Predictability | ADHD Information

Help!!! Can an adder live happily with a person who expects predictability, and wants a life without chaos?

Does anyone have any advise or techniques!

Let them take the ADHD meds and get everything
done, quickly and predictably themselves!
(just kidding! maybe some coffee, though?)
... seriously, though, find out what things are really
important to them (like, a clean bathroom, bills
getting paid, dinner on the table at 5pm precicely,
etc.). Have an agenda and write in the things that
both of you can agree on (for me, I have to
conceptually understand that a particular thing is
important to do, and not just tie the responsibility into
needing to satisfy another person). What is the other
person willing to do? (I assume you are sharing
living space living with, not just "dealing with" living
with) Lots of books offer the suggestion that if if can
be divided up like this, let the super precise
(probalbly non-ADHD) get stuff like bills, rent (very
time dependant, heavy external consequence stuff)
done, and agree on the other stuff.
You both need to be forgiving of each other, too, as
much as possible. You won't always maintain
predictability, so the other person needs to
understand this (and remember what they enjoy
about you!). He or she will also not always be able to
remember that much of your "chaos" will stem from
ADHD, so be forgiving of that and wait it out,
explaining when you are both calm. (although being
flexible and understanding that s**t happens seems
to be a common ADHD/ADD trait, as I read on a
recent thread)
I hope this is helpful/ somewhat applicable.
Predictability and no chaos living with a person with add- dont see that happening. Honestly, no matter how hard I try, how much therapy I get, how much structure I put in my life, I cant get there.

I've been in relationships with men who expect order and predictability, and they never worked. They would be drawn toward me for my lightheartedness and then spend the next year growing more and more aggravated at my inability to become the stolid logic oriented person they needed in their lives.

I think that the person you are with needs to have a full understanding of adhd and acceptance of its traits in order for the relationship to work. And your responsibility is to put your best effort forward to manage your adhd.

Trying to fly

Thank you for the suggestions.