not appreciating private messages
Was it Tom Cruise - no seriously though- disregard that jerk. [/QUOTE]
LOL! If it HAD been Tom, he would have also called her "glib" (like Matt Lauer apparently is...LOL), and he would have reminded her that there is no such thing as chemical imbalance. She would have also been warned about the dangers of psychiatrists. They are here to take over our minds.
Was it Tom Cruise - no seriously though- disregard that jerk. Do like tater suggested and block them. I am so lucky that we were able to hold off on meds with my kids until they were older but I really feel for those of you who need to consider intervention by meds sooner. I know it was an excruiciating road that lead to your decision to medicate.
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I would recommend that you block that sender of PMs.
You do what is best for you and your son.
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Ditto what Tater said!!
[QUOTE=jordansmom]MY SON WAS 4 WHEN WE STARTED HIM ON IT... AND MY WHOLE FAMILY WAS AGAINST IT... [/QUOTE]
Same here my daughter was in preschool, and the teacher asked me to get my daughter help. She was 4. My family still doesn't like that I medicate her, but they aren't the ones who have to deal with her I do.She is 7 now and we still haven't found the right med.
). NONE OF US MAKES THE DECISION TO MEDICATE ON A WHIM. WE ALL HAVE THOUGHT IT OUT LONG AND HARD, DONE HOURS OF RESEARCH AND MOST OF US HAVE GOTTEN SECOND AND 3RD OPINIONS. YOU DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO SURVIVE IN ONE PIECE AND RAISE YOUR CHILD TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITY. 
I would recommend that you block that sender of PMs.
You do what is best for you and your son.
Okay, that is awful that this person is attaking you in this way.
To whomever wrote this:
rlogansmom has been a valuable member here, and I have nothing but respect for her descision to medicate her son. I must admit I was hesitant to agree that it was a good idea, however I do not know her child. It would be completely out of line for me to judge her on this descision. She did not do it out of haste. She researched and questioned everything she could beforehand. Her son is doing much better because of her choice. I applaud her for meeting her child's needs.
I just do not understand what has gotten into people here. WE SHOULD NOT BE ATTTACKING ONE ANOTHER! This should be a place for support and education. To attack another parent for making an educated descision is absurd, and you should be ashamed of yourself.
rlogansmom:
You are doing you very best to help your son. I would not let someone who has no idea what you have been through to get to you. I support you and hope that your son continues to excell.
Sheri
My son started out as a 4 months old foster child in our family. The second day in our house I knew he would be the poster child for Ritalin. Seriously!! He was SO active that we never let him out of our sight. Even the other children in the infant room of his daycare would cry and crawl away from him when they saw him. Talk about breaking your heart!!
When he was 2 years old we were given the chance to adopt him. We loved him dearly but were really scared to commit to a lifetime with this "wild child." I took him to the Depart. of Neuropharamocology at UNC in NC. After being in the room with my son for about 30 minutes, the head of the department patted my hand and told me he would help us! On his third birthday, I gave him his first Dexadrine. He started Ritalin the year before kindergarten. During the first parent/teacher conference in kindergarten, I teared up and asked his teacher if he had any friends. She just laughed and reassured me!
My son is now 12 years old. He is on a combination of Concerta and Strattera. He is an A/B honor roll child who has a ton of friends. I love him dearly. He is still very active but I am so thankful we decided to adopt him.
Don't worry about what other people say. Listen to your doctor and listen to yourself.
Holy *&%$! That was so condescending. Thank you for sharing that with us. Please know that although there are people here who may not agree with you at times over whatever issue, most would never treat you or anyone else in such a heartless, sarcastic way. [QUOTE=Bran'smom]My son started out as a 4 months old foster child in our family. The second day in our house I knew he would be the poster child for Ritalin. Seriously!! He was SO active that we never let him out of our sight. Even the other children in the infant room of his daycare would cry and crawl away from him when they saw him. Talk about breaking your heart!!
When he was 2 years old we were given the chance to adopt him. We loved him dearly but were really scared to commit to a lifetime with this "wild child." I took him to the Depart. of Neuropharamocology at UNC in NC. After being in the room with my son for about 30 minutes, the head of the department patted my hand and told me he would help us! On his third birthday, I gave him his first Dexadrine. He started Ritalin the year before kindergarten. During the first parent/teacher conference in kindergarten, I teared up and asked his teacher if he had any friends. She just laughed and reassured me!
My son is now 12 years old. He is on a combination of Concerta and Strattera. He is an A/B honor roll child who has a ton of friends. I love him dearly. He is still very active but I am so thankful we decided to adopt him.
Don't worry about what other people say. Listen to your doctor and listen to yourself.
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thanks for sharing your story .. it uplifts everyone when a parent perseveres and succeeds. You had me in tears.
rlogansmom:
Two thoughts for the person who questions your actions:
A. Your doctor has taken a Hippocratic oath to help your child. I thinks its safe to say they don't take that lightly, so if your questioner is not a doctor, they really don't have any standing IMO, regardless of what they've read.
B. You know your child better than anyone, especially your questioner.
Do what you think is best. Its your burden. And as long as you do that, you don't have to explain anything or apologize to anyone.
I got a private message from someone on this board, I will keep the name to myself. This person went off on me for putting my child on meds at 3/4 years of age. I would like any of you that have SUPPORTED me over the past year with putting my son on meds to give their opinion. I have been through hell and back deciding this and if it wasn't for this board, I don't know where I would be. Below is the message from me a LOOOONNNNGGG time ago and her response. Thanks for the support.
lady, i hope your attitude has changed since january. i know it's been a while but i'm doing some research of my own and i was appalled by your posting:
My 3 year old just started Aderall this weekend and we really saw a difference. Three years old! Are you kidding me? Who in thier right minds would put a child on amphetamines at that age? His tiny mind is still growing and developing. His little body is still a baby. I was surprised. The first day I thought that maybe it was too high of a dose because he seemed "drugged up" but we gave it another day. He also had several "melt downs" because kids hurt his feelings. Usually he attacks them and then gets so mad he can't control himself then goes through a meltdown. He never got that way this weekend. On Saturday he went straight to the meltdown. Also, he would get mad if he didn't want to do something and he would yell at me. That is a step from throwing things at me so I took that as a positive. On Sunday there wasn't any meltdowns at all but there was a lot of yelling at me when he didn't like something. Then he also go so mad at me he threw his toys up instead of at me and went into his room and took a rest for about 10 minutes. He told me he had to get away from me because he was mad. I thought that was very mature. Yes, I love it when three year olds exhibit maturity. It's so refreshing isn't it? So easy for us adults.
Until last night when the meds wore off and he started throwing things at me again, I questioned if he needed to be on themeds i almost had hope for you here but then you ruined it by saying: because he wasn't that cute little boy that would cuddle with me and tell me that he loved me out of the blue. What is he your toy? I questioned to God then went to get my son to go home from my mom's and he started throwing toys at me. The meds were going on 12 hours. I think I got my answer at that point.
I want to know though if anyone else has experienced the "moodiness" of ups and downs with Aderall. Will it go away and how long does it take to level out? With him being 3 we didn't have a lot of choice on the different meds. He obviously can't take pills so we have to open it up in pudding. Let me know if anyone else feels the way I do. Listen..your posting upset me because he's just a baby. My nephew was just over today, he's two, and he is by no means the expression of some kid you see in a holiday movie. But, he's two...he throws things, screams when he doesn't get his way. Still, his mother doesn't drug him up so that he can be there when she wants to cuddle.
I think you should go get some parenting counseling (and your husband?) maybe the kind of attention you give him when he acts up is perpetuating the problem. Look at yourself before you get your kid jacked up on a bunch of amphetamines. He is far to young to get that kind of diagnose...or maybe you like for him to be sick, who knows. Crushing that stuff up into his pudding? i don't care what doctor told you to do that, you must know in your heart that it isn't right. Keep looking for an answer to your problem before you seriously bring some harm and life long head trip/issues to your baby boy. Love him.
I am just curious what your sons behavior was like before putting him on meds. Did you get him diagnosed from one doctor or did you get a second opinion? I a certainly no expert but 3 does seem REALLY young to be diagnosed. But then again I don't know the history. Was he a threat to himself at 3 or was he just really active? I fianlly agreed that my son needed meds when he was in the second grade. I really fought it until I saw that it was affecting his school work and his social ability to make friends and be happy. ell rlog my son is almost 5 and i have seen symptoms since 3 and i agre with you ...i have full ADHD can only NOT answer yes to 3 question...i have always said when it starts disrupting his life i will medicate i know what i still go through with adhd( caught at 17 yrs old) am now 30 he will have alot to overcome without me trying to be in denial and not getting him help...if he had a broken bone -would you not fix it ?? asthma -no meds??? diabetes- no meds???? when i did get on meds went from D'S and E"s to straight A's and didn't even think about it ....now try and tell me the meds dont work...we didn't ask for an amphetamine to be the chemical that helps our brain be normal!!!!!!!???????? why did you have to wait for it to affect his social life and grades in school????gina????? do you have ADD????have you felt the negative feelings b-4 there really is even a reason?i have winesed josh totaly beat himself up cause he not good enough to ride a 2 weeler....no kids live around us and the whole entire time all i was doing was encouraging him that he was getting better and to keep trying .
MY SON WAS 4 WHEN WE STARTED HIM ON IT... AND MY WHOLE FAMILY WAS AGAINST IT... BUT U KNOW WHAT.. YOUR THE PARENT AND U KNOW IF SOMETHING IS WRONG OR RIGHT.... IN MY CASE IT WAS RIGHT...... I DONT THINK U SHOULD JUDGE OTHER PEOPLE LIKE THAT.. YOUR NOT IN THERE SHOES AND U DONT LIVE THAT PERSONS LIFE... SO IF YOUR SON NEEDED AT 3 OR 4 THEN THERE HAD TO BE A REASON FOR IT.... DO PPL THINK WE GIVE OUR KIDS MEDS TO BRAG ABOUT IT???? COME ON.... SORRY SHE BLEW UP LIKE THAT...THAT WAS NOT RIGHT! GOOD LUCK
oops well i have to do it again....you are doing great in tryin and finding stuff to help protect your son!!!!!!!!!rlog
Anybody who uses PM to berate you and insult you is NOT trying to be helpful. Forget about it. You came here for help and you you got smacked .. I'm sorry. I mean I know it's not my fault but man I sure know how it feels and I am sorry it happened to you.
Your post was honest and you were seeking help. The person who responded to you could have expressed their views in an open forum and offered advice to you. You were asking for advice. Clearly you are cocnerned about your child and the attack was unwarranted.
As far as your questions about Adderall. My son did have moodiness on Adderall that evened out after a couple of weeks on the medication. however, moodiness is a side effect that I see people write about all of the time. So i'd watch it and make sure that it evens out.
As far as whether or not 3 is too young to diagnose? I think it depends upon the child. Mine has inattentive ADD .. he had no real problems until he got into school. But there are others on here whose younger children did and DO have trouble. You know your child .. turst yourself.
And ignore the idiot who used PM as a way to attack you. It's not worth your time to be concerned about the opinions of that kind of person.
We are not perfect parents! but we have to make decisions based on our own facts, we know our own children! I don't know if what I'm doing for my child is right, but he's happy and hopefully he will turn out to be a well rounded adultWhat a craven individual to attack you like that. Not to mention arrogant.
I I know there is all this reporting of parents that just willy-nilly medicate their children, but I have yet to come in contact with a single parent who has not agonized over the decision.
I am sorry that the individual that contacted you was so hateful. I hope that you can dismiss her/him at once.
my son has been on meds for 7 months now and he is only 3 yrs old. when i first came here i was attacked by some who thought i was the worse mother medicating my 3 yr old.. i have learned that only i know what is best for my child...I am sorry that you had that experience. It is so hard for parents; we agonize over each and every decison we make because we know that it will impact our child. You question what you ate when you were pregnant; did your skin absorb the nail polish you wore or maybe it was the glass of wine you had before you knew you were pregnant. You question how you raise your child; did you discipline enough or maybe too much. Are you expectations to high or maybe too low. Everyday you hope and pray you are not failing your child and to have some one come along and tear you apart, is horrible. This is a wonderful place with so many helpful and supportive people. People who listen and support you when you need it the most; its too bad there are people who want to tear down instead of build up. Keep your head up; you are doing what is best for your child.
Thank you so much for your support and replies. It makes me feel better that this is still a support message board. When it came down to whether or not to put my son on meds, it was a safety issue. Thank you again.
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