Anyone else have these feelings? | ADHD Information

I don't enjoy going on vacation with my extended family. I have always enjoyed just going on vaction with my spouse and now I look forward to vacations with my daughter but the extended family no way! I don't like having to stay in the house with all those people, doing things with those people and eating dinner with them. It is not that I don't like them... they are wonderful people. Is that wrong? I try to explain it to my family and they have a difficult time understanding, does anyone think it maybe from ADD? Or am i just being selfish? It causes me some inner pain because my 16 month old daughter will be going on her first vacation without her Dad plus my wife will be 7 months pregnant at that time. I just don't know why I can't force myself to go.  I tried once before for three days and I found myself drinking way too much! Any ideas?I think most people ADD or not have those feelings. But yes, I find it very difficult to just be around people. Extended family is tough because they're a group of people that its extremely difficult to blow off constantly.

For me its a change in routine, change in energy level, needing to communicate a lot more, just the major adjustments that take place that exhaust me mentally and physically.

Luckily my wife understands, so we try to plan trips so I will have room to vent or cool off if necessary. The rest of my family just thinks i'm incredibly erratic and moody, so me wandering off mid-meal or mid-conversation isnt something that surprises them overly much.

You may want to set the expectation from day #1 that you'll take X amount of time during the day to be alone with your family, go for a walk or do something without the whole group, and retire early in the evenings.


I am glad that someone can understand... my wife's family and my family do not.  I agree it is mentally exhausting and creates alot of anxiety. Thanks for the advice!