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I just wanted to say how relieved I am to hear that other people are having the same problems I've always had (and didn't know why!)...  I just found this board today (while "researching a paper") and suddenly I feel like less of a loser because I'm in college and have never had a boyfriend, etc...  I'm sure the list goes on for us all.

Anyway, thanks, and I'm happy you found someone who fits so well with you

 I had the same problem for years. My boyfriend now I keep saying is too good to be true. When I get easily frustrated or overreact to things like we ADDers tend to do, he doesn't get upset at me. He understands. I'm not talking about this to rub it in anyone's face, just to let you all know it's possible. There are understanding, wonderful people out there.

that is so encouraging.  my younger sister is a freshman in college and she has a pretty serious boyfriend, and my best friend has a boyfriend, my roomate has a boyfriend, you get the picture.  their relationships seem to me like dating a puppy, though- he follows her around, fetches things for her, keeps her toes warm, and she gives him treats and rubs his belly.  I want somebody who will be there, just not all the time and doesn't like me just because I'm nice to him, but because I'm me.  I just want perfection, is that really too much to ask?

I've never really had a serious boyfriend, only a few guys that I really cared about, but I always flirt with them then push them away because I think that I'm not good enough for them.  Then they hate me, or think that I hate them, and I think that I'm just a total idiot for pushing away the people that I really care about. 

ever since I turned 20 it seems like my mom thinks that I'll never 'catch me a man' and is trying to set me up with every guy within 10 years of my age that she knows.  it's good to know that there are guys out there willing to put up with adders bs and that I'm not stupid for waiting for one.

 I just wanted to tell you all i've found a wonderful boyfriend. We've been together some months now but he's so good to me, and for me. He's understanding and knows me well. He  kept track of my keys and helps me stay on topic. He was patient with all the b-s I put him through with my "I don't need anybody" and my "relationships aren't my thing" and was good to me through all of it.
 I just wanted you to all know that it is possible. It's possible to have good relationships, get degrees, do well at work. It's hard usually, but it can happen. I'm glad you found a boyfriend that you're happy with.  I've never been in any serious relationships. Because I've dealt with undiagnosed AD/HD my whole life, I have a low self-esteem complex. When a guy shows interest me I'm receptive at first but if he wants to pursue any relationship beyond a friendship I immediately push him away because I think, "No one would ever love me if they found out what a loser I was." I've spent my whole life trying to hide my shortcomings so if I got into a relationship with someone they would notice my shortcomings and see that I am just a loser. I'm very afraid of that.  Plus, what if they don't believe me when I tell them about AD/HD? But I am happy for you Dessert. Thanks for the encouragement.