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What kinds of jobs or careers have you all found yourselves to be good at?Most of you seem to say you don't understand people, but I feel the opposite... I often understand people better than they understand themselves...though that hasn't always been the case, once I had "Social Engineering" and the basic structure figured out I can understand and communicate with everyone.....
They just sometimes have troubles following along my logic because I move to fast and jump unimportant steps...
back to the original topic, I seem to be well suited for psychology, computers or something ish of that but I'm afraid of choosing a career I'm just going to fail at like everything else.... what has worked for you?
damn perception.... I giev so much that goes un-noticed and get seen as a dependant.....an excess expenditure....
I guess the question becomes, where are my talents valued as useful?
I need to open a circus.
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Most of you seem to say you don't understand people, but I feel the opposite... I often understand people better than they understand themselves...
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I am one of the ones who said I don't understand people. What I mean is that people mostly seem to be operating from a different perspective than me, have different motives, etc. I don't understand I think what makes people see x, and then think y, because I'm thinking z.
For example, a large "beautiful" home (or McMansion as I like to call'em) in a subdivision full of large "beautiful" McMansions, often bought at great financial hardship, often on the tiniest of lots.
I understand why people build them, keep up with the Jones', impress other simpletons, feel good about themselves, etc. etc.
I just don't see or understand why this is so important to them.
For the record my own home is very small and simple and square - designed and built it myself. BUT, it is on FIVE ACRES of wooded ground. I sometimes wonder if the McMansionites think less of me, but if they do I don't care.
This sort of thing seems to be a theme in my life. Maybe it is a theme for a lot of people but I am considered an eccentric weirdo, whereas I don't fully understand the mainstream for not agreeing with me more often.
They have different motives, different perspectives. I don't even say they are wrong and differences are good. But.........I just boggle.
I found the only thing I can do well is work for myself. I have to be my own boss and that makes me work harder to succeed. I would also be good at a creative career, but those are hard to find.
In most careers, people making decisions look to you to see what you can provide that will be beneficial to them - not what you think they want but what they believe they want. If you are smart, that is not necessarily to their perceived advantage and their perceived advantage is what matters to them.
Employers and coworkers generally are not primarily interested in the employee, the employee's success, the employee's happiness, etc. They say they are interested in that and they act like they are interested in that because they hope that if the employee feels "loved", that employee will show love in return.
I have had some success in jobs when I was able to provide what was of benefit to the employer and coworkers (as they perceived it), etc, without driving myself crazy.
TheDog38476.8105902778a creative career where you can let your wild mind go wild! i chose graphic design. I'm still looking for a career! Hmm, I'm also still looking for my keys...and my shoes....
I found I am best at a job where I am putting out a couple fires at once. It is not good if my job is repetitive or boring.
Arbiter, I'm with you on those starter mansions. And it's usually a family of 3 or 4 with a 1000 sq feet per family member besides. I just cringe when I see a 4000 sq foot house with nothing more than a strip of lawn running along the back and sides. Give me land, lots of land and distant neighbors.
Arbiterxero,
I, like you, feel like I am also suited for psychology and computing lol. What is so funny is that I'm in computing right now and have talked to my fiance about doing something with psychology too or instead.
I think I'd actually prefer psychology!! It is soo fascinating to me! one of the ONLY reading materials I was able to comprehend pretty well in college because it is so interesting to me and exciting! i love the part about dreams etc. I love how peoples brains work. As I've been researching up on ADHD I just want to learn more about the brain and this is an area where I'm actually interested unlike everything else I've come across in college.
Maybe I should end up doing some more psychology since I love that sort of thing!! But I don't know about everyone else. Each ADHD person has different interests. Some people love to be a salesperson etc. I could not do anything like that. I struggle with conversations as it is lol. I'm NOT the person for that! Anyway, enough of this! just thought I'd share my input :)
-Princess-
See my friends always say I'm really good at putting things in perspective bacause of the same thing resistance.......They come whining and crying about this or that and I come back with, why does it matter? I mean seriously.....
and the whole 5 acre thing, that's my DREAM home..... I mean I'd like a big house too, but the land is more important...
At the moment though I'm having troubles finding a job I'm good at.... I thought I was good at my last job....apparently not.
Hou se you built on 5 acres sounds great [QUOTE=princessbride22] Some people love to be a salesperson etc. I could not do anything like that. I struggle with conversations as it is lol. I'm NOT the person for that! Anyway, enough of this! just thought I'd share my input :)
-Princess-
[/QUOTE]Hey princess- I also struggle with conversations!!! I drift off in the middle of conversations very much and that results in pausing and uhms and likes and what were we saying?
I also am not sure what to talk about with people...how to get conversations going...and selling things is IMPOSSIBLE to me!!!! Example:
Me: Wanna buy these shoes?
Other person: No.
Me: Mmm..Ok. bye. have a nice day.
UGH sales! Marketing people are dumb....
ME-MAKE BIG POSETER...
I mean cave-man dumb, I don't know how they teach marketing classes, it's just about getting people's attention...hell I've known how to do that since I was 2...
and SALES?? I HATE . . .no no LOATHE sales....
The worst part is that I'm good at it... I know how to talk to people and I could sell your stapler back to you but....
I feel like I'm selling my soul each time I do it ya know? like I'm doing something that just doesn't feel right...
princess, I've done computers and tech my whole life... I either want to do psychology....or maybe engineering...but the problem with that is too much paperwork, though I love mechanical engineering....building and designing things? I just can't handle the dreary paperwork...
Physics seems good too because well, the only physics course I took I had troubles with it because things seemed too obvious, too easy.... so maybe I have a knack? who knows... it was plenty interesting...
The thing about psychology is that I've been watching people and figuring out how they think since like grade 9.... I had NO friends so I just watched and watched so meticulously that I have people's reactions down to nearly a mathematical equation...... unfortunately it always ends up being PEOPLE=DUMB but I can figure it out.
Princess, how old are you? what do you do in computers?
Computers make a nice hobby but as a career....eehhhh the problem is that I'd get bored too quickly, too many repetitive problems, unless I'm maybe coding, but even then the documentation and finnishing the project....ehhh?
too many options, somebody just needs to tell me what to do . . . seriously...
My husband has always liked mechanical of some nature, he did parts sales for two years and I heard him bitch about customers all the time. He is good with others yet will tell me he can never do what i do for he will go crazy. There are jobs in my field no college necessary. I am a case manager and work with the disabled and prior mental health.
first of all, in response to what you said garbagepailkid, it sounds like we have some things in common!! :) I zone out quite a bit on conversations and then panic later on because i have no idea what they said although I tend to nod at the right times and stuff like that lol. It's horrible! I don't want to be like that! but it happens! i also have a hard time finding the right words. I have a hard time expressing myself I guess. I'm pretty introverted. I get so anxious in conversations and so self conscious its really bad. I'm trying to work on that but if I'm not comfortable with someone i have no idea what to say....I go blank!! yikes! lol your selling example thing was totally me!! I would have said almost the same response as you did. :)
arbiterxero,
your comment was funny about the marketing people because my ex-room mate is going into marketting and she is pretty dumb herself. okay I usually get along with people don't talk bad about them but there are those few....you know how it goes....the whole clashing of personalities...people being too opposite to understand each other...anyways, this girl was soo irritating and wayy too nosy about things that were none of her business!! enough said :).
that is awesome that you have done computers and tech your whole life. I'm going into Computer Systems Administration which also involves being a computer tech. I hate the programming field. COuld never do that part! lol. But I'm hoping i can somehow do something with psychology instead of computers. I don't really think its my thing after all. I do not have the brain for it! psychology would be much more interesting for me!! Oh, and I'm 22. how old are you?
-Princess-
Ha ha, I'm 22, turning 23 on the 22nd of june....Waterloo Ontario 'eh!
Yeah marketing people drive me nuts, they're just so dumb!
I remember a few people in my life that have just simply hated me... I have nothing against them but I mean I'm good with people and have become fairly popular 'cuz I'm usually a really upbeat guy... but some people just hate EVERYTHING I do...
I don't get it?
Marketing is the root of all evil too 'eh? it's all about lying!