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Do you rely on other people to manage the stuff you can't get together- like papers, projects...money?
Would you be lost without someone helping you with daily life stuff- keeping track of what you do/don;t do, making lists for you?
Or do you do this all yourself, managing somewhow without help (or not managing, but you're either too proud to accept help or there is noone to help you)?
It's just kind of happened to work out with my boyfriend doing the laundry and the dishes. Those two things would be left undone for days at a time if it wasn't for him. 

Luckily I like cooking, so at least I can do that much. LOL. And I'm getting MUCH better with manging my money, though I do still goof once in a while.
I lived alone for many years before getting married and did it all myself. But now it's just easier for my Husband to do the finances and deal with the paperwork, because he is more detailed and just better at it. I rely on him for that, but could do it alone if I had to. Hubby does the finances/paperwork. Unfortunately, unlike addbec, I couldnt do it by myself if I had to. There's just no way.OMG, bouncing checks. When I was (briefly) in charge of our finances, we switched banks. Since it was a detail, I didnt notice that I had written all the bills on the checks for the old, closed out account. They were the same color and print!!!

Oh, were we in trouble- hundreds of dollars written out on a non existent checking account. Fortunately hubby was able to call all the companies and explain, but it was a sad sad day and the late fees were awful I was so humiliated. Course, I didnt understand I had adhd then, just that I didnt seem capable of understanding money, which seemed like it ought to be a simple thing. Now I know better!

[QUOTE=GarbagePailKid]Do you rely on other people to manage the stuff you can't get together- like papers, projects...money?
Would you be lost without someone helping you with daily life stuff- keeping track of what you do/don;t do, making lists for you?
Or do you do this all yourself, managing somewhow without help (or not managing, but you're either too proud to accept help or there is noone to help you)?
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I'm a very do it myself kind of person, I'd rather it not get done than to let someone else do it...LoL...but that is because I'm a control freak (yep, working on that in therapy! hehe)

[QUOTE=floofthegoof]I have learned certain habits that help me now. I went through so much greif with bouncing checks when I was younger [/QUOTE]

My god! bouncing checks is the worst! The first account I ever had I did not know anything about money. Finances and me like oil and water. I was using online checks, and when the first one bounced, I just thought there was a problem with the website. So I bounced the next one. and the next. Like 15 consecutive bounced checks in a row.
It sucked, but im no longer a financial moron
They should REALLY teach managing money and paying bills and doing taxes in high school. Maybe it's assumed that its the parents job, or that money matters are self evident. But they're NOT, and money management/basic life skill classes might have been more important than some crap I learned about what a "predicate part" was.
I mean- you can talk and write without knowing where the noun prase is?!?!

I am the one that gets leaned on and let me share i do understand but it does get stressful and overwhelming for me at times.  My husband with ADD works nights and I am alone mostly with my 5 year old with the ADHD.  My day begins with waking my daughter after my shower and dressing her for she is too distracted and half asleep, then its the breakfast show then off to work and school.  At noon I make a wake up call for the hubby to get up so he can go to work.  When i get out of work pick up child, cook, laundry, etc.  I admit sometimes our house falls behind during the week lack of energy to do all.  On weekends hubby has no motivation and I am left to do all, sometimes I get help and love it. 

  And yes I handle the checkbook.  My husband does try that is our life.

lol I'll let my soon to be husband do the finances also!! I have learned certain habits that help me now. I went through so much greif with bouncing checks when I was younger, I learned to be paranoid regarding my finances. That is soooo painfully expensive, and it obviously happens when you have no money in the first place! dollars to borrow for a day! It's friggen robbery!

This is something that I have been struggling to accept.

My husband and I both have ad/hd.  We have struggled for the past 4 years and and had things repo'ed and been evicted...twice (really, 3 times) we have ended up back in our parents house.

I am beginning to come to accept the fact that my husband and I both have severe ad/hd.  It is nearly impossible to manage our livelyhoods without meds. 

It is hard for me to accept the fact that so many of you are so wonderfully, if shakily independant, I wanna be like all of you, but time and time and time again we have failed flat on our faces.  Not all ad/hders are the same, some or more "affected" and have a harder time dealing than others....

-all the structure, and discipline in the world has not helped us....

Now, for the sake of your new child on the way in a few weeks, we are in a do-or-die situation> we may have to have a little outside help...

this is a thought that I have been struggling with for the last few weeks....