Guys with ADD get lots of girls...? | ADHD Information

I'm actually ashamed of this now, but I have no idea how many women I've slept with.. Easily over 100 in my lifetime and I'm 35.

Maybe to feel as though I fit into a world that had chastised me most of my adolescence, I hyperfocused on being desired sexually to compensate. And man did I hyperfocus..

same for me, but it took me ages to notice i attracted women in a way others men didn't I dated one guy that had ADD (I am sure of it), however his family doctor put him on anti-psychotics instead of Ritalin. That boy was always bouncing off the walls. Anyway, he had had 3 girfriends prior to me. Not sure why not more he had the charm. Could it be his hyperactivity? We had most entertaining dates out of all the ex's. Hiking, art galleries, movies, amusements parks, sightseeing tours. It was a lot of fun.

One of the several benefits of having add/hd, is that it seems that guys with add get lots of girls. I've noticed that a lot of my friends with add are either friends with lots of girls, or are good at attracting women.

I was wondering if anyone else noticed this.

I have.

Okay, here's a theory for all of you. Boys/men with ADD/ADHD tend to be impulsive, when a person is impulsive they don't tend to make the best choices, they become the "bad boy". Aren't we girls attracted to the "bad boy"?

As a teen I was very promiscuous (not something I'm proud of), but I LOVED the chase, the conquest, and to be wanted. I craved the stimulation it brought. Could be the same for men. I just think girls are better at hiding it, because it isn't socially acceptable for a girl to sleep around. I hid it, I made sure I never dated a guy from my school, and usually dated outside of my school district.

What do you all think?

I was celibate in high school. I just feared pregnancy & diseases more than anything else so I never tried it.I was too painfully shy to date in high school. I also had no self-confidence whatsoever, and assume that's why I was never asked on dates. Guys generally aren't attracted to the quiet loser who sits in the corner, trying to look as small and inconspicuous as possible.

personally i haven't dated a lot, or been promiscuous. with me, i think it is because i have so often felt bad about myself.

being painfully aware of my quick temper, bad moods, inconsistent behaviour, and "differentness", i have tended to shy away from most social situations. i have suffered a lack of confidence most of my life.

if not for that, i probably could have slept around like a rock star. my friends are always commenting on the attention i get from women when we're out. i just rarely notice it myself, being as introverted as i tend to be.

With me it goes in phases. When I'm not with someone women treat me like a leper. When I am in a relationship, I get tons of attention. I haven't cheated on a girlfriend yet, but I have found myself having to say *No!* to people to the point of embarrasing them. There must be something with a difference in my attitude. I haven't been able to pin it down.

Here's my explanation as to why women are attracted to men with add:

1. My mind is always racing with thoughts. So when I'm talking to a girl, I look her eye to eye, and I usually don't break eye contact because I'm always thinking during a conversation.

2. I'm very emotional. So when I'm happy, I smile a lot. I'm usually happy and I smile when I talk to an attractive woman.

3. I'm a good conversationalist. Again, because I have add, I usually have lots of racing thoughts. So I usually ask girls a lot of questions, and listen intentively.

4. I'm impulsive. So I develop a crush on every attractive girl I talk to.

5. I'm down to earth. While most of my friends make fun or tease girls, I usually just want to talk to girls.

6. I'm in college, and I stare at girls (same as number 1). This is something I can't help, and girls take it as me liking them.

7. I'm funny, witty and intelligent.

These are some of the reasons why girls would be attracted to a guy with add/hd, depending on how you use your personality.

I'm a chick magnet...now only if my witty charm would work on my wife.

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