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I am constantly called a "complainer". I know its my frustrations dealing with simple things others take for granted but it annoys me. Then I start grumbling about it all.

I am quick to pick up on simple nuances every day. Things others say are no big deal but aggravate me. Like veering off the daily routine, for example.

Normally I am very goofy and love fun, but I am often labled a complainer.

Good Morning, Reizende! I also am told I'm a "complainer." However, if I make a remark about something, and then am told 'quit complaining," I respond that I'm not complaining, just stating a fact, an observance. For example, if I say 'It's cold,' I'm told to quit complaining. I'm not complaining, I'm just stating that it's cold. I even happen to like the cold. Hey, perhaps they believe I'm complaining because they don't like the cold.

Oh, okay, so maybe I do complain some. But like you say, Reizende, we pick up on subtle things that can be real annoying to us. It's not like we're hypochondriacs, always complaining, oh, whow is me, this hurts, this aches, I'm gonna die.   

Of late, I have been trying to think before opening my mouth, and actually putting myself in the other person's shoes and how they (I) may react to what I'm about to say. It's not always easy, and it's gonna take a lot of practice, practice, practice. GypsyWomyn38443.3887384259I remember talking to a friend in high school about something and her looking straight at me and saying "You sure do complain a lot, dont you?" I remember being shocked, bc I was not actually complaining at the time, but just commenting on something.
I have a feeling that people with adhd can come across as complaining, when we're just making a statement- I'm honestly not sure how to recognize it, though. Same for me! On both counts. We ADDers are not negative by nature, just more susceptible to the ups and downs of daily life. While people may think I'm a whiner or something because, for example, the Dietary department's total incompetence is driving me absolutely crazy, they could not understand the depth of my amusement to come home and see my cat dropping twist ties into my shoes...  we're alittle bit like bipolar people in that we get more of the highs and lows. Not that we're depressed or anxious necessarily, just that we notice a broader spectrum. [QUOTE=chocoholic] I remember talking to a friend in high school about something and her looking straight at me and saying "You sure do complain a lot, dont you?" I remember being shocked, bc I was not actually complaining at the time, but just commenting on something.
I have a feeling that people with adhd can come across as complaining, when we're just making a statement- I'm honestly not sure how to recognize it, though. [/QUOTE]

Here's a whine....Now why can't I say what I posted above in fewer words like you did, Chocoholic? Why couldn't I just say: I'm told I'm complaining when I'm just commenting on something. Plain and simple. Huh? Boy, I not only talk too much, I type too much.