Judgemental People

[QUOTE=redhead]I would of told the nurse to **** off, and then mind your own business, or you should of said, you can deal with her let's see what a good job you do. I hate people who think they know everything. yeah right [/QUOTE]

Now after having 3 children I have found the judgemental ones either

A. have no children

B. only have children under a year old in their home

C. were lucky enough to have VERY well behaved children.

SO now when someone makes comments I snicker to myself and secretly wish a challenging toddler on them

All the talk about nosey people in public reminded me of a time long ago with my now 11 yo daughter who was about 2 at the time.  She had major speach delays and was also on Phenobarbitol for seizures (yes we have 2 with seizures) and this added up into a VERY high strung child who's tantrums where like I was killing her.

We were leaving the docs office in a big building with like 100 different docs and I was trying to put her coat on as my husband pulled the car around.  Well she was mad at the doctor for not giving her the entire roll of stickers so this made for a major meltdown in the lobby.  She was kicking and screaming and crying and we were getting alot of stared which I learned long before to ignore  so she starts kicking me in the shins as she lay on the floor still melting down.  I was talking softly trying to distract her and get the heck out of there fast when a nurse walks by looks at me as I'm trying to fight a 2yo in a tantrum to put a coat on when it's 5 degrees outside and says to me "I think I should call the cops on you" and proceeds to call security!!! Security came and talked to me and at this point I was mad and crying and frustrated....he told the nurse I have 6 kids and what this child is doing is nothing new and not a sign of something wrong so please back off and leave the girl alone LMAO!!! HE felt so bad for me after that I learned coat or no coat when a tantrum is in progress scoop and ruN!

AmyMom23,

I couldn't help it because I'm sure it wasn't funny at all at the time but I had a big "belly laugh" over your  "Scoop and Run"  

 This one had me laughing. I know it wasn't funny, but it amazes me that we have come so far in so few years and still some people haven't improved intelligently.

My best friend has a two yr old and when he's around her he's an absolute terror. She asked me to babysit once and I told her, "You may not want me to do this hon, cause I discipline differently than you do. And at my house, the rules don't change." But she assured me that she really wanted me to. When he got to my house he found out that when Aunt Liss said no, she meant no. And I would give him a spat on the bottom if he kept doing it.  When I tapped him that first time his eyes were big as saucers. But he quickly learned what was allowed and what wasn't. Now any time she puts him in the car he's calling for Aunt Liss. She can't understand it, and frankly, neither can I.

We were in Wal-mart one day and he threw himself on the floor kicking and screaming, red faced and everything. She tried to talk him out of his tantrum to no avail. I told him to get up or else Iwas going to leave him there till he got over it and he stopped. What is up with that. She and I both have older kids, mine's 10 her oldest son is 8 and believe it or not, he takes his que from the 2 yr old. Nutty.

Its amazing that parents that discipline aren't afraid to do it in public, but the abusers do it in private so they can't be seen. Ever notice that????

amy mom: another reason I found is some else is raising there kids, babysitter, nanny......

I babysit out of the house and had as much as 14 kids here.  My little ones leave crying and carrying on because they don't want to leave because my rules do not change for any child at my house.  if my kids can't do it niether can anyone elses.  I will discipline anyones child at my house other wise my children will do it too. 

and to Drus mom I absolutely agree.  I am not afraid to discipline anywhere, so I guess I am not an abuser.  My 11 year adhder as taught me it doesn't matter where we are she has run away, tantrums and stole things so there is no holds barred.

First .. I can't even begin to tell you how much I admire AmyMom23 .. that you can laugh and even exhibit grace toward this nurse is amazing.  Kudos to you. 

Second .. I have found that other people's children behave better for me than my own.  It's not becaue I change the way that I discipline, it's about comfort level.  I expect the same behavior from other people's children as I do my own.  I do discipline other people's children when they are in my house.  And they behave .. but heck, if I were a kid in someone else's house and the adult were disciplining me I'd take that pretty seriously .. a lot more seriously that when my mom did it.  I mean I KNOW that my mom loves me.  Temper tantrums are a normal behavior for a child of a certain age.  They don't have them because they have bad parents who can't discipline.