My husband of 7 years was diagnosed with ADHD about 5 years ago. He agreed to try the medication (which I thought helped), but 6 mos. later after talking to his best friend/cousin who is a Naturopathic doctor, he decided to stop taking medication. Our son is turning two, I am a full time mom and a part time student. My husband constantly talks about switching jobs, and rarely helps with raising our son or taking care of the home (financial and otherwise). Recently I asked him to go to marriage counceling with me and consider the strains of his ADHD on all of our lives, he agreed. After he talked to his cousin again he told me he doesn't have a problem, I do. I am almost at a loss. He is really a very good and generous person. But he does not manage the ADHD very well and I don't know how to keep going like this. Does anyone have suggestions for alternate ways to manage this?
Would he consider working with an ADD Coach? Has he read any of the current books about Adult ADD?
Have you talked to his cousin at all? Does his cousin have any idea of how much strain this is putting on the entire family?
Did his cousin offer him any alternatives to medication when he convinced him to stop taking it?
Right now he has decided that he doesn't have ADD at all. He's starting to sound like Tom Cruise. I have been researching some books and am considering purchasing a couple. I didn't know there were ADD coaches?!? I have tried talking to his cousin about things in the past but have reached the decision that we do not mutually respect one another and cannot communicate effectively. I have read information on myself as being codependent with my husband (i.e. I manage our home, finances, childcare and do not rely on him) so I am looking for a therapist for me. Now my husband thinks my needs are unreasonable and that I am never going to be satisfied. Until recently I didn't know there were alternatives to medication. Not sure if he will talk to a coach, but definatly worth looking into. Thank you.
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