Boy Princessbride
Did you hit that on the head. Often If I don't interupt and explain my concept and idea's on the conversation its lost. I wonder if its because we can't multitask when it comes to remembering. Maybe we can't store what we want to say and what they say at the same time. So we unload what we have to say as quickly as we can so we can get back to listening comfortably without the need to express ourselves and fear of forgetting our great point.
Oddly that makes sense to me, I am sure its gooblygook to others hehe
Hi,
I also struggle with not interrupting! Ihave ADD and mostly inattentive though I do have some impulsive in me as well. No hyperactive though! Anyways, I will be listening to my fiance talk and then will think of something random and have a hard time waiting for him to finish to tell him what I thought of. I think I do that because I KNOW that I will definitely forget in 2 seconds if i can't say it right then and then it will drive me nuts wondering what it was that I was going to tell him. I am working on it but it is still difficult. He thinks I dont enjoy listening to what he has to say and he bores me but thats not true. I always enjoy listening to him! i feel bad when this stuff happens! At least he understands my randomness. He is random too so we'll both be talking and then we'll both say whatever pops into our heads. its hilarious! It is hard for me to stay on one topic for long lol.
Reading kelly's post about her good relationship prompted me to start this thread.
I really think that my talking too much is a major failing in my personality and something that I would love to be able to control.
I can talk for hours and never let the other person get a word in. I come away from conversations knowing nothing new about the other person as I don't give them a chance to say anything. Even on the rare occasions I ask them a question I interrupt with my own internal dialogue and either don't listen to the answer or don't give them a chance to speak.
I'm pretty sure that my innability to ever shut up must be very very annoying, along with interrupting, and not listening to what anyone says. I'm articulate in what I say, but I may come across as self absorbed.
My boyfriend thinks I am wonderful but it drives him mental when I interrupt and finish his sentences for him, or just don't listen to what he's saying because I'm too busy talking.
Im trying to listen more, but it is very difficult and sometimes I forget. People assume I don't value their opinions enough to want to listen to what they have to say.
I wonder how I can articulate that if I don't listen to him it doesn't mean I don't care about his feelings, or about what he is saying.
I wonder if I should try harder to change, or he should try to be more understanding.
Does anyone else have this problem?