Irritating People | ADHD Information

I am never afraid to say "I do not know, but will find out for you"  and either research the answer or ask someone.  I would not worry the person in question should be man or women enough to admit the truth, also you need correct information not incorrect. 

 

How about this person in a business that I ask a question and he doesn't know the answer but doesn't want to admit this.  Instead he gives me the wrong information.  Then, if I ask to speak with someone else, he gets mad.

I understand that he wants to feel important and knowledgable but he isn't just giving his opinion, he is giving factual information related to the organization that is wrong and I can't rely on wrong information in this circumstance.

I really don't know how to deal with this.  Like I said, I'm sure it hurts his feelings if I ask for someone else and I don't want him to feel incompetent but today I did ask to speak to his boss, and I'll be talking with her tomorrow. 

I feel horrible like I hurt him and also because it was so irritating and it makes me wonder if I've been unreasonable.

I'm not sure if I don't know what to do because of the add or because it's just a hard situation.

Any ideas?

 

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I understand that he wants to feel important and knowledgable but he isn't just giving his opinion, he is giving factual information related to the organization that is wrong and I can't rely on wrong information in this circumstance. Like I said, I'm sure it hurts his feelings if I ask for someone else and I don't want him to feel incompetent but today I did ask to speak to his boss, and I'll be talking with her tomorrow.

I feel horrible like I hurt him and also because it was so irritating and it makes me wonder if I've been unreasonable.situation.

Any ideas?

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Hi Yellow. I do understand you have to work with this person day in and day out, but what about what is important to you? He doesn't care if he gives wrong information, which is actually selfish and inconsiderate, and you're worried about hurting his feelings?



If you feel like it's a sticky situation then learn to truly work on having a kind hearted but realistic talk with him and I would go to someone who did know what they were talking about so that it doesn't reflect poorly on you for doing whatever it is you have to do, if it would reflect on you.


If him passing off wrong information will end up biting him in his butt on his own, I wouldn't rat him out because he'll get himself in trouble for it, but if it's going to reflect poorly on you, then you need to make sure you don't share that on your behalf.


Now, there are tactful ways, as tactful as possible to handle this or not so tactful ways. Either way, it may be unpleasant but how you choose to deal with it will reflect if it's a big ugly or a not so big ugly. Sometimes we might feel we walk alone at times when we do the right things but we can often be stronger then we think.



Maybe you could write on paper what you feel you should say to your buddy who's not caring if he gives you useless info and remember---getting your thoughts organized ahead of time (that's what I do sometimes), if he is really your friend, he'll understand that you are doing what you have to do since he doesn't know what the heck he's talking about, and possibly have more respect for you in the process. A REAL friend would understand.



If he turns out to get bent out of shape from you needing to do your job properly, then he wasn't your real friend to begin with and doesn't really have respect for you. Hopefully he's not a little baby.



He sounds weak and like a weenie to know he's flat out wrong and still try to talk like he knows what he is doing. This is just me, but I don't consider people like that as a real friend because they are dishonest in more ways then one and I'd not trust someone like that either. I wouldn't be rude or mean but I'd sort of say to myself, "OK, I got that person's 'number'" then just keep being nice but just know what kind of person you're dealing with.


It's not at all responsible or professional to give out incorrect information like that.



Think out the situation all the way through with whatever scenerio you decide. Write down your thoughts. Why you feel the way you do. Write it down because it might help you feel more organized about the situation.



I wish you luck, friend. Let us know later on how it turns out.