Being a "Grown-up" With ADD | ADHD Information

Thanks TruthSeeker!  I understand what you are saying!  I don't know about you, but I can put on a pretty good front as far as making people think I "got it together", if you know what I mean.  And I know that my husband got a rude awakening of my "true inner self", which I might add he has come to love.  My Dr. Has asked me to please read "Driven to Distraction"  not sure of the author...but he Swears that its a Great book for us women especially.  I am going to check it out, just thought I would pass that on and maybe it can offer some good suggestions to us both.  Good Luck, and Congratulations!! I am 24, years of age, getting married in less than 6 months, trying desperatly to level my bills in a retail job that is middle management ( or was ) in retail. The reason for posting here as a reply is that I felt compelled by your situation and think I sympathize regardless of the very different situations I can see we may come from. I have just recently been demoted from a low end management postition because of what I can tell is ADD symtoms.

As a kid, I was diagnosed with ADD, which seems to run in the family on my fathers side. Like most impulsive young dumb kids, I actually thought "ignore it, It'll go away." 10+ years the latter proves this wrong to me and it has taken this long for the realization to sink in now that I am about to be wed in less than 6 months that I might actually have an effect on someone else other than myself. The only thing I can say is a testimony is to that we as the "ADD afflicted" as I have heard it coined seem to rise to the occasion of being in stressful situations, it's just that like an onion it seems to peel away at our layers till there is nothing seemingly left. Organization is a definite problem, concentration, irritability, lack of sleep due to thinking myself to awakeness. This is one of the reasons this post is 5am in the morning for me .

Anythoughts or ideas, please let me know as to even hearing from others is a constant help and would atleast make us feel better 

Thanx,
TruthSeeker

Hello All!  I am pretty new here.  I visit from time to time and can relate to much of the topics discussed.  I am 28 years old, married, mother of two .  I wasn't diagnosed with ADD until I was 25.  My 8 year old son is ADHD.  It wasn't until the birth of my daughter that I realized I had to seek professional help.  I was making D's by 2nd grand and F's in 4th.In elementary school, many of us girls were overlooked because we were not hyper and running around all over the place.  They say that "ADD is more typcle in girls and ADHD in boys", as I am sure you read yourself.  I had the difficulties in school, with friends, getting in to trouble, ect...  Contrary to popular belief, ADHD does not fade away in adulthood. I can testify to that.  For me, it is harder than ever!!!  My son needs a mom who can give him an organized structured environment.  He has had such a hard time in school.  It breaks my heart.  No matter how hard I try, its never enough.  Its very frustrating for us both.  This doesn't make marriage easy either.  Its hard to be a mom to a child with ADHD, a 21 month old and a lover all in one.  Not to mention my full time job in which I have recently had a polite scolding for chronic lateness.  I have to miss a ton of work because my son is in therapy, and my husband is unable to leave his job in the middle of the day every week.  AHHH, I feel like a walking Chaotic Time Bomb waiting to explode.

I have been on Adderall XR 30mg with 150mg of Effexor XR.  My dr just upped me to 40mg on the Adderall.  I haven't started it yet...kind of not sure about it.  I feel like the 30 is working ok.  But, he is the professional, right?

I have started reading a book called "Its Hard To Make A Difference When You Can't Find Your Keys".  Had to get it, thats me, LOL!  Its a "Seven step Path to becoming Truly Organized".  I am feeling pretty good about this so far.  I have already started making a lot of progress.  For instance I HATE folding laundry...  I always shake the clothes out once I get them out of the dryer.   Now, all I do is shake em out and slip on a hanger.  Never had a problem with my hang up clothes, just folding.  This system seems to be working for me so far.  [After all, I have tried so many organization tecniques before and I have to let it prove to me effective. ] My drawers aren't near as messy from shuffling through.  Another Problem I face is my mail, I am always shifting it from here to there.  Now I have made two places for it.  I have a box for mail in my kitchen for me to go through.  And I have also recently purchased a filing cabinet.  I labeled some manilla folders for all of my personal business.  So now It has a place to go after the mail box.  These things may not seem like such a chore to some people, but for us with ADD and ADHD it is.  I think whoever invented the Clorox Wipes, and the ready mops, and the new toilet scrubber brush that dispense soap, are true geniuses.  I have a problem going from task to task.  Often because I may go in one room say to get the broom only to be distracted by something else.  I find that having these little things on hand in each room, like the wipes and toilet brush, makes it easier to just do it and move on.  I must say that this is the most positive I have felt out another, "Mission Organization".

My next major task is to learn to make it a habit to, balance my checkbook.