hi, i hope that you're all well.
i went to see the learning mentors at my school today because i'm struggling with my exams.
there is another girl in my year with ADHD but she hangs around with the popular people. i have always been scared of popular people because they have always seemed to bully me. Therefore, I have never wanted to see this girl.
However, now the learning mentor has told me to talk to her (her name is abi) but i'm really scared.
Abi has been diagnosed with ADHD for a very long time and her parents, unlike mine, are very supportive of her. She takes ritalin whereas i take concerta xl.
i don't like talking face-2-face as it is, but i have always looked up to abi because i knew i was like her, but she is so good at controlling herself whereas i am very much not.
does anybody have any advice? please?
Talk to her one on one...whatever you do...ONE ON ONE...don't approach her when she's in group, too much a risk that peer pressure will get her to be mean or whatnot....Hello confuzzelled,
For what it's worth, a couple of comments....
First if the 'popular people' bully you, there aren't worthy of your friendship. Forget about them.
Second, if you would like to connect with Abi (and she isn't a bully like them), you could try this: ask Abi to something like a movie where there isn't a lot of pressure to keep a conversation going. After the movie, it would be natural to go for a desert or something and now you have something to laugh and talk about - the movie. Be honest with her and tell her that you admire how she handels ADD...tell her what bugs you about it. (And while you're at it, tell her how the 'popular people' make you uncomfortable...she is probably unaware.)
You may find that ADD 'club members' are always open to helping each other.