dealing with anger | ADHD Information

Wowie Zowie! I'm using a friend's computer this very second, and I'm getting angry just thinking about going home and back to using my old, slow PC.     So, do I get angry? Yes, I do!   If I had a faster computer, I would spend 1/2 the time I do on this board...I'd get in, read, post, get out. First I get frustrated, then it turns into anger. I'll never blame the Board again, I promise!

I have more about anger, but I'll wait until I get home, after fighting the rush hour traffic to get there.    See you then. the only anger issue i have is with my mother. when she'e telling me to tidy my room, go out with the dog, i can't tell her "yes i'm going to do this". instead i start shouting at her with rude words (i really hate this )

my mother grown me alone and i think a part of myself is angry with her for this... dunno how to explain ths clearly sorry.

 

I was angry for a long time - primarily from what I perceived to be a lack of control and frustrations. 

I sometimes became angry and said inappropriate things; I sometimes decided to give up; and I often waited until I was alone in my car or alone in my apartment and then expressed myself. 

I can only imagine how funny it must have looked for those passing me in my car while I was yelling.  On occassion, I thought someone saw me and I'd pretend to be singing to a radio but, they probalby knew. 

I also wonder what the neighbors may have thought if they could hear me.  They probably thought I was mentally ill.

Glad to say that I got a lot of that anger out of my system.  I just don't become as angry as I used to anymore -

Biggest thing for me was not so much the anger, it was the lack of control I felt when I was angry.   The consequences were generally physically bad for the other party (at 6ft2 and 240 lbs I throw a mean double jab-cross combination) but I probably beat myself up worse inside by continually castigating myself for acting irrationally, badly etc.

Much better since on meds.  Am able to slow down enough to think before I act.  Still have to work on not beating myself up about it (and of course...there are times when the other person did deserve it LOL!).

i have to admit anger is the reason i finally came to the conclusion i am add. i have always had trouble keeping my cool. depending on how much stress or depression i was experiencing, i could easily be set off.

once lit i'm like astring of firecrackers going off. i explode with just unreasonable rage. i scream, i curse. sometimes i break things too. during my divorce i was in danger of taking it out physically on my ex and my kids. that period was when i first sought help using antidepressants.

but the anger thing, the temper tantrums, have always been with me. as i got larger and stronger, and more imposing, i have feared more and more how high-strung i have always been.

consequently, i have seen therapists on and off for 26 yrs. most of them to get down to the reasons i was so excitable and angry. i have had to work very hard at staying aware of where my mood is going so i can avoid letting the frustration overtake me.

age has mellowed me appreciably. i am aware when "the hulk" is coming and am very successful diverting the maelstrom. medication(wellbutrin for both add & depression) even further sooth the beast.

it took lots of reflection to see the beginning of the anger was the frustration of the moment. it seems my body cannot keep up with my brain. things just don't work right. people don't keep up either. and my brain won't wait up. . so noone "gets it", and i'm mad i can't get to the next part with my brain. i have always got to run to keep up with my thoughts.

that's when it dawned on me and i started researching add.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many of you have a problem....or IN THE PAST have had problems dealing with anger?  How serious did it get?  How did you digress from this?

Just a question...

I agree--frustration is usually the trigger that sets of my "Hulk" episodes.
Probably the biggest frustration is for things that I can't control.

Yep--pretty much the anger is released in a temper tantrum...

I am very active in martial arts--where else can you kick, scream, and
punch and be totally appropriate?    This also teaches me to recognize
when I am reaching my "threshold" and can take steps to avoid it, as
recognizing the "hulk" point is half the issue.I used to have major anger issues. I always had a thing with hitting. When I was a child, I used to hit my sister when she didn't want to play the same game as me, or if she wasn't sharing her toys. It went beyond normal child temper tantrums, because this progressed into my early teens. If she didn't want to watch the same tv show as me, I would wallop her and squeal in frustration. She used to tell me that she hoped I would never have kids. 

It wasn't only that - if ANYTHING frustrated me, I would punch or kick the wall, desk, countertop.. anything. If I got angry at myself, I would punch myself in the arms or legs. For some reason, physical hitting or kicking seemed to help release the anger a little. When I was 20 or 21, I put my foot through a wall during an argument with my (now ex) boyfriend. I was wearing only a sock and didn't even hurt myself.

After I started gaining self-confiidence, and the depression that had plagued me for years finally started to lift, the anger episodes decreased dramatically, both in frequency and intensity. I don't get frustrated with myself nearly as often, and I am in a healthy relationship. I understand human nature a lot better than I did when I was younger, and can grant people a little more tolerance before I get frustrated with them.

Frustration was the Number 1 cause for my anger. Frustration with myself, and with other people. Self-confidence and maturity really helped to bring it under control. I still have the occasional moment - but things are nothing like they were a few years ago.

I have a problem dealing my anger.  I have been physically abusive to my husband about 3 times before in the past...I left a bruise one time, broke skin another, and left the side of his face swollen the last time, (about 2 years ago, was the last time...)  I'm so guilty, I don't ever want to do anything to hurt him ever again.  I love him so much.  This is what drove me to go get help for my ad/hd....each time it happened, I feel like I was backed into a corner....my husband used to have a bad habit of taking all of my "options" away from me, mentally....I HATE feeling trapped, like I have no options as to what I can and cannot do....my husband never really realized what he was doing...and this is absolutely, positively NO REASON WHATSOEVER FOR ME TO LASH OUT AT HIM.

But right now i am not on medication, due to my pregnancy and I notice the old habits coming back.  Like, I got mad the other day at something, so I started trashing the house, my husband wasn't there at the time..  I'm thinking that I need to be medicated for this, because once the baby gets here, the postpartum period can be a real bummer.  I tend to get violent if I am very depressed.  Postpartum runs in my family.  I don't want to be this way once my baby gets here....maybe I should get back on treatment now...

oh, anyway, just brainstorming .

thanks for listening.

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