My Daughter | ADHD Information

Oh my...I must say that the way you 'feel' is quite NORMAL considering what you have to go through. BUT...on the other hand you must consider what SHE must be going through. But you know what? You've come to the right place to 'vent' your frustrations...because we ALL feel this way at some time or another. Don't beat yourself up about your daughter having adhd...it's NOTHING that you did...NOTHING that you didn't do. You seem like a 'very' loving and caring father and for that she should be proud. As for her lashing out at her mom; I think that's quite 'typical' of children with adhd AND I might add that some people here can 'help' you as far as the drug strattera...I recall reading where it does in fact cause 'mood' swings. But I think...(personal opinion) that children with adhd don't 'think' BEFORE they speak...they 'really' and I repeat, 'really' can't help it. But in the end when it's all said and done and the yelling has stopped...they apologize; but the hurt is 'still' there...inside...and as parents our hearts breaks a lil' bit more. But yet we pray for patience...guidance...the ability to understand our children more and live each day. I truly commend you for posting here...you'll find that ALOT of people feel 'just the way you do'. Glad to have read your post.I have a daughter that is ADHD, and for years we suspected it before coming to grips with it. She always had problems concentrating on anything - even the slightest noise would make her lose concentration. The guilt you feel as parents when other children excel while yours appears indifferent (at best) to school is really depressing. My daughter now is 12 1/2 and fights with her mom constantly, althouh she will come back later and apologize. She just doesn't seem to be able to control her emotions and blurts out hurtful things at her mother, and doesn't even care who is listening. The real kicker is that she is intelligent, and was put in a GT program at the local school. Unfortnately, she doesn't study and is unmotivated, and is in danger of being taken out after 2 years in the program. This whole thing depresses me as a father and makes me feel as though I did (or did not) do something early on to bring this about. As far as Strattera, a medication we put her on, I can tell the difference when she uses it. She appears to be able hold some convcentration (not long) which is an improvement. However, I'm worried that it causes some oof these mood swings or at least enhances them. At times there seems like no light at the end of the tunnel, and although I know ADHD is not my fault, you can't help but feel you are a parental failure. How I'd LOVE to have one of hose kids that comes home from school and does all the homework, studies and gets good grades without parental input! I am very jeous of those types of kids and how easy their parents have it! Anyway, i just needed to rage and thaks for any words of advice for a pre-teen ADHD girl...

I also have to daughter with ADHD, the fact of the matter is I just found out when I finally had her tested. It was a shock to me but I always knew my daughter has never excelled in the classroom. My little girl is 8 and I have joint custody of her she really is a smart girl but the her concentration level is down. She is in the 3rd grade and tries really hard to do her work but often gets fustrated and quits. I'm not a teacher so when she didn't do her homework I would often yell and ban her from certain activites not knowing what was really the cause of the problem. Her doctor said she has ADHD (inattentive type) she tends to forget things that was just taught to her she never had a head injury before. Her fund of information and intelligence is poor although I have to disagree with the doctor on the intelligences part. Her behavior is fine well a mannered 8yr old. I think it's rough for her going from mom to dads and back again. Trying to adjust to my rules then her moms rules it's just a mess. I have been very depressed as of late I haven't been able to sleep I just stay up and think about Monk (that's what I call her) to the point where I can't function at work because of lack of sleep. And yes I also feel like a parental failure. Her teachers are going to put her in remdial classes next yr I feel sorry for her, her friends will be in regular classes where my baby will be in Special classes. I have no clue on how we are going to get through this but I believe the LORD will provide.

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