kids talking to thmselves | ADHD Information

Is it me??? or is this a part of growing up, but my son talks to himself all the time and i hate it, it drives me crazy. I try to ignore it but sometimes it gets to me. now he does not answer himself, just talks, i can hear him in the morning when he is in his room,like he is having an actual convesation, kind of funny.....oh yeah on more thing......he also babbles too, that drives me nuts, anyone out there feel free to tell me that i'm overreacting.......i really do need to know how to handle this. I am not ADD but I waitress a couple days a week & I can tell you ALL the waitresses there talk to themselves! repeating what we need to do seems to lock everything in our minds because theres so many small things we need to remember with each order. Maybe your child is just doing something like that. Repeating things to himself so as not to forget. For the record, my ADD daughter never talks to herself so I don't think its just an ADD trait!

Pardon me if I cross a line here but, yeah, in my view you are overreacting. Your son simply sounds like he has a very imaginative, creative mind set. Very typical for ADD/ADHD's brain's frontral cortex uniqueness, but I can understand how you feel too. Perhaps, the easier solution to this problem would be earplugs :-)

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BrightQuazar38474.5319675926I was am an only child and I rember when I was I used to talk to myself probably because I was lonley probably from age 4-4 1/2 it didn't last long though. I really don't know of any other reasons he could be doing this...How old is he? Is he an only child? I'm sorry that's the only thing I can think of but I never even thought about myself doing it when I was really young until I saw what you posted. Maybe he needs to hear outloud to process better.

Just curious about the 11-year old boy who talks to himself. Has a professional linked that to ADD? I just got a call from my son's teacher (he is also 11). Apparently he is also talking to himself- in class! He was diagnosed three years ago with ADD...is this part of the disorder? Is this normal for ADD kids? I have to admit that it concerns me!! Help!

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My brother has not been diagnosed. He did see a counselor when our parents were divorced 2 years ago, and he has a very attentive teacher this year. Although he has some other typical (from the little I know) characteristics none of them are worthy of extra notice excepting his talking to himself aloud, alot.

Does your son also talk to himself at home?
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Our son hasn't been diagnosed yet (only because we aren't ready to medicate) however: he 'never' STOPS with the talking & noises...very seldom does he stop UNLESS he's watching tv or doing an activity that 'he' enjoys - sometimes I swear he does it to get on my nerves and I just let him know that it does get on my nerves; please stop. Now he doesn't always stop; but they really can't help it. I would say it is part of add/adhd.

thanks paul's mom for your reply.

maybe he is just venting...he doesn't usually say reasonable or constructive things in his room, just "that's not fair" and "She is so stupid" and sometimes repeats lies over and over to himself- that have been proven to be lies, (simple "i did brush my teeth" to complicated 5 minute explanations of an event in school) so maybe he is trying to hold on to his side of the fight and get the release out in a safe environment.

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I'm 23 and I STILL talk to myself. But now that I'm older I've learned to talk mostly "silently" but sometimes a laugh or a few random words will come out and people will look at me funny. I have really long conversations in my head. AD/HDers have very active imaginations. I

I'm 35 with adhd and I do it on a daily basis (when I know I'm alone)..

In my case, I'm rehearsing future conversations in my head.. Conversations with my wife about important things, conversations that I will be having with my doc, boss, etc. Pretty much any situation that I feel I need to really get my point across is rehearsed to myself outloud. As someone else here said, it helps me a lot to hear what I'm going to say outloud. My mom used to do it all the time when I was a kid.. ADHD? I dunno. Crazy? I don't think so.

I have a tendancy to do that too even though I've learned to control it.

but yeah when that happens to me I actually feel like someones there, so maybe thatt's what is happening.

WOW..... My 10 yr old daughter can carry on long conversations all by herself. Normally she will carry on two sides of a conversations between two toys. I always thought it was just quirky. Now I'm thinking it might be part of her ADD. She just go diagnosed at the end of March. It's sort of nice to know she's not the only one out there doing it.My son does this...from the time he wakes up...while eating breakfast...while in school...EVERYWHERE!! I can't tell you how annoying it is...however: Have you ever LISTENED to him? I did and what I found out is this...he's playing (alone...because he's an only child) and he's actually caring on a conversation with...let's say 2 toys. He is talking (acting) like they are doing to talking to each other. Other times is just jibberish....la la la...doooooo...arrrrrrrrrrrrrr......ahhhhhhh...just noises. Our son is almost 7. No diagnosis yet. Thank you all....I am a NEWBIE as of today, and boy, I happy I cam across this site!

I am 25 (well in June) and I also talk to myself...ALOT... The same thing here...I will just sometimes blurt a couple of words of my thought process out and my kids will just look at me --like-- what??? and it's "um, oh, nothing"

I was afriad I was crazy, but now I feel better....

I am ADHD, but do not take any meds etc. I am told that I've "learned to compensate." MY parents were the type- you know--- "kids are SUPPOSED TO BE HYPER..." I had a horrible time growing up. Needless to say, when my oldest was diagnosed, I JUMPED at the chance to put him on meds- from experience I knew what it was like...

I do believe talking aloud helps with the thought process. Even, if I just read something to myself- 3 min later I cant remember what I read- but it helps to read/say it aloud...and right important notes down...EVERYWHERE...lol.

[QUOTE=zenigmatic]My 11 yr old brother -I'm 26; talks to himself like this constantly, he has
not been diagnosed, but this seems like a helpful forum.
It can be annoying when he talks to himself, but he is very imaginative
and I just ignore it. It has lessened over the years.

However, I'm a little concerned about when he is upset and talks to
himself, if he gets in trouble or argues with someone he goes into his
room and talks in a strange v. loud/ v. whiny voice as though he is
pleading his case or just whining to someone about how unfair whatever
circumstance he is currently embroiled in is, and complaining or name-
calling the other person.

Is this also normal/OK behavior anyone is familiar with or something to
worry about and look into?
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REPLY: Could be that he didn't get to actually SAY what he wanted to so when he goes to his room he does get the chance to SAY what he wanted to; whether it's nice or not...he's got the comfort of 'his' room to say whatever he wishes.

My 11 yr old brother -I'm 26; talks to himself like this constantly, he has
not been diagnosed, but this seems like a helpful forum.
It can be annoying when he talks to himself, but he is very imaginative
and I just ignore it. It has lessened over the years.

However, I'm a little concerned about when he is upset and talks to
himself, if he gets in trouble or argues with someone he goes into his
room and talks in a strange v. loud/ v. whiny voice as though he is
pleading his case or just whining to someone about how unfair whatever
circumstance he is currently embroiled in is, and complaining or name-
calling the other person.

Is this also normal/OK behavior anyone is familiar with or something to
worry about and look into?
thanks-