Frusteration Beyond Belief | ADHD Information

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I'm not that bad about asking help - except at malls when I'm shopping, I never seem to be able to ask for assistance. Having been recently diagnosed and going to school, I guess the one thing I always turn away is this "special education." I'm smart, but they seem to want to stuff me in the "special" department and just get me dealt with, because by god they can't have an ADD person in with the "normal" kids. Sorry people, I'm not slow, maybe give me planner to organize my life, but I don't need help with my intelligence...   

K, so....an amazing day at the lake with 4 of my friends...insanely fun minus one  problem. People getting frusterated with my frusteration. LOL. Example...flying kites, which I love doing, but it generally happens that the strings will get tangled and crossed. I am TRYING to help by holding the string while someone works it, and finally I just have to say "I'm really sorry, but I can NOT look at this anymore without going mad." and its so Honest! It really is making me really angry and anxious. (I don't take meds on the weekends) Then we go fishing...a great spot, minus it is covered in trees. We all get a little hooked up sometimes...snagged on rocks and limbs and when I ask for help, so I dont have to go craaaazy or freak out trying to undo the hook, I get a lecture from people about being 'helpless' or doing this for myself, esp when I couldn't help earlier, my friends know I take meds, are they being brats or should I take meds everyday?

I know y'all arent dr's but I was just wondering if that ever happens to y'all...

grr...

Mmmmm, not really I'm quite the opposite but it causes just as many problems. I get frusterated with people helping me...

I can't accept help well at all....

Maybe if you find ONE person that you can confide and talk to about it, they'll understand and ask them for help as opposed to looking like a burden on the group typa thing..

anyone else not able to accept help?

Slightly different I learned to resent help because when people help me they treat me like I'm dumb... I HATE that.

HATE.

Among other things I have this NEED to feel accomplished... like I can and DO do things on my own.... Likely all because I have such troubles finnishing things...

I feel so bad though! So many people I love try to help me and....

Unless people understand me and can work to my tune, I just can't accept the help?

I never thought about it until now.... oops, looks like I have a few apologies to make.
Yo!  I am severely stuck in the rut of "If you want it done right, do it yourself."  Then my pride takes over and if something is hard or I need help, I either don't or won't ask for help.  I'm getting better as I get older, but my dad was/is the same way and it frustrates me a lot.  I try to think about how I feel about my dad not asking for help and that helps me to realize how other people must feel. 99cobra38481.4152199074same for me, i know i need help but each time friends try to give me some, i just pretend i don't need it. i feel so stupid