childhood problems: ad/hd? | ADHD Information

I remember getting "does not play well with others" for fights I didn't start.

About borderline personality disorder, if you haven't started a fight with anyone on the forum after 418 posts, you don't have it. I've had a couple girlfriends with it. Yow!
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As a kid, I was very unemotional, not because I was insensitive, but because I was oblivious.

In kindergarden my teacher called my parents to tell them that she was worried because I did not know anyone in my classes name. I did not know her name either.
I also needed someone to lead me to the bathroom because I did not know where it was. It was in the corner of the classroom, but I would walk to the wrong corner and wonder where it went.

I did not get into fights because I did not know other people existed- not a selfish thing, but a spaciness.

in first grade my teacher asked me why I was not playing with friends. I started talking to people in my classes not because I was lonely, but because I did not want the teachers to bother me during recess. I thought it was what you were supposed to do...

[QUOTE=sonya_h]is it really? is it natural for a 6 year old child to cry her eyes out every single day from the time she got on the school bus in the morning, till the time school was over, consistently 5 days a week for about 4-6 months straight?[/QUOTE]

Sonya

Yes as it maybe normal for kids to worry about their parents, you may have just gone a bit overkill. I can't speak for the whole group but I'm betting more than one has over reacted from something others would view as petty or insignificant. I know I have, and my daughter as well will do it often.

I can relate about first grade being a horrible experience too, but for a different reason...... My teacher was "Mrs. Satana" teacher from the deepest darkest bowel of hell.

[QUOTE=chocoholic]My mom always said that I appeared to be very unemotional. Didnt get upset, rarely cried, seemed like I just didnt care about or need anything or anybody. (I'm guessing that I was that distractible and immediately forgot about whatever troubled me) So, since that was the polar opposite of how you sounded, I dont know if your deep emotionality (new word ) is adhd related or not.

I really think that some kids are wired to be more emotional than others - they feel more strongly, love more deeply and can become upset more easily and for longer periods of time. Perhaps you were one of those kids?

I'm very curious about other's responses to this post![/QUOTE]

some ad/hders also have obsessional disorders....

maybe that's what i had/have? i know my sister and my dad have some slight ocd tendencies...

maybe i just obsessed over the idea that something bad would happen? it was always something bad i got obsessed with....maybe that was an anxiety thing? i dunno...interesting to think about....

maybe i still have obsessive issues; i always constantly read my posts over and over and over and over, constantly editing them...i wonder if their are other obsessional things that I do that I'm not realizing....i need to collect all this info to tell my shrink soon....

sonya_h38461.7135185185Could be, I wish I knew more about them and could help you out!! I think I remember reading somewhere that many people with adhd did tend to mentally obsess over their worries. Also a sign of anxiety, isnt it?

I dont know if you have done this, but before my diagnosis I left a tablet of paper on the table and wrote down anything that occurred to me that I wanted to talk about as I passed by. I took it with me and it helped a lot bc I know for a fact that there's no way I'd remember everything. I had my non adhd husband remind me to take it with me and I wrote 'read list' in ink on the back of my hand so I'd see it and remember to read it when I was there.

that's interesting;

can you please tell me a little more about borderline personality disorder?

i definitly feel that my parents could have done more research on us than they did...i excuse them for my sisters (although they feel differently) because my sisters grew up in the 70's when a lot of this stuff was new...but i feel that with me, at LEAST by the time the late 90's came, and ad/hd was more popular, then they could have done more....

but please educate me about borderline personality disorder...

sonya_h38461.7452199074

No, that doesn't sound normal to me. Did you get help back then?

My mom always said that I appeared to be very unemotional. Didnt get upset, rarely cried, seemed like I just didnt care about or need anything or anybody. (I'm guessing that I was that distractible and immediately forgot about whatever troubled me) So, since that was the polar opposite of how you sounded, I dont know if your deep emotionality (new word

) is adhd related or not.

I really think that some kids are wired to be more emotional than others - they feel more strongly, love more deeply and can become upset more easily and for longer periods of time. Perhaps you were one of those kids?

I'm very curious about other's responses to this post!

no; , my parents didn't believe in going to "shrinks"...they make me mad about that, too, that's a loooonnngg story. (a long story of constant problems from childhood throught to adulthood, even though they knew i had ad/hd, they would not take me for help....but i am trying to digress from that...)

but, i never heard of any other kids with ad/hd that had the problem with anxiety that i did to that extent...

although, my sister, whom i suspect also, has ad/hd, used to cry every day before getting on the bus in first grade for a long time, too. my mom chalked it to the fact that my sister never went to kindergarden, but went straight to the first grade, and that made it harder on her...

but i never once did that in kindergarden, it all started when i was in the first grade...???

i guess i will have to ask the shrink about that when i see him...

i hope i don't forget........i did the last time i went to talk to the shrink...

for some reason they make me nervous...

sonya_h38461.7076273148Sonya, do you feel that your parent's 'validated' you as a child? Validated your emotions? If they wouldn't take you to a 'shrink' when even you believed you were different and needed some help, in my opinion, they definitely weren't validating you then.

I know I've brought this up before in other posts, but it may apply to you. I don't know. Let me know what you think?

It's like if a child said they were thirsty and wanted a drink of water, they may have been told, "No you're not" or "You just had a drink a little while ago." Those are examples of not being validated. So eventually when that child did feel something, like being thirsty, they're not sure how to express that emotion to get their needs met. Does that make sense? If it does, that's one of the premises of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), which has many symptoms similar to ADHD. I have both.

And then as an adult that person ould have difficulty with emotion regulation, distress tolerance and interpersonal relationships...being able to ask for what one needs.

You may want to bring this up to the 'shrink.' I'd be curious to what they say.

Don't forget your old report cards, if you still have them.

GypsyWomyn38461.7355208333is it really? is it natural for a 6 year old child to cry her eyes out every single day from the time she got on the school bus in the morning, till the time school was over, consistently 5 days a week for about 4-6 months straight?

All children worry about mom and dad, its natural.

I'm not sure if it is AD/HD related or not, but I do think that children with AD/HD are more emotional than other children.

When I was in kindergarten, I remember crying my eyes out once when I missed my school bus one morning. I was soooo upset that I couldn't go to school that day. My mom ended up driving me, but I was still very upset by the whole experience. My parents still jokingly teased me about the incident when I was older.

I remember another day, also kindergarten, I was leaving the classroom at the end of the day with all the other kids. I suddenly remembered that I had left my little toy behind, and I burst into tears. The teacher asked me what was wrong (we were all out in the hallway), and I explained thta my toy was still in the classroom. She tried to tell me that it would stil be there tomorrow, but it was no good. I told her through sobbing fits that I needed it now. She ended up going back to get it for me, while the other kids giggled at me.

I used to worry about my mother too. Not to the extreme that you did, but I did used to worry that she would die or something, and I even had a few recurring nightmares that she had died some horrible death (one was a car accident, in another she got buried in a snow cave). I used to think it was normal childhood fear-of-losing-a-parent, but maybe it wasn't.
bcgirl197838461.5905092593

i was trying to remember what symptoms of ad/hd i had when i was a child so i can tell the psych on my upcoming appointment;....

i remember when i was in the first grade, my mother came to pick me up every day from school. one day she came very late because she had a hair appoinment. Everyone was starting to pack up to get ready to catch their buses, but she still was not there. so i started to cry, and then she came it at the last minute, with a freshly crisp hairstyle...

well, i don't know why, but that triggered something. every day after that, i cried because i was worried about her. it got to the point that i cried as soon as i got on the school bus in the morning, all the way until it was time for me to go home. this went on for months.... i worried about my mother all day...i was scared something would happen to her while i was away. i got teased my whole entire first grade year....

what was that? was that ad/hd? or maybe, i have some sort of obsessional anxiety disorder?

i know, it could very well possibly be anxiety, because I have always had problems getting to sleep at night, especially back then, i used to worry about everything>> every new disease i learned about, i used to worry at night thinking i was going to get it...my dad used to stay up with me...

my dad teases me and tells me, "man, you have had everything! when you were little, you had polio, a heart attack, a stroke, cancer, the ebola virus..it's a miracle you are still with us!"

what is this? is this ad/hd? or what? it doesn't sound like ad/hd....does it?

sonya_h38461.5812268518

i beg to differ.....

for a six year old to cry, like i said, every single day, from the time she got on the bus, to the time she got out of school...i mean, EVERY SINGLE DAY, 5 days a week, for about 5 months...a 6 year old child, i don't think that's normal, nor do i think it was healthy for me to have been so upset for so long...that's almost half of a year, and was almost an entire school year!!!...i mean, I cried over the same thing, every day, i was obsessed with the fact that something would happen to my mother while I was away...

as noted in the other posts, i am not the only one who thinks that was not normal. And i think it was a little bit more than just "overkill".....i beginning to think i had some anxiety issues, because I worried MUCH MUCH more than other children about other stuff too....(i won't go into long-winded details, right now..)..i'm also beginning to notice the fact of how obsessive I tended to be too...

my MOTHER doesn't even think it was normal!!

(why she never took me to see a counselor or something, i'll never know, but like i said, i try to digress...)

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