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Me too!!

but it's the flip flops that made me wanna post--man they drive me crazy. I also hate hearing people eat argh--can't they chew quitely!?!?!

I also do that--'be nice to me' thing. It too drives me crazy--I wish I trusted myself to say someting right when it happens--but usually when I do it comes out awful, so I bite my tounge

I think the rehearsing conversations is a coping mechanism. We have learned by experience that things go flying out of our heads at light speed so by rehearsing what we're going to say we have a better chance of getting across what we want to communicate.

Oh, and Pogue, Arbiter...best avatars I've ever seen.

Nope. not strange at all.....

I run future conversations as well as past converstaions in my head. The future ones so I can figure out the way to say something without sounding "dumb" and the past conversations so I can figure out why a said something "so dumb". Does that make sense to you?

I do also go over in my head things I want to say. I can sit next to my boyfriend fuming about something, like how he never does the dishes. I sit there thinking about what I'm going to say in various ways for so long that I get over the anger, and then I don't say it, because I'm not mad anymore.

Eliza, I do this too!! I am glad I"m not the only one who rehearses conversations I've had or am going to have over and over in my brain. And yep, mine never end up sounding like I've planned them either! And when I get angry I also sit there thinking forever what I'm going to say and then get over the anger as well! I'm very bad about confrontations because I get nervous and try to think of ways to say things. Anyway, I never knew this was an ADHD symptom til now! these boards are really helping me as well as this ADHD book I'm reading!!

I go over and over in my mind when I've said something stupid or stumbled over words when talking to people and say "i can't believe i did that! i sounded like such an idiot!" I need to work on that attitude though .I just get so self conscious and so embarrassed easily and want to just act normal. It's frustrating to have to go over and over what I'll say to someone. Why can't I just be sponatneous? I've done this my whole life though. I'm always trying to figure out what to say beforehand so I don't sound totally stupid at the moment when I'm talking to somebody. Maybe I can eventually get over this. I think some of this is caused by my social anxiety along with my ADHD but I don't know....

I'm just glad I'm not the only one who does this!! *sigh of relief*. I feel a lot better now! thanks everyone! :)

Count me in!! I have done this since I can remember! didn't realize it was an ADHD thing The conversation rarely goes as I rehearsed it a thousand times in my head! LOL

It amazes me after reading the board/and questions how much of my personality over the years is ADHD! one thing that drives me crazy besides running the conversation thru my head, is noises, like flip flops, typing, etc. somedays I am sooo sensitive to noises where others days I tolerate them better.

oh I hate that!!!

Okay somebody does something to me that we'll say is ULTRA terrible and then by the time I go to speak to them the best they get is "Be Nice to me".... wow big ferrocious teeth there....

I just can't stay mad at anyone long enough!
OMG YES YES YES I do this all the time!!!!

Now I am thinking about the ramifications? Is this a symptom of ADD, no wait a correlated factor?
This is NOT normal? Oh more great news

Lately, since I only have 30 minutes with the psychiatrist and he charges 0 I've been writing a list on the way there of the main points I want to make, like in a job interview or something.

This is because he asks how the medication is going and I might wimp out and say fine, just because I can't remember how it is going, when actually, it needs some adjustment. Or else I will start talking about one thing and suddenly the time is up. Having a mental list reminds me to change topic occasionally.

I list a couple of good things it does, and some side effects, or things it doesn't help with at all. It's been useful.

Yup. Today at the Dr's office, before he came in, I rehearsed what I would say to him. Of course I wimped out and never said most of it. I was intimidated. grrr. I often go over conversations that already happened.Yeah I'm rehearsing how I'm going to tell the doctor tomorrow that what I take doesn't seem to be strong enough.... or whether stronger is what I need.... Oh yeah, past conversations too! The other night I attempted to get to bed early, and I was going over this conversation I had with my boss. I was trying to figure out if I missed something I wanted to say. I looked over at the clock after a while, and noticed that I had to get up in 2 and a half hours...Doh! So much for getting caught up on sleep. Thanks, John

I always misread things............

Well I do that to.... I rehearsh things (specially so if it is a important phonecall)

... even so I forget things I was suppose to say or information I was suppose to

pass on. Should to it more often though..... the things that come out of me...if

I had a auto censorying that would go "peep" over what I just said

I do it ALL the time, especially when I lay down to go to sleep. I never really thought there was anything wrong with it either.

[quote]Does anyone else here run conversations (that have yet to take place) through your heads over and over, thinking about the different ways you could say something? I have always done this, and never gave it any thought. [/quote]

I do this all the time. I was just thinking about it yesterday. I was wondering if anyone else did it. Now I know. With me its usually off the wall stuff.

YES! I have done this for as long as I remember. I will rehearse conversations over and over in my head, but of course I've forgotten 90% of it by the time I actually want to say it. LOL! I also go over conversations that I've already had, and think about things I could have said differently. I used to think it was normal too, until I found out otherwise.

jepp tends to happen to me.... in group conversations I lltterly disconnect in my

own processing and miss the rest of conversation and sometimes when I return

to take part in conversation, the moment is gone or the conversation moved on

to a another topic.

Dont like group things but I working on it .

Hi everyone, I have a question for you.

Does anyone else here run conversations (that have yet to take place) through your heads over and over, thinking about the different ways you could say something? I have always done this, and never gave it any thought. That is until I said something about it to someone recently, and they said it was a strange thing to do. I don't think it's strange at all. I just want to make sure that when I have an important conversation, I'm able to say what I really want to communicate. Just wanted to get your feedback.
Thanks, John