I have a 19 year old daugher who is graduating from high school this May and going to college in the Fall. We went through the typical process of selecting appropriate colleges for her to attend. She has been accepted with great financial aid at colleges that were of initial interest to her. We should have been elated - what a great accomplishment! Her decision? She won't consider anything but the college her boyfriend is attending. I keep telling her this is a bad way to make a choice, but I might as well be talking to the wall.
I have accepted her decision and will support her, but have real concerns about her succes in college and her future. With my support she has earned a 3.4 GPA and various academic honors. But even at 19, her decisions are based solely on emotions which are all over the place. She is in counseling but her therapist (Phd in child psych) and I do not see eye to eye. He thinks she needs to be accepted and cajoled. I think she needs to learn to modulate her emotions, evaluate other people and situations rationally and make reasonable choices. Since she is 19 my input is limited eventhough I am paying the bill. Ideally, I would like to send her to some kind of program specifically for young ADHD adults. Does anyone have any suggestions?
[QUOTE=chisana]I have a 19 year old daugher who is graduating from high school this May and going to college in the Fall. We went through the typical process of selecting appropriate colleges for her to attend. She has been accepted with great financial aid at colleges that were of initial interest to her. We should have been elated - what a great accomplishment! Her decision? She won't consider anything but the college her boyfriend is attending. I keep telling her this is a bad way to make a choice, but I might as well be talking to the wall.
I have accepted her decision and will support her, but have real concerns about her succes in college and her future. With my support she has earned a 3.4 GPA and various academic honors. But even at 19, her decisions are based solely on emotions which are all over the place. She is in counseling but her therapist (Phd in child psych) and I do not see eye to eye. He thinks she needs to be accepted and cajoled. I think she needs to learn to modulate her emotions, evaluate other people and situations rationally and make reasonable choices. Since she is 19 my input is limited eventhough I am paying the bill. Ideally, I would like to send her to some kind of program specifically for young ADHD adults. Does anyone have any suggestions?
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