"I DON’T HAVE ADD!" | ADHD Information

This is so funny... I sooo saw myself once again!!I am still like that to an extent and I have read book after book after book about how it IS REAL. I think it's because others don't really understand it. Isnt that the truth,soooooooooooooooooooooooo many people think that AD/HD is NOT real and it is!!! It used to anger me when people would act this way but you know what it is the ignorance in people.
I have a little girl whom is ADHD combined type,son whom is suspected ADD adn i have ADD ,IT IS REAL!!!

Sandra
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i seem to remember reading somewhere that ad/hd can affect a part of your brain that makes you not believe anything is wrong with you...the same part that makes you believe you are never wrong, you are invincible, etc.... and this is why you can never convince some loved ones that they have a problem....

what do you think?

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I think most of us - with or without add - don't want to have something "wrong" with us. It helps to realize that every person on this earth has something wrong with them.

I think this is even harder for people who have lived with add bcause we often have low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem are usually more defensive than most. It's a catch 22 until a person can get beyond their low self-esteem.

On top of this, there are plenty of people out there who use add as an excuse. These are usually the people that tell you about their add within the first 20 minutes of conversation. They are very presumptuous people that assume they are the only special people and the world should revolve around them, etc.

They usually talk about how they are really better than others, and how add is a gift, at the same time they are asking other people to accommodate them. I certainly don't want to be associated with those people.

Lastly, perhaps because of the people referenced above, many people don't believe that add exists. If you're told several times a day that add does not exist then you are likely to believe it.

The good thing is that my co-workers and my manager have accepted it and have offered to help out any way they can. You gotta love that!

In 1994-1999 there was a circle of friends around my then-husband that used to call me Rain Woman and I never could figure out why. It was always like as if I was incredibly intelligent with no place for the information to go.

sonya_h.... don't you think it's because people have lived with their state of mind all their life, and known that they were... somewhat different, but find it normal...

I know when I first heard of it, I though that they were nuts... I'm just bright, but a little odd.. so what...

AGAIN, LET ME CLARIFY MYSELF!

ok, I'M TALKING ABOUT THOSE OUT THERE WITH PARENTS, OR OTHER LOVED ONES THAT HAVE AD/HD!

I know of people whose spouses have ad/hd, and their marriage is at the breaking point, because the spouse REFUSES to acknowledge that they OBVIOUSLY have problems that need to be addressed, and REFUSES to believe in AD/HD, and will not go get help....

...Then, I know other people whose parents refuse to acknowledge their ad/hd. One of the main reasons, is because their child is just like they themselves were at that age, and to acknowledge that their child has a problem means that maybe they had a problem too, and they don't want to look at that....

....A neuropsychiatrist who specializes in AD/HD suggested that in SOME patients, ad/hd can also affect this part of the brain that makes you want to refuse the think that possibly there is a problem.....you know how ad/hd can make you feel invincible? you know the ad/hders that like to jump out of airplanes, and so forth...all of this is that same part of the brain that is connected with accepting your problems...

i know my mother-in-law has ad/hd, (my husband has it..) and she has never been wrong a day before in her life. she refuses to listen to ANYONE who tries to tell her different. it is IMPOSSIBLE to discuss ANYTHING with her, because she thinks she is always right.

SHE fits the criteria for the type of ad/hder that won't accept ad/hd.....she won't accept my husband's ad/hd, she does not think anything is wrong with her, she does not notice how everyone avoids her.

I know lots of other parents of ad/hders like this.....this may explain why they are this way.

all i'm saying is that some of us have problems with family members, or other loved ones with ad/hd that won't accept the fact that their problems are making their life, and the lives of their loved ones miserable....

and i read that that neuropshychiatrist says that their may be a reason for that, besides just stubborness. i wrote what i meant above. that little area of the brain is all linked. that's all.

I always used to "Love my ADHD" and think it was artistic and cool. It's been a roadblock instead the vast majority of the time, though - it gets in the way of learning music and painting in the same way it gets in the way of school.
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and as long it's only giving _you_, not your mother-in-law, fits, I wouldn't count on her changing.
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I think I understand what you're getting at here.

I took what you were saying and instead related it to my own experience when i denied my own add for a period of time in my previous post.

I don't really agree with the neurologist though. I think the "invinsible part" comes more from needing the rush and going forward anyway, as well as a lack of judgement sometimes - but not really because a person with add isn't capable of knowing that they might be wrong or actually have something wrong with them.

The neurologist might be right but I tend not to think so.

[QUOTE=marmalade trout]I always used to "Love my ADHD" and think it was artistic and cool. It's been a roadblock instead the vast majority of the time, though - it gets in the way of learning music and painting in the same way it gets in the way of school.
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It gets in the way of learning music...as in writing music? I found out that it's easier to write music. Get a little handheld digital voice recorder and keep it with you at all times. When ideas hit you (which they always seem to do when I don't have my guitar around...like in the car) you just hum the rhythm or sing the line or whatever else pops in your head. When you get home, listen to what you did and get it worked out.

Any of you notice just how many folks out there don't believe in ad/hd or think they don't have it?

I notice a lot of you have family members that you KNOW you inherited ad/hd from, yet they REFUSE adamantly to even acknowledge that ad/hd exists...

what do you think?

sonya_h38455.7431481481What you mean I'm not always right.........

Noooooooo your just teasing, I'm never wrong

LOL everyone is stupid but me

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But I always thought everyone is stupid except ME!

I totally agree that "adhd" people don't want to accept that they have a problem and I'm a perfect example. I always though there was SOMETHING wrong with me and until I instinctively discovered what ADD(h) REALLy was, I kinda knew that I fit the criteria. I went to a psych and as soon as I started to speak, I started crying. It was SO hard to admit for some reason that I had learning and memory problems. It's embarassing to an extent. I remember saying that I feel "differently" compared to others and that I can never quite finish any goals that I attempted to attain, and that I forget everything I study and constantly misplace items and bla bla bla. It took ALOT of courage for me to express my feelings to the psche but i'm glad I did it. Even after that (2 years ago) appointment, I treated my add for only 3 months and went through 2 years of hell (not to mention 26 years of my life prior to this) and finally accepted the fact and have been medicated for almost 2 months. So, I can totally relate to the fact, from my own perspective, that admitting to having add is very difficult. I actually told my instructor and I've been feeling funny in front of her ever since. That's very interesting that an add "specialist" hypothesised that people with add have a part of their brain missing that correlates to acceptance. Well, I wouldn't say hypothesis but is there scientific proof? I would love to know because it's very believable.

ditzychick38457.3377546296

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and as long it's only giving _you_, not your mother-in-law, fits, I wouldn't count on her changing.
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yes, that's my point. lots of times, certain ad/hders don't even realize that they are driving everyone around them nuts...

take my mother in law. no one likes her. she is bossy and overbearing, won't listen (is too caught up with what she is thinking inside of her own little head to listen to anyone elses point of view) and thinks she is never wrong. she constantly looks for an argument, and you can't really carry on a decent conversation with her.....mother in laws are bad....

but SHE is the MOTHER of ALL mother in lawS!!

I mean, i feel sorry for her because NO ONE, i mean NO ONE likes her, and SHE DOESN'T EVEN NOTICE!! I mean, people who have known her personally for years, will voluntarily come to me and express their real, genuwine, heartfelt sympathy to me for the fact that she is my mother in law.... "Exactly how do you deal?", they ask earnestly...

it is hard for me to talk to my husband about this, because it is his mother. i know it must be at least a touch of ad/hd, because my husband has it and it runs in his family.

But she is the type that WILL NOT ACCEPT AD/HD. She won't accept the fact that she has EVER done anything wrong, so ad/hd is out of the question.

I KNOW SHE IS NOT THE ONLY ONE LIKE THIS!

i have read plenty of posts, and personal accounts elsewhere, with couples who highly suspect that their partner has ad/hd, and the ad/hder REFUSES to do anything about it, REFUSES to acknowledge that there is a problem, and REFUSES to change, and REFUSES to go to couple therapy....the marriage ends as a result.

and then, I have read, from some of you in here, how you have parents that REFUSE to acknowledge ad/hd.

I AM NOT SAYING THAT AD/HD IS A BAD THING!!! ON THE CONTRARY, THERE ARE MANY GOOD THINGS TO BE SAID ABOUT AD/HD! I SHOULD KNOW, I HAVE IT ALSO....

all i'm saying is that we have to admit that we do have ad/hd, which brings certain problems with it. it is harder for us to deal with certain things, and this can cause stress and strain on some of our relationships..... we all are here reading in this forum BECAUSE we realize we have unique "issues" that require support to help us deal! AT LEAST EVERYONE READING THIS HAS COME THAT FAR!!

but too many are out there REFUSE to see that they are causing their family and friends much pain (my mother in law is included in this group)...

my SIMPLE POINT was that i read about a certain neuropsychiatrists, who REALIZED that lots of folks out there with ad/hd are the same type refuse to accept it, and he has studies that PROVE that there is a connection in the brain of some of these folks, with their ad/hd and their refusal to accept their "problems"...it is not a matter of if anyone agrees with this neuropsychiatrist or not, he has done brain scans, tests, and studies, and has PROVEN that this is the case. I was only reporting his findings.

I NEVER MEANT TO OFFEND ANYONE BY THIS POST! I JUST WANTED TO SHARE WHAT THAT NEUROPSYCHIATRIST FOUND TO ALL THE ONES INTERESTED....WE DO HAVE MEMBERS HERE WITH HUSBANDS/WIVES, OR OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS WITH AD/HD THAT THEY ARE HERE TO LEARN MORE INFO ABOUT.

SOME OF THOSE ONES MAY HAVE DEALT WITH THIS, AND I JUST WANTED TO SHARE THIS INFO WITH THOSE ONES!

THANK YOU.

sonya_h38458.4891435185

Well said, Sonya!

thank you!

("take a bow" emoticon inserted here..)