Why I deleted My Post | ADHD Information

You know, if you're going to post a volatile topic on a public message board, you can't get all hacked off if people don't agree with you. And, if you post it in an accusing and hostile way, yes you're going to get backlash.

You're leaving? Thanks for the dramatic goodbye. Thanks also for being a woman hater. We don't respond to you just the way you deem appropriate? Well, gee, our apologies that we forgot to ask you what your rules for us were! Consider that you get to post whatever you think, and we do too. Its a small man that can't accept that.

I'm glad I wasn't in on whatever the breastfeeding thing was. When you can grow breasts and feed a baby, then you may offer your directions on how others may do it. Then again, you need to accept the fact that people will tell you to take a hike!

Interesting observation. You never hear happy, well-rounded and secure men say things like that.

[QUOTE=arbiterxero] Women....all the damn same.....

I'm not trying to start a fight, I'd just like some of you to try and see the other side.... not that I expect anyone to listen.....
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[QUOTE=arbiterxero] Women....all the damn same.....

Seriously .. you want to stand behind that statement? women are all the damn same???? that has to be the most ingnorant statement that I have ever heard. You don't want to start a fight???? Are you insane? You can't come here, say something like that, and not expect a fight. Sinlgedad has had toruble because of women???? You know what? I am a sinlge mom because BOTH of my husbands had affairs and left me while I was pregnant with their children ... I have had a hard time because of men! And you don't see me man bashing! But I suppose you think that my husbands left me becuse I am a woman... and well all women are the damn same. Since woman cause a lot of damage I probably deserved it. What a hurtful, stupid, awful, ignorant thing to say.

[QUOTE=arbiterxero] Women....all the damn same.....

Listen I'm not specifically a woman hater but women get away with everything. The other day a man scolded a 14 year old girl he almost ran over because she darted out into traffic.....now he's a registered "sex offender"

if any man were to pull some of the garbage that most women pull every day, he'd be in jail, fired, poor, beaten up, you name it.

Singledad1boy is a reasonable man. He may have hit some of you the wrong way but keep in mind he's had a difficult time because of women. I know his fight well, women tend to very easily do alot of damage.

I'm not trying to start a fight, I'd just like some of you to try and see the other side.... not that I expect anyone to listen.....
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Many people have a hard time with the other sex at one time or another, its called life......

[Many people have a hard time with the other sex at one time or another, its called life......

Way to jump to conclusions. Nowhere did I say that everything was women's fault. I bet you take NO responsibility in their leaving. What kind of men do you date anyways?

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Way to jump to conclusions, or is the irony lost on you. Oh, I get it, you were just trying to be nasty.

The whole point of my post was to point out the absurdity of of your statements but making extreme jumps of my own .. of course the subtly was lost on you. The point was that we each come to this board with our own issues, our own life experiences, our own heartbreaks and disappointments. That doesn't give us the right to attack, generalize or blame. You deal with it and you try to come to others as a whole person.

[QUOTE=arbiterxero] Losing a child has nothing to do with being male or female....

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Did you read my post? My point was to show you that we all suffer as humans-male of female-it doesn't matter-we all have our obstacles.

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Who's upset that leigh tried to "attack" my stability and man hood?

take a step back. TRY to see the other side.

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Ok-now we can start. I agree that there are women out there who do such horrible things. I am upset about what Leigh did to you-it gives women everywhere a bad name. And she should be thinking about your daughter and what she needs not trying to be vindictive toward you! But you also have to know that there are many wonderful women out there who would never think of acting in such a manner. Please don't let what happened to you make you bitter toward all women.

[QUOTE=arbiterxero]okay, let's say you're right.......

Why is it then you aren't scolding ogram for similar behavior? why is everybody going after me and just sitting by the wayside with ogram?

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Why is it then you aren't scolding ogram for similar behavior? why is everybody going after me and just sitting by the wayside with ogram?

Not that I blame anyone but .......

I'm not upset! AHHHH!!!! I'm just trying to show you the other side of things.....
BLEH! I'm done with this.
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what the h*ll have i ever done to you? If you have a problem with me, take it to me directly. I am the ONLY one who can be accountable for MY actions. If you have a problem, or want to battle whits, I'm here. don't you dare blame any one else on here for my behavior. To be honest, I have no blanking idea what you are talking about. I've never said anything to you. I don't care if you hate women or not. it's not my business. but if you think for one minute I'm going to NOT defend my self, you are sadly mistaken. from what I've seen on this board, if a woman doesn't agree with a man, it makes us look bad to every one else. so, if i stand up and defend myself, that makes me an ass hole? Give me a break. look around. read stuff I have posted. If i have not attacked you, keep you mouth shut. I have NEVER attacked anyone first. Heck, half the sh*t that comes up on this board it just some one trying to bully others and the administrator doesn't do any thing about it. Grow up. You have no idea about women and we have no idea about men. But you don't see us women yelling and wining about how bad men are. you have to give respect to get it. If you care to elaborate on your statements about me, I'd love to hear it. Other wise get over your self. It looks like to me that if someone has an opinion you don't like or agree with, you black ball them and point fingers. If any one has a problem with me, tell me, don't bring it up to try and justify your own behavior.

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Who's upset that leigh tried to "attack" my stability and man hood?

take a step back. TRY to see the other side.

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Oh for the love of Pete. Does anyone know happy, secure guys who say things like "women are all the damn same?" and I'm not talking about in a joking sense either. I'm talking about the way the guy here said it. Be upset. I'm not attacking anyone. I said that was an observation. This is so ridiculous it's funny. I'm sorry I posted on this topic. I joined the site for my child and no other reason. Unfortunately, I was curioius when I saw the title of this topic and finally read some posts. I am definitely hitting the "unwatch" button after posting this reply. I'm sorry my observation offended the other people who have posted THEIR observations. Heading off to my "regular" topics.

I owe Leigh an apology-I was confused and thought that Leigh was the name of Arbiterxero's daughters mother who was trying to keep him away from her!

FYI-I happen to agree with Leigh and I really think "attacking your stability and manhood" is a bit of a stretch!

arbiterxero: i don't attack anyone and then run. I have never just right out attacked any one on here. If someone on here defends themself you consider that an attack. this is what i call a "tuck tail". You knew you were going to up set some one. Good job. And, no i was not mad the first time i posted to you. you know nothing about me or what i'm about. if you did know me most of what i say is all in fun and games. I know you will have to have the last word, so I'm waiting.

i see the kitchen is getting hot again. don't tuck tail. I'd like to hear what you have to say on why you drug me into it. or was that just a way for you to try and justify you bold statement? I'm NOT mad. I am just courous. It's not right to try to sucker punch

some one and then run.

If you don't respond to the question, i guess that will answer my question, i've done NOTHING lmao

Wah,Wah,Wah! Everyone has it rough! You don't know what people-women or men have gone through on this post! You think you have it rough-try losing a child?????

Does this forum just attract irrational men who don't think things through before attacking people and spewing off at the mouth?

Do you have any idea what it's like trying to get fair treatment as a women? PLEASE-we haven't been voting for that long-so don't go there. Not to mention we still don't get equal pay. Trying whining to a black man or woman about how unfair your treatment is. Do you really have any idea? All people suffer for one reason or another-MALE and FEMALE alike! We all have onstacles-so there will be no pity party here for you today-I'm busy throwing my own!

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Who's upset that leigh tried to "attack" my stability and man hood?

take a step back. TRY to see the other side.

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I'm assuming you didnt get a chance to read Singledads original posts because he conveniently deleted them, but the only reason we are "attacking" him is because he deliberatly posted infalmmatory comments so that he could play the victim to us hateful evil women. I don't condone man-bashing or woman-bashing. but it comes down to reaping what you sow.

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dude: how many times do i have to tell you I am not mad. And frankly, I don't really care. But it's a double edged sward. If i care i'm emotional, if i don't you think i'm mad. hell, i can't do any thing right. let it go. you don't have to appologize for your feelings. they are not right they are not wrong. they are feelings. i don't care if i win or loose. so, i'll say it, you win. how bout that? let it go already. i did right after you posted directly to me. you proved your point. At least you have feelings. lmao I know alot of men that don't.

I HAVE A SMILE ON MY FACE!!! You don't know me. If you did, you wouldn't think I am mad.

For some reason, try as I might this morning, I could not get a post to go through! I tried about 6 times to post on this thread and finally gave up.

Arbiterzero, I think you did an ignorant and insulting thing with your comment about all dman women being the same. First of all, going back to something you quizzed East West on, if all the women in your life have had such a negative impact on your life that you have to be so condescending,

Basically, I disagree with your statement. I disagree with the way you went about making your argument. I think it was in very poor taste to make such a sweeping comment about women - we don't all fall into the category you made for us. I certainly don't. And as for women getting heat for being hateful to men, if I'd seen that here I'd have spoken up. In this case, I didn't see anything like that.

All I saw was you putting all women down as a group, and that just tells me you need to get out more and meet nicer people.

i don't see a offering any where. read what you wrote. like i said, i am not mad, and i never was. you can think of it any way you want. doesn't matter to me. really, let it go. why doesn't that make since to you?

you can think of me as mean. My hubby will agree.

By the way, I do agree with you about the bad guy theory. But, what you are leaving out (or maybe you don't know) after a few bad boy relationships, women tend to go for the good guy.

Okay it's great you all say you go for the nice guys but I think you're full of it. Not specifically you, just the odds that there are so many in one place. Seriously. I've heard it before and I'm sure I'll hear it again, most women claim that they go for the nice guy, but if that were true, how do the "assholes" get dates?

and for that matter, why is it the nice guys are usually alone?

Such claims are great and if you all do go for the nice guy ....that's SPECTACULAR. Just not likely. Do you at least see my point? I'll admit I'm an asshole... I have my nicer side, but on the most part, I'm most definately an ass, and the reality is that half of my 'nice' friends have begun to hate me because women they like end up flirting with me, and I'm not looking, I'm just trying to be nice and accepting to them! AHHH!

Secondly, as much of a super-hero as we all are, I've mentioned the the same thing before in another thread, entirely not threateningly and the same thing happened. NOBODY noticed a thing. Again, I'm not in a bad situation, but the idea that anybody would have cared had I worded it differently doesn't work. and it doesn't happen either.

There are exceptions to every rule but if you're looking for reality, women like assholes and guys aren't taken seriously as loving parents, emotional beings or abuse victims in need of help.

That's not to say men have it any worse than women, that's just a list of reality from the other side of the looking glass.

No, I really do go for the nice guy. I used to be one of the women you describe, but I grew out of it. My husband is a professional musician, very artistic and quiet, he goes to church twice a week, he does not do drugs, drink or, even, smoke. He calls me every night before he comes home from work to see if I need him to get me anything. He takes in stray animals--two of his dogs and one of our horses were "throw aways." He brings home flowers for no reason. And he's a great father.

I used to say I had dated every jerk in Texas. In the end though, I married a very nice man. My only complaints are that he does not clean up after himself AT ALL and, when he cooks, which is rare, everything he makes has tofu in it. Oh, well.

Oh no!!! you were the one who convinced me to try tofu! and I like it!!!!!! :) Maybe I should have you guys over for dinner ... I clean up after myself

I have been busy today therefore I did not have time to respond to the post. I deleted my post because I never dreamed stating an opinion (Which I stand behind....if you breast feed your child at 3 years old it is not for the child it is for you... not the child).

1. I spend too much time on it and need to focus more on work because I am getting behind.

I deleted my post because some research does not set well with those who have specific ideas about their world and refuse to think it may be differnt than the TV and their limited experiences lead them to beleive.

YES YOU ARE RIGHT. I am basically a woman hater. There I said it. Are you happy. And its because of the exact way women respond when you say they may not be parent of the year that makes me that way. Last week I was man of the year and then I say something that one or two takes offense to and then everyone jumps on a banwagon.

ps. If you really think something as insignifiant as a message board influences my real life..... HAA HAA HAA. I could care less what you really think of me.

IYES YOU ARE RIGHT. I am basically a woman hater. There I said it. Are you happy. And its because of the exact way women respond when you say they may not be parent of the year that makes me that way. Last week I was man of the year and then I say something that one or two takes offense to and then everyone jumps on a banwagon.

Singledad, before you go, you may want to consider that it just might me the WAY you say things to women that get such a reaction. There are certainly ways to state an opinion, fact or beleif without ruffling feathers.

You like the slap in the face approach, and thats you prerogative, BUT if that is how you chose to deliver your message, do not be surprised by the response.

. Last week I was man of the year and then I say something that one or two takes offense to and then everyone jumps on a banwagon.

He's got alot of problems!!!!!!!!!!! He just wants us to beg for him to come back. I for one don't think he was even close to man of the year. Maybe that's what he tells himself to make him feel better. I could call my self mom of the year, too. But that would be lying. If he hates women so much, he needs to stay away from here. We have enough problems with our childer, we don't need an ADULT MAN CHILD dragging us down. Well, I should say I and me instead of we and us. He's sick and i don't think adhd is just the beginning of his problems.

He will be back. When he gets his panties in a wad he'll have to come on here to make him self feel more like a man.

1. I spend too much time on it and need to focus more on work because I am getting behind.

ps. If you really think something as insignifiant as a message board influences my real life..... HAA HAA HAA. I could care less what you really think of me.

why don't we all just say we agree with you. oh, wait a minute, i think we all did already. when is this topic going to vanish? the topic if dead. of course that's my fault, i'm bipolar and always mad, even when i laugh, 'cause i have chatters cat at my house. lol

you guys crack me up. i'll bet i get blamed for all this sh*t too. lmao!!!!!!!! i'm an easy target. wtf? a chick split in half. give me a break. what kind of councilor was she? probably the same kind that kandi was. wine wine wine, i have lots of cheese. the only way a person can make me stay in a situation like this, is if he was to cut my legs so i wont run, cut my arms so i cannot call and cut my head off 'cause i'd bitch and nag so much it'd drive him to the looney bin I came from in the first place. lmao Now for real, what IF she is really telling the truth?

I think not. OOPS I guess this is the personal attack that dude with the weard name was talking about. he must have pms, no i mean esp.

Basically, I do go for the nice guy. My husband's awesome! I approach the world and the people I meet thinking positively about them unless they show me some reason not to.

I did miss alot here lately, because my husband had surgery, and I've had my hands full. I'm not online as much as I'd like to be.

Like I said, I was trying to post these thoughts this morning around 9am, and they weren't going through. I'm not trying to trudge up things just to drag in on another day, but I wanted to tell you how I felt, and this was the first chance I had to do it.

As for if you needed help, for depression or whatever, if you let people know what you need without getting confrontational, I for one would be here to support you. I've looked for support here and elsewhere for a lot of things lately. I for one wouldn't stand by and let someone suffer, male or female. My brain just doesn't work that way. Men and women do get bad raps for different things, but both sexes are capable of compassion.

I just hated the categorization, and the insinuation that it showed that women are basically bad.

Are anyone else's eyes bleeding??? My GOD these people have excrutiatingly long posts!!!!

Generalize- to form (a general opinion or conclusion) from only a few facts or cases.

you are a very wise woman. oh, wait a minute. that could be considered me being mean or bipolar. lol

[QUOTE=lillian]Anybody bored and want to see a cat fight? There's a good one going on. [/QUOTE]

I definitely think Kindred is a fraud, and no I dont think Kindred and Auntie are the same person.....BUT I think Kindred and Singledad just might be the same person...lets look at the facts shall we?

2. kindred/singledad both have that same "poor me" techinique. They post this heart tugging sob story about how hard their life is and then the minute you start to buy into it BAM!! they get all psycho on ya!

3. They're pretty damn preachy. I don't mind someone showing off their book learnin. but keep the rhetoric to a minimun please!!!!!

4. They LOVE to go to the statistics and list facts.....oh wait....I'm doing that now..arent I?....crap

And BY THE WAY. If this Kindred chick was a family therapist for so damn long....how come she couldnt see the signs in her "husband" before they got hitched!!!!

And is it just me or is this chick always in the throes of some medical emergency or another? Kidney stones, chronic pain.. and my personal favorite....Emergency Breast Surgery?....what is that exactly....did one fall off and she had to sew it back on?

If it was breast cancer she would have used those words (thats for those of you who were gonna write back about that)