I'm 43, ADD and the father of a 12 year old ADD son.
I can relate to your comment about your son 'not listening'. What works for me is to focus on the important issues, and in the grand scheme of life his room is not the most pressing issue.
Experts suggest using instant punishment (because most ADDers live in the here and now). However, please resist the temptation to spank or hit your son. Find another (positive) outlet for your frustration.
I don't spank my children even though I would love to at times. I appreciate all the helpful coments it has helped to know that I am not the only one out there that goes through this. Thanks again:D
A couple of very good books that you should read are: Driven to Distraction and Answers to Distraction. They contain many suggestions for dealing with situations like this.
You are not alone.
My son is now 9 years old when he was 6 the doctors told me he had ADD and it was all ok we delt with it with meds. But now that he is 9 years old he is driving me crazy he acts like he is 2 most the time. I ask him to do something and he wont do it or he says that he has done it and didn't. He punches his brother all the time which his brother is only 5 and acts better then him. I have a 3 year old that listens better too. Anyway I have asked him more then 23 time to pick up his room and he still wont do it I am scared to spank my kids for the fear that I will get them taken away or something so I don't anyway I don't know what to do anymore because he will come home from school and just start throwing a fit about nothing like his brother didn't go to school or something. I don't know what to do anymore my husband works night from 1 pm to about 11pm so I don't have him here when all the kids are home so I get to deal with it on my own. I guess what I am trying to ask is if any of you know how to deal with someone that can't act there age and how do you punsh a child when you are sooo scared of getting them taken away. I mean I would never hurt my child but you know when I was a kids I got spankens for being bad but now days I just don't think you can do it. Anyway I need help because when my son don't listen neither do my other 2. please help I feeling like I am going crazy. I don't know what to do. Thanks for your time