Hard time focusing on your Children? | ADHD Information

I know how you feel. this is why I finaly went to the Doc. about my ADHD. I feel like my children are the biggest casualty of my ADHD. I am always so irratable and can not focus on kids because I can not stop thinking about everything I haven't finished in the house.The really sad thing is I seldom finish those tasks. I just start more tasks that are left unfinished. Going on meds Friday. Hoping,no praying Adderall will help.

Today it takes mostly both parents working. Best advice, down size to smaller less expensive house  to be home if you can. They grow up so fast. We are so glad to  have had that time at home. She would of missed so much. She is close to them both. I think working she woudn't have been as close to them.I also think they wouldn't of been as preparded for school. She taught phonics to both. Not all schools teach it.  I pray one day Moms can be at home again w/ their kids. They need  Moms more now than before. They are the key to the home.

i feel the same my son is older now(only 8 mind lol) and he is happy, so as long as he knows you love him the it aint about how much time you spend its more like the quality of that time , so if your like me and tend to always be busy then take the time to have a laught and a giggle every day and you will be cool .

 just my veiw

Thanks everyone. I don't feel as bad now. Thank gosh my Husband loves to read books and play games with him. Also, it's great that my Son is so independant. He can sit and play on his own for a long time. I had to create a state of mind I called three-year-old (or two or four-year old) speed. I can't really explain it very well but it worked somewhat. To my utter dismay I could often hardly read them a book without a yawning attack it was werid/sad. 

How I waited for my son to start to talk! I was never able to play todler games with him. At least your son can play alone, mine never could. Daycare helped a lot, he was in kindergarden from age 2 to 6. He´s now 9 and we are waiting for his adhd evaluation, I got mine a month ago (age 46). I often felt like a bad mother, but my husband never thought so, which helped a lot. We had no idea that I had adhd, but we just felt it natural that we had (and have) different playing-styles.

I sometimes do play boardgames, but only if I know the rules.

I am trying not to look back and think: if only I had my adhd-diagnosis 40 years ago. But I imaging it would have been helpful to know, especially when I felt frustrated over not being a mom who could play in the sand and in the snow with my wonderful son.

addbec, you are a good mother! The fact that you seek help in this forum shows it.

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addbec, you are a good mother! The fact that you seek help in this forum shows it.

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Awww, thanks! I feel like I am a good Mom most of the time, but when I rather be on the PC or reading a magazine instead of playing cars with my Son, I feel so guilty. I keep reminding myself of the saying, 'If the Mom isn't happy, then the kid isn't happy'. I know I need to take care of myself and feel better for the sake of my Family.

I have a 2 year old Son who I adore. I have always noticed that it is hard for me to sit and play with him or read a book. I always feel like I have to be doing something else and I get bored easily. I feel so bad since I want to spend a lot of time with my Son and make good memories. Anyone else? Thanks. I can't tell if it's my ADD or if I am a bad Mom in that respect. I know a lot of people, add or not, that find playing 2 year old 'games' to be absolutely mind numbing!


Also, I think kids really benefit from a mix of types of play- with adults, with other kids, in a formal directed setting (school/teacher etc.), and alone.

No, I don't think it has anything to do with being a bad mom.  I too would have  loved to play games and do more things with my son, he is 16 now.  Although he has never said anything about us no spending time together, I feel badly about it.  I could never just sit with him and enjoy him.  I always had to be doing something else.  There is another family in my subdivision who are right outt of a Norman Rockwell scene.  They spend every waking moment with each other, every meal together etc.  I wish I had that tight bond with my family.  Anyway, money is tight here so we have not had a family vacation in about 5 yrs. My son will go on vacation with these people, camping, waterparks, you name it.  I am afraid that he will always think back at the good times that he spent with....another family!!! 

I think the ADD plays a big role in this.  I myself do not have to patience to sit and play a board game.   At the age of your son, even a trip to the grocery store or any errand that you run can be made into a good memory for him.  Even tho you are not sitting and playing he might remember the goofy times you had running errands.  I know my son does.

Hope this helps

I had the same problem when my kids were that age.  I think lots of people do, but ADD makes it harder. 

Someone gave me some advice that really helped, so I'll pass it on to you.  She said to try to concentrate on things about your kid that you like, while you're playing blocks or dolls or some other preschool stuff, so it's not so boring.  Things like; how pretty their hair is, the shape of their ears, look at the way their fingers tapers or not.  the tone of their voice, etc. 

This really helped me sit and play games that I found extremely tedious.  Especially when they start to play board game like Chutes and Ladders.  I could study them for ever that way, and they never know you're not totally fascinated w/ peek a boo.  However, I did draw the line at playing barbies! lol, I could not handle that!  Thank God for little sisters.

Don't beat yourself up, most toddlers are not the most stimulating people!  But they grow out of it.  Now my girls are 11 and 14 and are lots of fun to hang with( unless they're being punky teens, which they are from time to time!)

Barb