Ok,
So how many of us do this? Am I the only completely ignore it til it breaks then fix it in 2 seconds person out there. I bet not.
What is it that causes this? Obviously the procrastination, avoidance, distraction from duties is common. Is it also common that we wait til crisis to spring into action. And at that point find clarity, organization and immense drive? Is this the innatention/hyperfocus at work?
I know our relationships are finding that a wonderful addition to the mix.
Personal example:
wife: "hey can you pay the water bill today?"
me: " sure, will get to that in a bit"
(insert Wayne's World squiggly time lapse cut scene)
THREE WEEKS LATER:
wife: "hey, what about the water bill?"
me: " D@m!!, Uh yeah right away, must have slipped my mind."
ALTERNATE SCENARIO
wife: " ok so you got laid off 5 weeks ago and have no job yet, I am pregnant on bedrest and hve no income. We have mortgage due in 36 hours of 1500.00 and we have 46.00 bucks in teh bank. What are we going to do?"
me: "I don't know but will handle it"
So this is where the financial MacGyver/Bond appears and handles this major crisis in about... oh 2 hours. MMM the joy that brings to the relationship.
So anyone else do this?
I read about that exact phenomenon:
it is the adrenaline. I may have mentioned this before, but neuropsych's have proven that adrenaline temporarily "fixes" the ad/hd brain....it makes us think "normally" for a short period of time.
some of us are drawn to extreme sports; some of us can't get anything at all done until the last minute when, say, they are about to come and repo our vehicles, or whatever...others of us (like me) tend to subconciously stir up contentions between our acquaintences and loved ones...
(i notice now, that when I need to get something done very badly, i get very irratable and end up started a huge, usually ridiculous, argument with my husband, and then in the aftermath, in the ruins of the argument, when i am so mad that i can't talk anymore, i can get amazing things done!)...
but yes, this is definitely true, it's all in the adrenaline....
Wow, that describes my life pre-meds to a T. Now, with meds, I do it less often, but it still happens. The worst feeling for me is knowing I have to do something and then it's like my brain says, "You'll be forgetting that right now," about a nano-second after I see a shiny piece of metal or a leaf on a tree or something.
<bangs head on desk>
[QUOTE=Reizende]Perhaps the adrenaline involved in crises/scary situations is our own subconscious form of self-medication.[/QUOTE]
I've often thought this - both the adrenaline from the extreme sports & scary people we seem to get involved with, and the 'Oh sh.. they're coming to disconnect my electricity if I don't pay in the next 5 minutes' type of adrenaline.
Mark -