Do people make fun of you? | ADHD Information
The people at your work sound like a bunch of freaks. There is one girl I used to work with who would have howled with laughter at the mention of something as insignificant as a happy meal toy, but SHE could get away with whatever she wanted. Sadly, everyone else went along with her for fear of being the next one picked on.It's mob mentality. If one or two people think something is funny, then all the other little sheep have to laugh too.
Are there other jobs in the area you could start applying for? Sometimes I think it's better just to get out than to try to understand people who are doing hurtful things.
Maybe they were joking or they thought you were making a joke. Maybe that just thought saving a pug was cute. Or it's possible they could have been confused. I have no idea what toys are being given out at McDonalds so that statement would have totally confused me. Did they think you were making a humorous joke or were they laughing at you? Because when I was reading your post it just sounded like regular people laughing at a funny joke and it was all a misunderstanding. But knowing that you work with weirdo candy Nazis I guess there's a good chance they were making fun of you. scarygreengiant38477.6439930556Those bastards, if they were poking fun at your expense. I grew up being teased and laughed at so I understand. I saw a cool bumper sticker that says "Mean people suck". If i could find it again I will IM you so you can put it on your desk.
Is there anyone there you can talk to? It must be h-ll going everyday.
They said the last thing on their mind when they leave the office would be the manager, & that what would give me the idea that the manager would be worth saving a happy meal toy for..etc even though they generally like her.
Dunno..maybe I appreciate little things more.
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flock of jerks.
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very accurate description, i could not have chosen a better description for those jackasses myself.
[QUOTE=bcgirl1978]bunch of freaks. [/QUOTE]
another good description.
[QUOTE=Jillette]Those bastards,... [/QUOTE]
yet another very good description....
i always get laughed at too for reasons that I don't know.
I don't get "normal" people's jokes at me sometimes.
And I have this insane thing where whenever people are laughing, I always think they are laughing at me whether they actually are or not.
So i usually keep to myself and refuse to speak to other people unless it is very necessary.
And then I get labeled as "anti social" and "stuck up", and that's only because "normal conversation" usually flies over my head and I don't "get it", and the person trying to talk to me ends up thinking i'm an idiot anyway.
You can't win for loosing.
But all of those names were well chosen for those jerks, and I think they well describe the jackasses that laughed at you.
Reizende-I think it is sweet to save the toy from the happy meal for your manager. Maybe your coworkers think that presents shoul;d only be expensive and objectively valuable instead of subjectively sentimental??
The people at your job sound like a flock of jerks.
They probably think it's funny because you're probably either telling it to people who despise mcdonalds or wondering why you're telling adults who don't order happy meals....
people are mean, your best solution is to have a friend who'll explain it to you...
don't make them afraid to laugh at it, once someone explains it to you, you'll probably think it's funny too.... the problem is that you're not understanding whatever it is that's funny...
besides, people are dumb anyways....
I don't know what to tell you, but I am sorry you have to deal with that at work. You don't deserve it.
People at work make fun of me everyday and sit around giggling about things I say. Problem is, I don't see anything funny in anything I say. hey say what I tell them is way off base, so I sit there pondering it for an hour.
The manager likes pug dogs especially those "The Dog" pug things. So I mentioned to my manager that if she ever goes to McDonalds they have a The Dog special happy meal running and try to get a pug. Everything is fine up to this point. I go back to my desk and mention to my cubicle neighbor if she ever gets a happy meal at McDonaalds to save the pug for the manager. For some reason saving a happy meal toy for the manager is funny..and before long the rest of A/R is laughing at me loudly & I yell that I am sick of the sh*t. 8( What went wrong, and why is that so funny??
[QUOTE=Reizende]People at work make fun of me everyday and sit around giggling about things I say. Problem is, I don't see anything funny in anything I say. [/QUOTE]
i've had similiar experiences but just recently discovered it's not "normal" to be thoughtful. we as adhders are thoughful and therefore we can process so much more than non adhders. for us a thought like you mentioned is simple and routine and will come and go in a day. if someone else does this it takes alot more thought and energy to plan and process doing it.
i've found that most poeple label what they don't understand. if your coworkers don't understand why you would do that, they will label it and make a joke about it. we know as adhders we will never be understood by those without.
I'd rather have people make fun of me for being different than be like them. Be yourself and if anyone doesn't like it they can go to hell. :) Yeah, a lot of times I'll make a joke that has to do with something someone said that registers something else....like say someone says something about Pizza Hut. I'd probably say a line from Spaceballs because of Pizza the Hutt, but something totally unrelated to Pizza the Hutt. Maybe one person will get it. Heh. Todd38478.9674768519
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Absolutely! I agree with you 100%. I've also thought my co-workers in the past teased me or made life difficult for me because they were just jealous. Not only because I did well at my job, but because I enjoyed it. And that would drive 'em crazy! However, once I no longer enjoyed a job...for whatever reason...that's when I would quit. Unless, of course, they finally 'got' to me and I'd lose my cool...then I would be fired...once again. 
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I wonder if this jeolousy thing happens more often with females than with males?
Totally agree with you experiance Gypsywoman. I could have writen that myself. People can be scum. [QUOTE=Tinker]Is it possible that you are very good at your job and they are so intimidated that they look for ways to bring you down so as to feel better about themselves?[/QUOTE]Absolutely! I agree with you 100%. I've also thought my co-workers in the past teased me or made life difficult for me because they were just jealous. Not only because I did well at my job, but because I enjoyed it. And that would drive 'em crazy! However, once I no longer enjoyed a job...for whatever reason...that's when I would quit. Unless, of course, they finally 'got' to me and I'd lose my cool...then I would be fired...once again.
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actually, I don't really. I don't care at all, which I guess is sad, because you're supposed to feel sad when a person you know dies. That's what makes me feel a bit mean, that I don't care, but never mind, better not to care or i would be a big hypocrite!
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I don't think we are immune from being bullies just because we have add. I was bullied in an add forum when I disagreed with someone. People sometimes act very differently in a mob than they would on their own.
A bully will back down if they think that they are defeated but when they are in a mob they will feed off of each other.
The people involved made fools out of themselves - trying to put me down and make me uncomfortable. It was hilarious because it was all saved on-line and in hard copy. <QUOTE>
LOL I was going to respond; decided not to, but then it appeared in the post like I had posted-only it was blank...so I had to edit it, and go ahead and write this ;) Anyway, all I was going to say is that it goes without saying that anybody can be stupid, brilliant, mean, helpful, considerate,inconsiderate...etc...whether they have ADD or not. Generally the ADD type of behavior puts the individual in a minority status in a matter of speaking, so the "mob" or majority would more often than not, NOT be the ADD'r.
quik138478.657337963Ya know what? we gotta figure out where some of us live and one day just meet in one central place and have a party ya know?I mean seriously, ADD-ERS only, do you have ANY idea how jealous people would be and how AWESOME it would be?
this actually sounds like a super-wicked idea!
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Is it possible that you are very good at your job and they are so intimidated that they look for ways to bring you down so as to feel better about themselves?
I don't think we are immune from being bullies just because we have add. I was bullied in an add forum when I disagreed with someone. People sometimes act very differently in a mob than they would on their own.
A bully will back down if they think that they are defeated but when they are in a mob they will feed off of each other.
The people involved made fools out of themselves - trying to put me down and make me uncomfortable. It was hilarious because it was all saved on-line and in hard copy.
[QUOTE=floofthegoof]I would have laughed at what you said, but not *at* you, but *with* you. That's just kindof a funny thing to say, I'm not sure why. ADD people look at things in a cool way. I think it's only excusable to laugh *at* someone when they do something malicious. [/QUOTE]
It boils down to one's self esteem. People who enjoy picking on people(as opposed to laughing with them) have self esteem issues. They attempt to find things odd or different in others so they can make themselves feel/look better. This of couse is confusing to the ADD'd who has no desire to find fault in others and pretty much is a "what you see is what you get" type person. It is almost inconceivable to the ADD'r that anyone would get their jollies, especially in their adult life, by belittling others. That is why they, (the ADD'r), tend to look at themselves bewildered, trying to figure what it is about themselves that they need to fix. I am not saying some of us don't need to make concerted efforts in certain areas...I am saying that the people picking on anyone like that are just pitiful individuals looking for momentary relief from their own self-doubt and insecurity. (can't spell today)
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Actually the only reason I went off the deep end and yelled at them is because I had been quietly taking the jabs all week & I finally exploded. I normally keep nasty words to myself & just laugh along and pretend it's all okay but I couldn't stand it anymore.
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Hey- Sort of changing the subject here, but all of the things that you are interested in match many of mine (and prob alot of the people on this board). As far as I am concerned that is cool withinin itself, if that makes any sense.
Please do not react to the actions/gestures/words of pitiful people. You are simply above all of that pure and simple. You have actually been kind thus far, and not retaliating in a way that would shut them up once and all. But I am sure you just felt uncomfortable battling with unarmed individuals.
However, it is highly unlikely that you will do anything to help
yourself by using any of our "clever" come backs. And, they could
definetely make things worse for you.
Not necessarily though, that's the freaky thing about bullies. They are *always* cowardly and servile. Once you put them in their place, you would be absolutely amazed at how quickly they will fall in line. Every bully I've ever challenged has always attempted to become buddy-buddy with me later, or occasionally they ignore me if I handled them too roughly. As long as you remain fair about the issue and defend yourself honestly, they will always cave in. They know very well that they are standing on shaky ground.
Politics is fascinating to me because it's so unintuitive. Frequently, results are the opposite of what a good upbringing would lead you to expect.
The best thing to use on bullies is the truth. When I was in junior high, there was a bully who was always pestering me. One day I verbally hit him hard! I said, "Just because you have a mom and dad that doesn't give a sh*t about you doesn't mean you have to be an arse to me! Just because my mom loves me and your mom doesn't give a damn about you doesn't give you the right to make fun of me. Face it, no one, not even your parents care about you. Your crap, just like your mom probably tells you."
He never said another word.
I was made fun of when I was younger but I didn't really care much. People picked on me because I was shy yet different. I was weirder then a football bat in grade school...now I know why.
I would have laughed at what you said, but not *at* you, but *with* you. That's just kindof a funny thing to say, I'm not sure why. ADD people look at things in a cool way. I think it's only excusable to laugh *at* someone when they do something malicious.
They made sure to let me know they were laughing at me not with me & said the stuff I say is "way out there".
[QUOTE=Reizende]They made sure to let me know they were laughing at me not with me & said the stuff I say is "way out there".
[/QUOTE]They really are ass holes then. Tell them the stuff they say is boring and predictable. The victim/bully dynamic is a strange thing. It's all attitude. You don't have to fight them all the time, but one good, well deserved insult thrown their way might make things a bit easier for a while. Some people just need to be put in their place.
We like you so it irritates us that they're mean to you. Also, some of us have been there to some extent and would love to help you get back at those people.
However, it is highly unlikely that you will do anything to help yourself by using any of our "clever" come backs. And, they could definetely make things worse for you.
Those people are what they are and they've made up their mind that you aren't part of their group. I understand you probably need the job so you have to do what you need to do to keep your job.
I had a good friend one time tell me "you can say the most off the wall, weird things..."
so I told her, "fine, I won't say those things and I will just say normal and boring things all the time just like everyone else."
She didn't want that.
I also told her that it's the "weird" people who make the world go round, who write great music, who write great books, make great paintings..." I also told her, "no one forgets the guy who wears a red suit to prom. Sure, it might seem strange at the time, however, you'll never forget it...and you spend a ton of cash to look good on prom night, however, that guy will never be forgotten and you will."
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I once worked with someone who couldn't handle the words restroom or bathroom. I learned that I was suppose to say I was "going down the hall." If I slipped up and said, "I'm going to the bathroom" - I was so crass!!
It took a while to realize that I was nice to try to accommodate her and succeeded to do so most of the time but she was the one with the problem in her need to avoid a common word, not me.
What I'm trying to say is that just because they make fun of you, it doesn't mean that you're any stranger than they are.
However, if you really want to understand them, I agree with what others have said.
Someone told me once, "never listen to anything anybody says - just watch what they do." In this case, I think the thing to watch is that they're trying to exclude you and make you feel bad.
Given that, I'd expect nothing of them. I would try to be professional but would not try to be their friend. You don't have to be friends with the people you work.
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People at work make fun of me everyday and sit around giggling about things I say. Problem is, I don't see anything funny in anything I say. hey say what I tell them is way off base, so I sit there pondering it for an hour.
..and before long the rest of A/R is laughing at me loudly & I yell that I am sick of the sh*t. 8( What went wrong, and why is that so funny??
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No offense, but I think it is not just that you say things that they find a little odd, it is more how YOU react to their reaction...you most likely have a perplexed expression on your face and ask them what is wrong with what you said...sit there a while longer and then get mad... All of this is not necessary. This sounds like a bunch of bored people sitting around who have nothing better to do. You need to stand back for a moment and gain a perspective, so you can respond with a little more finesse. Why are you not laughing at them? Why do you choose to give them the power, allowing them to make you feel awkward? Generally speaking people can not make fun of or victimize you if you do not let them.
Look at them calmly and say things like :
Oh my dear! Out of medication again?
"You remind me of someone I once knew...of course she had to "go away" again...and well, she is no longer with us...
(Obviously, I am being silly, I am just trying to get you to see that you do not have to let people mess with your head.)
quik138478.0468865741[QUOTE=TheDog]Given that, I'd expect nothing of them. I would try to be professional but would not try to be their friend. You don't have to be friends with the people you work.
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Definitely! It's hard not to feel bad if you aren't friends with the people at work, but (hopefully) a year from now, they won't mean anything to you and they won't even remember you. I always focused more on the few friends at work and friends/family outside of work and ignored the idiots.
[QUOTE=quik1]No offense, but I think it is not just that you say things that they find a little odd, it is more how YOU react to their reaction...you most likely have a perplexed expression on your face and ask them what is wrong with what you said...sit there a while longer and then get mad... All of this is not necessary. This sounds like a bunch of bored people sitting around who have nothing better to do. You need to stand back for a moment and gain a perspective, so you can respond with a little more finesse. Why are you not laughing at them? Why do you choose to give them the power, allowing them to make you feel awkward? Generally speaking people can not make fun of or victimize you if you do not let them.Look at them calmly and say things like :
Oh my dear! Out of medication again?
"You remind me of someone I once knew...of course she had to "go away" again...and well, she is no longer with us...
(Obviously, I am being silly, I am just trying to get you to see that you do not have to let people mess with your head.)
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Actually the only reason I went off the deep end and yelled at them is because I had been quietly taking the jabs all week & I finally exploded. I normally keep nasty words to myself & just laugh along and pretend it's all okay but I couldn't stand it anymore.
Sometimes I do or say things that people find weird, and I think it's to do with not reading social cues. I sometimes think in such a logical way I forget to think about what is "appropriate".
Unfortunately, most people in offices are so obsessed with doing what is "appropriate" that they make you feel even worse when you do something dumb, they look down their noses.
For example,
If the boss was talking about a book she liked I would probably get excited and bring in my copy from home to lend her. In my head I see a person that wants something, and then I see what I can do to make them happy. Simple logic.
I never think, oh , but they are the boss and you're not supposed to do something like that for them, or you're not supposed to talk about a certain thing with them.
I just see them as a normal person who is the boss because they have been working longer than I have.
Things like this get me into trouble.
I agree with a lot of the other replies. On the surface it sounds almost illogical, there seems to be more to the story like a history behind it or an inside joke.
You asked this question in the title and no one answered it I think:
Do people make fun of you?
sh*t yes they do and I make fun of them back. I have a great sense of humor and can certainly laugh at the ridiculousness in myself and in others. But a concerted gang thing like it sounds like at your work, well, I don't know how I'd handle it but I can be sure they they would certainly know it bothered me. Impulsivity in me isn't too bad but in a situation like that I would be in individual faces pointing out they were really pissing me off, which I would feel bad about later.
[QUOTE=The Resistance!]...there seems to be more to the story like a history behind it or an inside joke....[/QUOTE]
You hit the nail on the head for me:
The world, in every aspect, seems to be some big huge inside joke, and I just don't get it.
ooooh 2 things, one, I know where to get the "mean people suck" bumper sticker...
secondly, Something that used to help me when I didn't understand people...
Look at their body and what they do with it....practically ignore what they're saying...infact DO ignore what they're saying and just watch what they do with their hands and then imagine the motions in a cartoon..... in otherwords exagerate EVERYTHING...
if they step towards you imagine it as a GREAT BIG LEAP, if they lean forwards a little bit, imagine donald duck leaning forwards in the same way but WAYYYY exagerated, over do it...... then you start to see what they're saying, or for that matter what they're not saying and you get the emotion behind it, whether it's just a hearty laugh or vindictive....
look around you at people and tune your ears out.... okay that's not really possible for us but watch their bodies because how someone moves is actually more important than 90% of their words.eventually you start to see both at once...
it really works but it takes awhile...don't get disapointed, just see them all as cartoons and think of which cartoon takes that posture or moves their hands like that and think of what kind of attitude they usually have behind it...
Your homework? watch more cartoons....
I love when I see people I went to high school with and they are 33 and working at Speedway or McDonalds or as a pizza delivery guy. The funniest thing I ever saw was at my 10 year class reunion this one cheerleader/top of the class girl from high school was making this big deal that she was a "HOOTER GIRL". I felt like rolling in the isles. That is not an honor in my opinion. I always thought she might someday become a scientist. Not a Hooter's girl. I started out working in daycare and ended up in accounting. I never even finished college.shock:
Why do you love to see people you knew work dead end type jobs? It sure is nice to boost your own ego through other people's misfortune (sarcasm). Wouldn't it be cool if they were laughing at you about stuff in your life? Have you never met a pizza delivery guy with great qualities?
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Why do you love to see people you knew work dead end type jobs? It sure is nice to boost your own ego through other people's misfortune (sarcasm). Wouldn't it be cool if they were laughing at you about stuff in your life? Have you never met a pizza delivery guy with great qualities?
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What I meant is that I love to see the people who picked on me or bullied me working dead end jobs. It makes me feel good that they now are stressing in life since they caused me stress when I was younger.
I, too am referring only to those in high school that treated me like crap and snubbed me. 8 )My apologies then.
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You shoulda seen that class reunion. You'd think people would start acting more adult when they are about 30 years old. Instead they broke off into little cliquey groups at the banquet hall and sat away from us weirdos. 8 ) This was in 1999.I believe in karma, and suppose it's good, whether you see it or not. However, I also believe that, hopefully, what goes around comes around fits the degree of the original conduct or behavior.GypsyWomyn38481.4217824074
My family/friends have ribbed me for many years about losing wallet/keys/ID etc etc stories, and that's OK...sometimes I even tell them for a laugh. Fact is they love me, understand me, and would stop if I asked them to.
However, I have no patience for anyone who doesn't know me, but seems to think they can make fun of me, spread gossip about me, or just look at me like I'm an idiot.
There are plenty of insecure, judgemental people out there that do this sort of immature crap; ignoring them = acceptance of what they are doing. I'm not suggestingoffice brawls or screaming matches (always last options though) but you gotta confront these turds.
Otherwise, get a new job, life is too short. Good luck.
Hey guys, I have a real life 'revenge' story!!
In primary school I was shy, and kids would occasionally say something cruel to get a laugh in class. I had masses of tourette's tics, so I was an easy target for insecure kids.
A few girls were extra horrible to me. I was too shy to ever stand up to them. I went to a different high school but I never got over how mean they were.
A couple of years ago one of them went hiking in the mountains and disappeared. I felt a bit guilty because I used to wish her dead, and I got my revenge without even trying! It's a very spooky feeling.
Now I'm a bit scared to think mean thoughts about people..just in case!!
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Is it possible that you are very good at your job and they are so intimidated that they look for ways to bring you down so as to feel better about themselves?
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While I am a bit of a perfectionist I am extremely forgetful and they love to point that out to me.
[QUOTE=arbiterxero] we really do seem to be loyal though . . .but in a funny way...As long as your intentions show positive I'll stand by you to my death
but if your intentions turn negative, even if you're just sitting there
handing me cash I'll turn on you SO FAST.
When I set my sights though... and it takes a fair bit for me to BOTHER
caring but once I've decided I don't like you, I'm in it to the bitter
end...
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I can honestly relate to that. Once I've lost respect for someone, and I have a loooong fuse, that's pretty much it. I won't be hateful to anyone unless they make it impossible for me not to and even then, I'll stick with facts and be to the point. I don't like having to get to that point and rarely do, but when I do, I do. For whatever reason if I have to be around that person, I'll not be hateful, I'll be polite but short and sweet and only speak if spoken to. That person will know they are not liked at all but won't have anything bad they can say about me either. To me, it's like giving someone the finger in a polite way, and getting away with it.
If I do not like a person, it's for a very good reason.
I also watch how people treat other's or talk about other people in front of me. I know that's how they are to EVERYONE behind their backs. I keep that in mind too. I got that person's "number", if you know what I mean.
[quote=goldenmoment]I also watch how people treat other's or talk about other people in front of me. I know that's how they are to EVERYONE behind their backs. I keep that in mind too. I got that person's "number", if you know what I mean. [/quote]
That's so true, Goldie! Good words to live by.
Nope, she must have fallen down a ravine while hiking, they never found her.
I felt really awful about wishing her bad karma. It's funny, because I don't think she ever thought for a second the years of pain and torture she caused me through her cruel actions, yet I still sit here thinking she didn't deserve that, and maybe I should have been nicer to her even when she was bullying me.
No, you should have stood up to her....
being nice doesn't work once you're already being tortured and such....
one does not ask for respect, they command it. I'm not saying you should have fought her but fought for yourself because then you wouldn't have remembered all the upset thoughts but the time you conquored, a happy memory as opposed to a bad one...
Infact you probably wouldn't have wished such harm on her at all because she'd have been less of an issue!
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Hey guys, I have a real life 'revenge' story!!
In primary school I was shy, and kids would occasionally say something cruel to get a laugh in class. I had masses of tourette's tics, so I was an easy target for insecure kids.
A few girls were extra horrible to me. I was too shy to ever stand up to them. I went to a different high school but I never got over how mean they were.
A couple of years ago one of them went hiking in the mountains and disappeared. I felt a bit guilty because I used to wish her dead, and I got my revenge without even trying! It's a very spooky feeling.
Now I'm a bit scared to think mean thoughts about people..just in case!![/QUOTE]
Did they ever find the girl?
Kids I believe do this because their parents haven't taught them not to do this other wise. If this was my kids they would be in trouble at home. Kids today lack manners.The parents are my guess like this also. Tv shows aren't monitored by parents also. Video games aren't either. We live in a coach potatoe world now. No wonder obesity is high now. Junk food eating is number one also. Adults are to lazy to cook these days. I work 10-16 days. My wife is at home and she cooks. I do it on the weekends. We need to go back and teach kids how things are done by hand. One day they might need it.
People in packs can be so cruel when it comes to one being a little different!
Personally I thought the mcdonalds thing was gorgeous! It sounds like something me and my mates would do for each other- daggy but thoughtful! I remember my friend saying she would love to be with a black man...so on her birthday we bought her a negro barbie doll. She could not stop laughing!
Geez, whats wrong with being nice to your boss? As long as you're not blatantly kissing ass. Maybe they're jealous you get on well or that you had the idea.
Mate, the world would be soooo boring if everyone was the same! I salute you and if I knew you in real life I'm sure you would be my friend:)
At the risk of sounding redundant I'll say it again, as it seems quite justifiable for this situation.........
Wood Chipper... Feet First..... Videotaped In Slow Motion So You Can Watch The Looks On The Faces as They Pass Through The Whirring Razor Sharp Blades..... And The Leader Of The Bunch Gets Pulled Back Out After Half Way And Stood Up In A Pile Of Salt Before Being Slowly Fed Back In!!!!!
Sick? Possibly. But great mental imagery and as I said before..... completely justified... ok almost justified. I've been laughed at and ridiculed before as well.
Just my mind's way of planning my revenge (which of course would never take place) But I can dream can't I?
As long as your intentions show positive I'll stand by you to my death but if your intentions turn negative, even if you're just sitting there handing me cash I'll turn on you SO FAST.
When I set my sights though... and it takes a fair bit for me to BOTHER caring but once I've decided I don't like you, I'm in it to the bitter end...
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Very true. What's so bad about that. I'll say something else too, we're somewhat of a loyal bunch too.
Hi. For me, I cannot tolerate petty and ignorant personalities. I won't stay in any hostile environment either because the negatives out weigh the positives. It's like bad karma or something.
I've dealt with insecure women who acted like they were jealous of me for their own reasons. It's their problem, not mine. I was not and never have been stuck up. Years ago when I worked at a bank there were some pretty petty cattie women. I got promoted after about three months and some of the teller line women were sooooo jealous and childish about it. Some customers would send me flowers or bring me gifts for holidays too. Some of the other women were sooooo petty. My branch manager was a very heavy set woman much older then me who use to nudge me with her huge set of hooters and laugh about it (I was only 19 and she grossed and creeped me out...NOBODY liked her). I looked for another job and at the interview told them I was currently working and that it would get me in trouble if they called my current place of employement. The man said that there would be no need to and wanted to know how soon before I could start. I told him two weeks and he said that would be fine. I think it was in a retail position. It was only a slight pay cut but worth it to me.
they do in work . (i dont go out much other than that) they find the this i say strange they laught at my lodgic and say to slow down all the time and laugh at how fast i work.they dont think its hurtfull but i often end up going home in tears. but then i go back to work and its the same
[QUOTE=eliza]Nope, she must have fallen down a ravine while hiking, they never found her.
I felt really awful about wishing her bad karma. It's funny,
because I don't think she ever thought for a second the years
of pain and torture she caused me through her cruel actions,
yet I still sit here thinking she didn't deserve that, and maybe I
should have been nicer to her even when she was bullying me.
[/QUOTE]
You did nothing wrong Eliza. You did not need to be nice to a person who is bullying you. When I was a child I wished many of my bullies dead but as far as I know, they are still alive and well. I don't want my former bullies dead now but I don't feel like I need to be nice to them either. You seem like a nice person. You are much better than she ever was.Don't feel guilty.