Hold on To Your Kids | ADHD Information

Hold on To Your Kids- WHY PARENTS NEED TO MATTER MORE THAN PEERS by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Gabore Mate.  Just read this book and it really makes you think.  Its basically about connecting with your children and staying connected.  Like all books you will disagree with some of it but the basic message is really important to me anyways.  Just thought I'd share it with those who find there children are more involved in peers than with wanting to spend time with you.  Its not the most interesting reading but I found it informative and thought provoking.  Some of it is very good.To me its normal at pretten years and teen years to be that way I thought.It shows a sign of growing up I thought. Any other thoughts on this.I thought that too but the book says that peers should be important but not more important than parents, which the latter is usually what happens.  It explains the danger of peers becoming more important; rejection of parents views, limits, sharing their feelings, worries  etc.,  when they really are not ready to be able to form real friendships -this is a skill developed later in life.  I started implementing some of the basics like greeting them in a friendly interested manner in the a.m, after school etc.  Letting them know they are important and what they say is important, and noticed a change in my son (ADHD), he will accept physical affection more readily, and talk more often etc.    Like I said though some of the book is B.S., but most of it applies and fits.  I don't believe kids should be wandering around the community in groups, or out after dark.  You're asking for trouble, but alot of it happens.  It's a good book for parents to read who a transitioning from childhood to teen years.sue239,

thanks for the post.  i'll check this book out but i can already tell (by what you have posted) that i like it!

i recently "took back" my soon to be 12 year old.  the past year we have been drifting apart.  she was becoming more distant, vague and smart mouthed.   i always thought i knew her and  her intertests but i now realize i did not.

i have instituted a plan to know what she's doing, who her friends are and a stronger rules/consequences to follow.  we spend more time together, talk more and have way more fun than we have in over a year.  she's a good kid, student and athlete.  i'd like to keep it that way and  stay on top of things.

there's no way my kids will EVER be out after dark, wandering around in groups. 

kppy
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