Other people with ADHD. (who dont know) | ADHD Information

You guys know a lot about ADHD, right?  I know you all have read all about it and there are lots of symptom that you all have stored in your memory.

Have you guys ever ran across someone who you just KNEW had ad/hd?  I'm not talking about just any stranger, because you can never tell right away, I'm talking about someone that you may have been working with at your job for several months, or some one you have known for several years... and that you know well....

There are at least 3 people that I know that MUST have ad/hd. 

This one older lady I work with, I have known her for going on 2 years now.  I worked with her on one job, and now I am on another job, where she also works.  SHE IS SOOO HYPERACTIVE!  She used to run around ruthlessly selling shoes to the customers on the first job where we used to work together.  I used to be a manager there...Sometimes, customers would sometimes complain about her because she would come to them 2 or 3 times in a span of 5 minutes and ask if they needed help.  This especially if we were crowded with customers, she probably would get overwhelmed and forget who she already asked and who she hadn't asked yet.  She would be talking, and I would be trying to ask her something, or tell her something that needed to be done, and if she had been very caught up in her conversation, she would cut across me maybe 3 times, continueing her little conversation before I could get a word in edgewise.  She got on other people's nerves a lot.  But I loved her, she made me laugh, because I figured we were "kindred spirits".....She was otherwise such a dear lady.

And then there is this other lady I work with, I have known for about a year.  She talks A LOT and ALWAYS ABOUT HERSELF.  She tends to first come across as very self-centered.  She tends not to let another person get a word in edgewise, and she also tends to cut across you if you were already talking.  She does not realize that a lot of the stories she tells us, she has told us the same stories several different times before in the past.  (There is a lot of people working there with us, and she probably forgets who she has told her story and who she hasn't)...She tends to dominate the conversations and steer them over to herself.  She also has a slight problem with anger.  But as much as she talks about her husband and her children, you can tell that she loves them dearly.  She is also a very sweet lady, if you get to know her.

The last person is this man I know.  He has known my family since I was born, and before--many years, I have known him.  He is not so talkative as the other 2, but he is very spacey and scatterbrained.  He insults people without realizing it, and very often puts his foot in his mouth.  He is also a very messy individual, and handles his affairs "loosely"...by that, I mean, he is not very structured... I know LOTS of people who don't like him.  I also used to not care for him, especially when I was younger, but over the years I have come to see his good side.  He never means any harm, and does a lot for his friends.  He is really a good guy..

All of these people, I have come to know for at least a year or more.  Like I said, I would NEVER make an assumption like this about someone I just met.  Maybe these three might NOT have ad/hd....but I find it so interesting that in all the research I have done to find out more about myself, and MY ADD, I have also learned to get along better with these 3 individuals...

[quote=sonya_h]Maybe these three might NOT have ad/hd....but I find it so interesting that in all the research I have done to find out more about myself, and MY ADD, I have also learned to get along better with these 3 individuals...[/quote]

Good for you, Sonya! Just another advantage of discovering we have AD/HD, and the compassion, understanding and patience we can have for others.GypsyWomyn38449.3699074074If 5% of adults have AD/HD, that means that 1 in 20 people has it. That's actually a lot. In a company of 100 people, statistically, 5 people would be ADD.

On reflection, I can actually think of more than just the three people I've already mentioned. And of course my mother and sister, and I'm pretty sure one of my cousins has it too.

 OK, I'm editing this... LMAO... there's my ADD...I just read that and responded to a different question.....LoL

 I have run into a few people w/ ADHD. 

 A friend in NY...she actually had some scans on her brain done after I knew her, and they could tell by those she had it.  Her brain activity at rest was more than most people when going full throttle.

 I have a co-worker now that seems to have it.  He is all over the place mentally, goes a mile a minute, and can't sit still ever.

 I can also see it in some family members, like my mom.

 Since I have ADD, it's easy to think many people have it...so I try not to fall in that trap, LoL.  But I get along w/ people like me, mainly because they forget the same things I do, and the lapses in time aren't a big deal to them.

 -C

chicx0r38449.4105787037YES! Now that I know, I can think of about 3 people also. The first is a lady I work with - she is a salesperson, and is VERY good at the sales aspect, but she is terrible with her paperwork and follow through. She continuously makes careless mistakes, but she will never be fired because her numbers are so good. She is absent-minded and forgetful, but is one of the sweetest, funniest ladies I have ever met.

Another would be my best friend's husband. I have mentioned him here before. He is very artistic, but is seen by his wife as "lazy" because he doesn't have any worthwhile interests, career-wise. He is a bit of a know-it-all, tends to rub people the wrong way, has been fired from a few jobs, and has quit college twice.

The third person is a good friend of my boyfriend's. He is very impulsive, has changed jobs more time than we can count, and is very forgetful. But he is also very smart. He is going through his second divorce right now. His 8 year old son I believe shows signs as well. Besides being quite hyperactive, he is incredibly smart (when he talks, he seems to be much older than 8), but is also very emotional.

OH, and let me just add this:  Do you know any "old" people that you are pretty sure have ad/hd, and are HYPER with it?...

That first lady I mentioned above is a little older, and my uncle (I didn't include him in the list above because he is a family member and we KNOW he has ad/hd, even though he doesn't think so..) is elderly.

This little old gray headed lady looks SO WEIRD being SO HYPER!.. She will get up and RUN around the shoe store!!  (The store manager nicknamed her "Speedy".) She jumps and claps, and it looks SO FUNNY for her to get so excitable at her age!

And then, my uncle, he is like, almost in his 80's...WE CAN BARELY GET HIM TO SIT STILL!!  He wants to get up and go!!  He can't "run" anymore, but we sure can't keep him down!  He is always getting up and going to do this, and going to do that.  We hardly ever see him sitting down.

Well, I guess it's a GOOD thing that they are keeping so active!

 

Princess bride:

Sometimes, if you have a family that is open to a good discussion on ad/hd, and you tell them all about yourself, and your symptoms that you have, and what your doctor says about your ad/hd, and about what you have read in books, and then just kinda drop the line casually that it's heriditary...(i. e. "did you know that ad/hd is hereditary, mom? I didn't know that it ran in families till my doctor told me the other day"....{hint hint }) .........Sometimes this will get open minded family members thinking...and sometimes, this is what causes people to go and get themselves tested....(i. e., "i just found out my sister/son/dad had ad/hd, and I see a lot of things in him/her that I also have a problem with, we are a lot alike, so that why I went to go get tested too, and that is how I found out I had it"....)

But unfortunatly some of us don't have family member's with such open minds....We kinda have to leave THOSE ones on their own to figure out for themselves...

sonya_h38449.6437731481

Hi,

I'm pretty sure my mom and my brother have it(definitely not dad though). but what should i DO? I think my brother always had the hyperactive kind, of course he is an adult now so has calmed down a lot but I still think he has it too, and my mom also. They dont think they do probably though. I didnt think I had it either until I read up on ADD and then was sure I had inattentive ADD which I got diagnosed with amost a month ago. I dont know what I can do to help them. I guess everyone has to figure it out on their own...any comments?

Absolutely!! My ex boyfriend. I got to know him really well. Total no brainer on that one.I think my mom has it .  After all it's hereditary  of course she will flat out  refuse to  admit it.  LOL  there is nothing wrong with me, You didn't get that from me 

LOL Surrrrre mom
< =""> I wish I knew, cuz they would be my best buddies. 8) Right now everyone around me seems to be in slow motion..so monotone, dull & lifeless. 8(thanks for your response Sonya :). Hopefully I have a open minded family then. I'm new to this so was just reading, but this topic got my attention. I recently joined some dating sites, but got bored so moved to the more adult areas. Of course being female I got lots of responses. Out of over 300 responses, only 5 actually managed to talk to  me for any length of time. Two are diagnosed adhd and the other three have all admitted they think they have it. It explains how they put up with my confusing online conversations, and me theirs. I took a friend who I was pretty sure had ADD to a CHADD meeting, told him to come with for a laugh and keep me company.  He filled out the entrance questionnaire, realised that he definitely had ADD and promptly went to get an expert opinion.  He is now on some medication and is starting to build his life again.  Awesome to watch the transformation and success.

I suspect my old man has it, but he is "old school" and after 70 odd years of coping, adapting and managing he feels no need to explore, delve or intervene.