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Sounds like your ex-boss did you no favours. Maybe you can prove him wrong!

Maybe you should be an 'adderall kid'...

 

Ack, new company just took over and well.... I'm worried!

I don't think they're overly ritalin-kid friendly.....at least that's not what the manual says....

aHHH!
thanks, but sadly I knew he was taking advantage of me for a long while I just hoped on that one in a million chance he wasn't? I don't like giving up on people or labelling them as "bad" unless I have undeniable proof....

and even now, I'm barely upset with him, I can't stay mad at people....
Wow, I'm sorry about how you got screwed over. Here's some advice: Don't EVER work for anyone for free (unless it's an internship), ESPECIALLY not overtime. If someone is willing to put you to work without paying you it's a RED FLAG that he/she does not give a sh*t about you. It's a red flag that he will take advantage of you. I know it's hard. We as AD/HDers sometimes have a hard time reading social cues.

If he doesn't at least write you a GREAT recommendation for you next job, you should definitely tell the new company all the dirt you have on him. Make it your mission to screw him over the way he screwed you over. I can't believe this guy. You do all this stuff for him and he won't even recommend you for another job? This guy used you! That is so wrong! He obviously didn't think that you weren't "taking initiative" when you were working overtime and pro-bono for him! What an a$$! I hate greedy people.

My life has been a string of failures and unfinished projects. It's so frustrating but we're here for you.  Welcome to the board newbie!
wow I just need to rant, I hope you all don't mind!

Okay so I have one friend with ADHD combined, somewhat like me....

My diagnosis didn't come from anyone useful, it came from my friends labelling me as a ritalin kid.... no it wasn't mean, it was playful and fun and probably the most helpful thing anybody's ever told me...

3 years into college and on my 3rd program due to failing out and such I am finally able to convince someone to test me and get the diagnosis. Yay. by this point my 3rd year is toast and I'm depressed about the fact that I'm going nowhere.

%$#@%@ people. I was found to be a perfect candidate for their help because I showed a 98 percentile IQ and a 49% average. Smarter than 98% of the people around me but can't seem to pass a course. You'd think that someone would have noticed? long story short, people have tried to help me and they all gave up after finding out that stern talks and yelling doesn't work.

Here I am now, 22, 2 kids and I'm about to get screwed again. No good deed goes unpunished 'eh?

I have a prescription for ritalin but it scares me. it took me 3 days to find out that the high sugars and chocolates will make me sit in a corner and cry all day when on it, so I only take it when necessary..... more than that I'm afraid that my magic won't work if I use it too much. It works for the first 2-3 days spectacularly but then after about 5 days doesn't seem to do anything? I don't know when I noticed diminished effects I stopped taking it. I may need it one day.

As you can tell, I can't write a story without 20 tangents.

Anyways, I was working a job for a small business and the guy/store has NO structure.... VERY difficult to handle, but I did it. Hell I even worked 50+ hour weeks and didn't ask for pay for the overtime because being his right hand man, if the company does well, eventually I will too right?

Company has been in decline since before I arrived and I built a website and did lots of other great things which I can proove brought in TONS of business and brought us to where we are now. He's selling the company. Well instead of being out of work, I was hoping that I could keep my job and just help the new company. Officially I'm a glorified store clerk but with a store of 3 I'm still not doing bad. So for 2 months I've worked pro-bono (he didn't have the money to pay me), which is fine.... only to find out that he did NOT help or reccomend me for any position beacuse I have troubles following up on paperwork. I try to talk to him about it and now he's just appeasing me so I don't tell the new company things he doesn't want them to know. I'm getting DEMOTED for my work.

because I can't pay attention and finnish paperwork.... oh and because when I do take innitiative, it's not quite what he's looking for and when I don't do it....well I'm not taking the innitiative.....

I just need a friend that understands. The one other person that has ADHD....well she's an ex g/f so we don't get along the best.....

help?
Wow, you have a lot on your plate. Sounds like you really need to talk to your Doctor and maybe try another med that will give you long lasting results. We are here if you need to talk. Yep, and sometimes I just need to rant, but I guess I forgot the main point of this is that I'd like a friend I can chat with about this stuff.... NOBODY gets it...

I can beat them hands down in nearly everything.....except day-to-day boredoms.

UP WITH RUKUS!
[QUOTE=scarygreengiant]Wow, I'm sorry about how you got screwed over. Here's some advice: Don't EVER work for anyone for free (unless it's an internship), ESPECIALLY not overtime. If someone is willing to put you to work without paying you it's a RED FLAG that he/she does not give a sh*t about you. It's a red flag that he will take advantage of you. I know it's hard. We as AD/HDers sometimes have a hard time reading social cues.

I suppose we are all different, but my ability to actually read social cues MORE accurately than the average individual has helped me tremendously. I am not saying that I naturally behave/respond like the average Jane. I am saying that I see through people, and generally can differentiate between the pretense and the reality of a situation. It does blow my mind that  people are as dishonest and pretentious as they are. If you are able to see that though, you can tell the difference between someone who is basically honest, and someone who is basically dishonest and abusive. It is not healthy to be "screwed" once, and decide that ALL people are trying to "screw you over". This mentality may cripple you from succeding in your future endeavors. You just need to pay close attention, and if your gut tells you something is wrong with this picture then stop and analyze this feeling. Do you need to take action? Do you just need to pay closer attention? We all have the ability to look out for ourselves,our situations and decide how we want to respond and take responsibility for our actions

 

I too have ability to actually read social cues MORE accurately than the average individual and it has also has helped me tremendously. It can also be a burden.

arbiterxero - I think you would have seen it comming only you thought that your self sacrifice would mean you would do well out of the situation. In a sence, i think you blinded yourself.

But hey, I have been there too, and guess what. You learned a good lesson at a young age. Don't forget it! 

 

cough cough, this is probably the 7th time I learnt this lesson.....

I have troubles giving up on people even when I KNOW they're hurting me...

I remember a girlfriend in grades 10-12 that I dated like 15 times because no matter how many times she dumped/hurt me I didn't have the heart to give up on her....

 I know how you feel. The friends i have had in my life have always dumped on me but I always came back for more. I knew I was being dumped on and treated very badly but I didn't want to be alone so I put up with it. now, having matured a bit, and having a bit more self respect, I wouldn't allow that to happen. When I read a person, thats it. It takes me minutes to see what someone motavation is. So, I don't let things get beyond a manageble state.

[quote]I didn't have the heart to give up on her....[/quote]

To be honest, we say this when we don't have the strenght to do what we know is right, even if it is stairing in our face. You knew what was the right thing to do but you didn't do it.

 I'm not saying I'm strong, im not. But I recognise it in myself, and I don't lie to myself. Sometimes I wish I did, life would be much less difficult.

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