Does anyone else have trouble with transitions? I have trouble dealing with change in general, and it takes me a long time to get used to new situations and even ones that aren't new when I've been somewhere else. I just got back to school from a week off and I feel very displaced. It takes me a while to get back into the routine of school and getting used to living with the people here vs. the people at home.
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I think the this part of your post about transition is fairly normal, for most people, ADHDers and non-ADHDers. I personally don't have any problem with transitions. I know when I've returned from traveling or having lived in another city and return to my home town, it may take a while to acclimate again to being 'home.' But I think that's expected, and I even enjoy the feeling sometimes, since I happen to like change. Some people don't like change, and others do. However, the rest of your post sounds like other posts I've read on this Board.
I can make myself at home just about anywhere, anytime. I tend to do this right away at other people's homes, too. Some seem pleased that I do make myself at home at their place, but others think I'm a bit nervy to help myself to a glass in their cupboard for water, etc. (Of course, I ask where the glasses are first. )
Of course, I have always had the difficulty of making friends. And since the transition of a new job usually take me about a half a day, I'm not fondly received by my co-workers. I'm sure they probably think I have "nerve" feeling so comfortable and thinking I fit in so easily so quickly. And there begins my problems with co-workers.
Does anyone else have trouble with transitions? I have trouble dealing with change in general, and it takes me a long time to get used to new situations and even ones that aren't new when I've been somewhere else. I just got back to school from a week off and I feel very displaced. It takes me a while to get back into the routine of school and getting used to living with the people here vs. the people at home.
I have had trouble with this forever. It seems like it just takes me so long to get going that I start out behind everyone else. It takes me about a year to get used to a new school- my first year of middle school, high school, and college were hell because it took all of my energy just to get through the day and figure things out (not to mention trying to have to make new friends and talk to people all day!) that I didn't have much left for school work, so I spend the next few years trying to make up for my bad grades and trying to make friends when everyone else did the first few weeks. Even small transitions are a little bit difficult for me like if I've been home alone for a while and ohter people come back I get really annoyed and it takes me a while to be able to talk to them and ask how they're doing, what's for supper, etc.
It's really annoying because I love to experience new things and travel, but I'm really scared to leave home sometimes (my college is less than an hour away from my house) because I don't want to leave the familiar because I don't want to go through the transition. If I do go somewhere I just have to force myself to jump in and then figure out the concequences later when I get there (hello anziety!) which is obviously not the best way to do things.
Has anyone else experienced this? How do you deal?