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no i dont think it s you my son is 5 been on adderall xr for almost a month and he too is acting in ways i have not seen before.. yelling all the time crying all the time.. hitting throughing temper fits.. i too cant handle him .. my parents took him today because  my nerves was so bad that i was shaking all over and crying..  i cant take this anymore i have to call the doctor tomorrow.. so you are not alone

may241994@yahoo.com  feel free to drop a line .. it will be nice to chat with someone who knows what i am going through...

 

Brandon5798, It is NOT you.You are not a bad Mother. That is easy to see since you are looking for help and support.

 The CAPD may be part of the difficulty. I do not know anything about CAPD and I also think that the rage may be related to a bi-polar disorder. It could be Obstinate/Defiant Disorder (ODD).

It is important for all children to be given logical and consistent consequences, but especially so for children who are Bi-Polar or ODD.

There are some really good books and programs that are probably available at your local library. "Parenting with Love and Logic" and Becky Baily "Conscience Disipline". Both are wonderful resources. Also if you could find a support group in your area you might find it helpful to hear how other parents deal with challenging behaviors.

I assume that your son attends school. Maybe the school system could help you find some answers.

Good luck and remember you are not the only person in this world having a difficult time with challenging behaviors and there is an answer waiting for you somewhere.

Brandon5798...you are NOT a bad mother In fact, your a great mother simply because your striving towards the goal of your son having quality of life. Every  parent has to decide in a collaborate effort with the doctor what type of treamtnet plan is best for their child but it doesnt make you a bad mother because your child is taking medication  Don't allow anyone to tell you its a good thing if you don't give your child medication as they may be a life saver down the road. Normal side effects of ADHD medication do NOT include rage. If your son is experiencing rage, you need to consult with his doctor because very often, if the child experiences rage when taking ADHD medication and anitdepressants, this could be indicative or bipolar disorder. No one can diagnose your child or pinpoint the problem except a trained clinician specializing in the field of diagnosing and treating childhood disorders. I highly reccomend you contact you child's doctor as soon as possbile. Hang in there and keep us posted.Adderall and all these stimulants have side effects. rage is one of them, call your dr and they will help you. thank you jeff .. i will call her..

Brandon5798!!  You are not a bad Mother is you are seeking help for your son !!!  Take a deep breath.  This is an evil condition, my son suffers from it, as do I.  Always remember, you are a GREAT MOM.  And he is a GREAT KID.  Even though he has the issues at hand, listen to you doctor and keep him on the same medication for at least 5-6 weeks.  With a medical background, and also having first hand experience, its truly does take time for his body to accept the chemistry adjustments to work.  Aderall XR is an exellect drug for the young boys !!  Even if they have the other learning issues, in fact its used for those problems also.  He may he to adjust the dosage to be higher or lower.

I would check out the web site www.adhd.resources.com and do some research before allowing anymore meds to be introduced.  Just to let his body adust to the Aderall XR.  The temper tantrums are normal.  Treat him just like he was when he was three and tell him when he is done to come and talk to you in a calm manner.  In the mean time, make a list of items he breaks during his trantrums, letting him know he will need to pay for them somehow.  Try not to lose your patience and try real hard to not to loose your temper too.  Good luck  Let me know how this approach works!

Thank you and yes, Brandon is still on Paxil? Why do you ask? Where are you from (city, state)? I'm from NJ, I only ask bc I was on Paxil too at one point...how is it working for him? He is doing good with it, as far as i can see...he was taking it for anxiety. my son is 6 years old, has been on ritalin for the last few months, but because its in his system for just a few hrs at a time the evenings were diffucult, the doctor decided to try concerta, he's been on that for 3 weeks and he's the most difficult child i have ever seen. he went from NEVER having problems at school to havin fits, he has thrown out racial slurs, hit older kids, stolen items and EVERYDAY has had an "accident" of some sorts in his pants. Last nite when he asked to play a video game at 9PM i told him no it was to late, he physically attacked me, he was rageing like i have never seen before. Today i decided to give him a ritalin b4 school and called his doctor after to confirm it. I was happy to hear at the end of the school day he was successful., no complaints and no accidents, this evening at home he has been told no a couple times when he's asked for his games and he took it well, actually he is full of love and kisses like he was b4.  I do believe some ADHD meds can cause rage and psycosis, depends on the child.  I also want to add, i have a 12 year old daughter with bipolar and i know my son does not have it, the difference between the 2 is outstanding. I'm up for chatting if anyone needs an extra person to talk to, just email me first at  zAlwayzDreamnz@yahoo.com and i will add ya....goodluck with ur kids it does work really really well for anxiety, I did come off of it recently because there was a problem with distribution.  It was really hard to come off bc I had extreme dizziness.  But that's not the norm.  usually we are tapered off, but I didnt have that option. 

I am in a dilema  and do NOT know where to turn right now.My 7 yr old was diagnosed with ADHD and started on Addreall XR in the a.m. and in the afternoon. Later  he was added to Straterra and no afternoons does of Adderall because of not being able to sleep..things were going well. Then he was diagnosed with anxiety so he was put on paxil to help him and it did. Then right following spring break he went inot having these rages 2-3 times in a week and wasscaring me so we visited the Dr. and he was changed to Concerta for the month of April which did nothing and he was more hyper. When I reported this to his Dr. it was decided to change him back to Adderall and everything else he was taking right before the switch. Now, since all this he has been having what seems to be behavioral problems(does what he wants to when he wants, does not listen to what he is told, has temper tantrums, is really out of control with his behavior like never before) I am upset, tired, frustrated and just do not know what to do., he has literally been ground from Ninetendo since Saturday and things fo not seem to have gotton better since I had taken it away. PLEASE PLEASE help me. Is it me? Am I a bad mother? What do I do? I am going crazy with worry. I did not mention he also has a severe learning disability and is CAPD (Central Auditory Processing Disorder. HELP!

 

 

 

Brandon5798.......what your child is experiencing is rage, not temper tantrums and this poor child is crying out for help. Punishing him for things he has no control over is only exacerbating the situaion. Rage is not a behavior of ADHD or CAPD and I suspect the medications are triggering this reaction based on the information in your post. Your a great mom because your reaching out for help and clearly, you love your child very much. Where you should turn is to a your child's doctor for at this point, you need to ascertain the reason your son is raging two or three times a day. Good luck and keep us posted.you're not a bad mom!!!  you are doing your best to try and understand EVERYTHING that comes along with ADD and the other disorders your son has.  I also wanted to ask you, is your son still on paxil?