD memory I would often forget to bring tissues with me. The kid is probably embarassed with his snot nose already. Trust me, it's a much bigger annoyance for him than it is for you. Fortunately, I started to outgrow my snot nose as I got older.
When I was working at one job, there was a guy who constantly *sniffed* and it drove me crazy.
Then I thought, perhaps he was doing coke. Or had allergies (but you can still blow your nose if it's allergies!). Now I think he could have even had either Tourettes or ADHD. But it was the ONE time I didn't embarrass myself by asking him to "blow his nose." Good girl, Gypsy!GypsyWomyn38447.453287037 "Trivial stuff like that never bothers men." See, that'll teach ya, floof, to think twice before saying such a 'generalized' comment on the board, eh? Remember, I think many of us really take things literally, I know I do. Heheh, I knew I'd get a rise out of you ladies with that one. I know
you guys wanna comisserate about things that bug you and thats fine. However, I have to admit that my ADD works exactly the opposite of what you all are describing. I usually begin to notice my coworkers when they start throwing things at me. Then I say, 'huh?' I'm usually a million miles away from the real world, so really, details never bug me. If some sight or sound is enough to capture my attention, It's usually something that endangers life and limb.
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a's mom38460.7490509259 [QUOTE=a's mom]*laughing* Like a mad woman? 
Yes, this I notice. :) However, just because I pointed out a generalized difference between men and women, doesn't mean I intended to be negative. There are big differences after all.
I remember one time a friend of mine and I were in the mall with our respective girlfriends. We passed by some soap store or something, don't remember the name. The girls went in there and got to work smelling everything in the store and dicussing each item at length. For like 20 minutes we waited for them.
We had to laugh because, it seemed absolutely inconceivable to us that anyone would pay real money for a particular smell.... There are differences, and that's fine.
Hey floof my longlost pal :)
I can't be around anyone who wears perfume or flowery moisturizer, because I am allergic to almost all nature flower scents...nothin to do with adhd or being a silly neurotic woman...just don't wanna get all itchy and sneezy.
The only enjoyable smell for me is food.
Floof:
is a "generalized difference between men and women" that women are insane and neurotic, while men are not? Do I misunderstand?
i was in the library the other day, and i've been experiencing this.
on two different occasions i heard this small strange noise like a tiny bicycle pump or something it was driving me nuts! i was ready to find the offender and smack him. it was the most irritating thing.
then, there was this kid siting a bout 20 or 30 feet away, and a few times every minute he would sniffle. the sound was unbearable to me. sniff, sniff, sniff, sniff, ............ i was so irritated i thought about getting a box of tissues and pummeling him while lecturing him at the top of my voice about how to handle bodily functions w/out disgusting others. but i just left and tried to think how funny it is that something so insignificant could get to me so easily. have a laugh on me and my silly idiosyncracies.
[QUOTE=seeker63]then, there was this kid siting a bout 20 or 30 feet away, and a few times every minute he would sniffle. the sound was unbearable to me. sniff, sniff, sniff, sniff, ............ i was so irritated i thought about getting a box of tissues and pummeling him while lecturing him at the top of my voice about how to handle bodily functions w/out disgusting others.[/QUOTE]
ugh!!!! I forgot about how MUCH I hated this one!! Let me guess, i'll bet he sounded like snot was dripping all over his reading material, didn't it? And let me guess, i'll bet he sounded like he wasn't sniffling "efficiently" enough, like gurgling through his nose! I HATE THIS ONE!! PEOPLE, JUST GO BLOW YOUR NOSES!! IT'S SO SIMPLE!!
i have a solution for my trips to the library now, however (because otherwise, i would go crazy with the quiet atmosphere, which illuminates all of the most irratating sounds)..i carry my CD walkman with me every time I go! that way I can listen to music while I do my work....
OH, and yesterday, I went to a prenatal appointment...I needed lots of tests done, they would do one thing, then send me to another waiting room, and then do something else, and then send me to another waiting room....
EVERY COTTON-PICKING WAITING ROOM I WENT TO, I FOUND MYSELF SITTING RIGHT IN FRONT SOME DIFFERENT LADY SMACKING ON CHEWING GUM!! I WANTED TO FLING MYSELF IN FRONT OF A BUS, THEY WERE SO IRRATATING...
i mean, ARE WE SUPPOSED TO BE COW-LIKE, CUD CHEWERS?
HMMM....I JUST GOT AND IDEA...next time i will take my CD walkman with me into the doctors office!! BRILLIANT!!
Oh boy Floof, you have really upset some people in this forum. Not only are you being a sexist pig by using the phrase "typical female" but you have also pissed off a bunch of those "typical females" or so you call them!! Let me ask you a few questions? Are you married? If so, is there something that she might do that bothers you, anything at all like humming around the house or picking at her nails? Anything like that? If not then your life must be pretty sedate and perfect. Any co-workers that get on your nerves?? Any cars that go past your house that you pray will break down completey so you don't have to hear it anymore. I find it hard that there is not one "trivial thing" that bothers you.
Hey, women, I had a landlord who would stand in the stairwell between our apartments and clip his nails (was probably in hallway cuz his wife couldn't stand the sound either. ) OOOH, I don't know why, but I can't stand hearing someone clipping their nails, unless it's myself! I guess it's probably because I'm an insane, neurotic woman. GypsyWomyn38442.5996990741[QUOTE=GypsyWomyn] I truly envy you that there is nothing that offends your olfactory senses. 
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I'll have to introduce him to my dog, after she's eaten her favourite tripe-flavoured dog food.
Oooh boy.
[QUOTE=floofthegoof]I think what you guys are describing is just typical female insanity/neurosis. Trivial stuff like that never bothers men. Even ADD ones. [/QUOTE]
I DON'T KNOW IF YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID THIS, you may have touched a strong nerve, up in here...--ESPECIALLY, considering that the audience you are talking to includes an irritable PREGNANT lady WITH ADD just waiting for the opportunity to for a debate!!
But for your info, my husband does have ad/hd (yes, we both do) and he DOES have little aversions, and AD/HD quirks, but not to the same things I do...
as mentioned before in another ADD quirks thread a while ago, lots of us hate certain commercials. GOSH, MY HUSBAND IS THE KING OF COMMERCIAL HATING!! He complains all day over one commercial he thinks is stupid, and he will RUN and find the remote and race to turn the TV off over a particular commerical that he hates....
As mentioned in one of those other threads, HE IS NOT THE ONLY ADDer that does this!! There are other ad/hders that can't stand certain commercials...
and then, there are lots of other ad/hd quirks that my husband has, (too many to mention) and although they are not the same ones that I hate, THEY DO INCLUDE SOUNDS THAT HE HATES TO HEAR (like mouth sounds), smells, and tastes, (which makes him the best cook that I know...) AND LOTS OVER OTHER THINGS THAT THE "WOMEN" IN HERE MENTIONED!!
you need to get your facts straight before you have the audacity to mention such a sexist point of view up in here.
sonya_h38442.4930092593[QUOTE=floofthegoof] I think what you guys are describing is just typical female insanity/neurosis. Trivial stuff like that never bothers men. Even ADD ones. [/QUOTE]Too bad there wasn't a laughing or winking smiley icon following your statement. I think it would have been swollowed much easier by us insane, neurotic women.
BTW, I'd like to see the results, floofthegoof, of a world-wide survey that proves that men are never bothered by trivial stuff like that. I truly envy you that there is nothing that offends your olfactory senses. Sonya..... save your ears and the spoon. My answer is to fire up the wood chipper and put the offending party through it! Feet first of course.... that way you get to watch the look their face
I wore Pachouli oil one day to a job, and got many complaints. I was asked not to wear it again. No problemo. They obviously didn't remember the 60s and 70s.
Gyps,
I used to wear pachouli oil in the 80's for a bit! I saw a lotion with it when I was in Veromont this summer. Was almost tempted to buy it.
Just like you, I also hate strong perfume odors. I worked in a supermarket back in college and many customers would wear perfume. The worst was the Elizabeth Taylor one. I thought it smelled like urine. It was so disgusting!
< =""> I think what you guys are describing is just typical female insanity/neurosis. Trivial stuff like that never bothers men. Even ADD ones. [QUOTE=floofthegoof]I think what you guys are describing is just typical female insanity/neurosis. Trivial stuff like that never bothers men. Even ADD ones. [/QUOTE]
How WRONG you are!!! My husband who is not add hates perfume too.
It's trivial to you because you aren't chemically sensitive. You are really fortunate. It's an attitude like your's that causes so much pain for people with ADD. I certainly hope noone TRIVIALIZES your ADD!
Unfortunately many people with add are also chemically sensitive. Then there are people who don't have ADD, aren't chemically sensitive but just hate the invasion of odors to invade their space.
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[QUOTE=floofthegoof]I think what you guys are describing is just typical female insanity/neurosis. Trivial stuff like that never bothers men. Even ADD ones. [/QUOTE]
Hey Floof, are you saying this as a neurotic female or as the man who isn't bothered by "trivial stuff"?
When I was pregnant (1st time), I became instantly sick by the smell of cooking hamburger. If I smelled hamburger cooking, I'd have run and lock myself in my bedroom. It was the worst! I was fortunate that my other 3 pregnancies didn't cause me any problems.[QUOTE=sonya_h] Let me guess, i'll bet he sounded like snot was dripping all over his reading material, didn't it? And let me guess, i'll bet he sounded like he wasn't sniffling "efficiently" enough, like gurgling through his nose! I HATE THIS ONE!! PEOPLE, JUST GO BLOW YOUR NOSES!! IT'S SO SIMPLE!![/QUOTE]
Perhaps he had AD(H)D and had forgotten his handkerchief? Happened to me all the time as a kid, one of my nick-names was 'Snotty'.
Mark -
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Perhaps he had AD(H)D and had forgotten his handkerchief? Happened to me all the time as a kid, one of my nick-names was 'Snotty'.
Mark -
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You crack me up. Next time I hear a kid sniffing - "snotty" is going to run through my monologue ...
[QUOTE=Laurala]Floof:is a "generalized difference between men and women" that women are insane and neurotic, while men are not? Do I misunderstand?
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men are showing signs of STRESS and "ANXIETY". How could they be Neurotic.
Too Much Testostrone.
