Am I Welcome Here? | ADHD Information
Hi All
Im not too sure if I am welcome here, nobody seems to put anything on a forum after me, like I have tainted it or something. Is Paranoia one of our symptoms? I have only just started to get diagnosis results just now, I cant rememer what else I was going to write....sorry evry1.
Zach
We all have ADD..we forget what we saw, who wrote it, if we actually read it..if it will pique our curiosity, if it relates to us..if it holds our interest...
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...wait..what was I writing again?
Welcome to the forums. 8 )
[QUOTE=thejestersmuse]Hi All
Im not too sure if I am welcome here, nobody seems to put anything on a forum after me, like I have tainted it or something. Is Paranoia one of our symptoms? I have only just started to get diagnosis results just now, I cant rememer what else I was going to write....sorry evry1.
Zach
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I feel the same way. I see that people have opened my posts but rarely (i think once) does anyone respond. I dunno if paranoia comes with ADD but I know for sure, I'm paranoid.
I read your post about suicide days. I think it is only normal to wonder about what else is out there. However, there is much to be done in life that can make you happy. Day to day boring and mundane tasks are not for you. You need a challenge in life but it is up to you to find it. Paranoia can be indirectly related. Such as, growing up with ADD so long and being picked on as a kid you may start thinking people are always talking about you. (I do) Even in the virtual world I occasionally think people are talking about me. Other illnesses deveop from untreated adult ADD though. Like anxiety from struggling so long with the disorder. Theres a lot of articles on the net about it ADD & other disorders that can accompany it.Thank you guys.
"I'm not paranoid, I know who's following me!" < Joke!
I think that the challenge itself is staying interested in one thing...
There is only one thing that I have stayed interested in all my life, Shooting guns, I know that sounds a little Manson, but I spent from the age of 16, to 27 in the Army, when I left I ranked 33rd out of the whole british forces, ARMY, Navy, Airforce, Australian Army, French and the Canadian Mounty's... That is not bragging, its an achievement for anyone, never mind an ADHD'er.
I could shoot a bead of sweat from a falling peach at 50 yards...I like that, made it up years ago. I would swap all that and all the great memories that came with it, just to be interested in my life.
You are welcome here, sometimes when people post there is nothing to say so people read it and move on. People only respond when they can relate or have something to offer, it happens to all of us when we post.See? Look. Many of us have now posted after you posted.
I think for a lot of us we went years w/out being diagnosed, but yet we intuitively "knew" there was something different about us. Always trying to seem like everyone else and being afraid someone might find out we're not like everyone else, could lead to some sort of paranoia.
Growing up, I always thought that if my friends ever found out half the thoughts I had running through my head they would think I was a freak and not want to be my friend. Now, I could care less. I am what I am and the friends I have now, love me no matter what.
zach,
I am a middle-aged man, 50's and have been confirmed as "Classic"(whatever that means) ADHD. Life has been Chaos for me, birth family, my wife, 2 sons.
Add to this Dyslexia, Dyspraxia and it is the pic of what i contend with. Only person i am friend to is my wife. Sons, both adults now tolerate me as an image, Dad, their biological father. This Forum over the last 2 years has, when things seemed Black, brought perspective back as i read others experiences. It has great first step for me to Start to come to terms with depression that resulted from my life's experiences and knowing i am not alone, weird, odd, etc. It has brought perspective " I am me, I think, act, understand the world i exist in, in ways no other person does. My understanding of life is valid for me and some of my experiences are of value to others who want to understand ADHD or need to understand it. The very fact that i am a person that fits this profile makes me an asset for those around me when they have questions about ADHD and its linked fellow travellers, as mentioned above.
Your life's experiences are just as valuable, as mine, to you and those around you. You as a Diagnosed ADHDer are a very valuable asset in the community where you live. Your experiences are an asset to some people who visit and use these forums. You are Welcome,and i look forward to sharing this little space with you.One thing i have found, for me, proportion!
Cheers! 
Well, that answers that then.
Thanx Guys.
Reizende, Funny!
Loganmom, For Sure!
GoBigOrange, Nail On Head!
Dvirgo421, Excellent Point, Words From My Mind!
Jillette, Thanx!
SachetM, Food For Thought!
Now,
I think the whole, non-diagnosis thing is a massive issue with our adult personality. That intuitive voice sayin, 'Oi, you are different, dont let anyone see...' that cant be good for our development. I am thinking of doing some kind of project on this whole ADHD / ADD thing, diagnosis, treatment, the psychology of it, stuff like that. But to be honest, I will probably write six thousand words in one night, ignoring my wife and the dishes. Then I will look at it the day after and think, 'What the hell were you thinking dude?'
The same happened with my novel, it took me four weeks to write 35,000 words, then sixteen weeks to do the next 10,000. My publisher is going mental with me, not to mention my friends and family who I asked to read it as I wrote. They have all threatened me to finish it.
Oh golly, I digress. Story of my life.
Thanks again, everyone.
Zach &n bsp; 
LOL Most days I'm so focused on myself I could be in a stadium full of people and not even notice them.
So no worries Jestersmuse and welcome.
Oh and be happy because you're obviously way more observant then the rest of us.
I'm paranoid about posting too. On most forums I lurk, or type long
replies that I never post. I have been trying to make a major effort
here.I just always figure that what I say will piss people off. I so often hear about how arrogant or improper I am that I just feel that what I'll say will be discounted or cause someone to get mad. And I hate people getting mad at me when I'm not in character.
Zach, this is my very first post on this board and I'm posting it to you! Not sure what, if anything, that means, other than I don't want you to feel bad or unwanted--even though I don't know you.
And kudos for your accomplishments--both your firing accuracy and your "peachy" description of it! Here's the trick (I think). It's to find something deep within yourself (the search isn't always so easy but it's pretty darn interesting) that's uniquely you that will allow you to make a contribution. Maybe that's your shooting achievement--or something around that ability to zero in on a target and hit it. There's definitely some specific skill there. My own has to do with seeing connections between bits of information and also some extraordinary sense of perception (that scares too many people to want to develop more than in a "parlor game" kind of way). At 59 I'm still trying to figure out exactly how to use these abilities to 1) make a good living, and 2) make a real contribution to the world. I think I can, if I could just harness these skills. Since I only diagnosed myself this week as being ADD (I'd been diagnosed as bi-polar before so don't know yet if the ADD is "instead of" or "in addition to"), I've yet to begin treatment for the ADD which may be a key. If not, sure another one's close at hand. I've become a detective lately and I WILL find an answer!
My point amidst all this rambling (big surprise) is that it's far from hopeless, even though it may seem so. There are also a whole lot of gifts associated w/ being ADD (and I assume, ADHD, too). Here's something you might try: Get ahold of the DVD of "What the Bleep Do We Know?" (if you're in Europe, not sure how easy it is to get there. Available from Amazon, I think). That may help you change focus to a more positive direction to defeat the negative thoughts that seem more in control. I have so know it's doable.
Anyway, my best wishes to you. I'm sure you'll be fine. You just need to make a few adjustments and you'll be amazed at how happy you can be. Honest. I'm sitting here w/ breast cancer for the second time after just having lost two of my beloved pets w/in the last month and mentally, I feel pretty darned good. That's saying something!
sachetm38502.7000115741Took the words out of my mouth Fallen, this is how I feel all the time about pretty much eveything. I wish I could just post something and just think....'If noone answers I dont care, I said what I came to say,'
But I cant.
Sorry it took me so long to answer by the way, I have been away. Only getting online when I find an access point.
To get your posts read around here you have to pass the initiation ritual. I can't tell you what it is, only that it involves a goat, a quart of maple syrup, a well-used Maytag washing machine, and a pair of leather chaps.
I thought it involved a goat, a donkey, a gallon of crisco, a midget (sorry if I offend, really), and a whip. If not then I want to know who that was at my front door a couple of weeks ago...?
(I am a sick, sick girl.)
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I thought it involved a goat, a donkey, a gallon of crisco, a midget (sorry if I offend, really), and a whip. If not then I want to know who that was at my front door a couple of weeks ago...?
(I am a sick, sick girl.)
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No, that was the initiation committee. But since then the donkey ran off and the midget's bursitis has been acting up. We've had to improvise ever since.
[QUOTE=thejestersmuse]
Hi All
Im not too sure if I am welcome here, nobody seems to put anything on a forum after me, like I have tainted it or something. Is Paranoia one of our symptoms? I have only just started to get diagnosis results just now, I cant rememer what else I was going to write....sorry evry1.
Zach 
Well, a bunch of us were just going to quietly stalk you for a while. But it looks as though your on to us.
I just want to say how much I appreciate everyone sharing their stories on here. I am 31 and newly diagnosed and reading your words has been a comfort for me, for at last i feel as if i belong. I feel like a whole new world has been opened up. thank you again and i look forward to reading more.
nat
of course you are welcome here. Don't know if paranoia is part of ADD but hypersensitivity is. Most of are hypersensitive to the response of others because of the negative history we have had. Remember we are all in the same boat here. I tend to hyperfocus on things and miss details. Sorry you felt unwelcomed. Hope that has changed.
Oh, Jerber and Dvirgo - Yall left out the duct tape
Countrygirl38855.236400463Hello,
You get a welcome from me too. Sorry if I missed your posts. Sometimes I get real busy with my 2 jobs and don't get on the board for a little while or it might be that I am looking for my missing shoe.
Welcome! Deemkr82863,
Iam an old adhder with longterm depression which has it's roots in my lack of self belief because, dispite the 3 great strenghts of adhd, i never got near in life what i was naturally capable of. How my life has changed by seeing myself as i am as a person post diagnosis. I am so blessed with the innate traits that make up my personality. I love that saying, "I am special cause God made me and God dont make junk" The real advantage to having an ADHD profile, for me is i bring a particular view to many situations that other folk would not be capable of coming up with. It is due to one of the other standards of most adhder profiles, "Out of the Box style of Thinking." Welcome aboard the world of the most valuable discovery since Intellect, Namely The ADHD Profile
OPPS are the plonkers in...
there goes my impulsivity again..
Welcome to the group. You'll find alot of very wonderful supportive people here who can relate to each other, & help each other.I've lived all of my life with ADD/ADHD, & feeling depressed. I was diagnosed with manic depression in 1992 & recently I realized that I'm combination ADD/ADHD. Until recently I've had a VERY low self-esteem, if any at all. I've been in relationships where the person I was with has done their best to beat me down even lower than I already was, & it didn't help that my mother had done that as well. It sounds like you have a low self esteem. DON'T let anybody make you feel like you're not worth something. You're valuable to God. I have a saying that a former counselor taught me. I know I'm special cause God made me, & God don't make junk. I tell myself that everyday. I have a life to live, & by God I aim to enjoy it, & you should too. Find something you enjoy doing whether it's a job or hobby, but you have a life to live, enjoy your life to its fullest.
mkr8286338878.3336226852zach
who cares if a bunch of mental patients scattered across the globe respond to your posts.. f**k it
oh sh*t i 4got to call me shrink
Zach -
Try posting on this forum:
http://www.addforums.com/forums/index.php?
Graci
I Don't know why your posts has not been answered,i never come to this board,as i only have just been diagnosed.i am usually on the parent board or the basement.
try the men or women board at the top it gets more answer than this one.
[QUOTE=Fallen]I'm paranoid about posting too. On most forums I lurk, or type long replies that I never post. I have been trying to make a major effort here.
I just always figure that what I say will piss people off.
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Falllen, are we twins?