HeidiMarie - I hope you find that person.
Just be picky and make sure you get what you want and need in life. It's what we all deserve I think and it's reachable.
Glen, I have him already! :P Sometimes he likes to 'joke' about my ADHD but he's generally a wonderful guy :) I do that with the socks. I also try to keep all black pants for work so I don't have to figure out what to match up when I am awake. What are your favorite life management tips?You do that with socks too? LOL
Yep - I only have bought black socks for normal wear for years! Never worry about matching them and it relieves that little stress that comes with it. I do have some grey socks for work in winter but they stay shut away in a storage bin until winter comes.
I try to keep my clothing simple. I try to choose the same brand as often as I can so I don't have to be frustrated with changing styles and types. Boring - maybe but less anxiety has made life better.
A little off topic but since we're now onto clothes, I always choose short-sleeved shirts and loose fit pants as my ADD tends to make my uncomfortable with anything tight or restrictive like long sleeves around my wrists, tight collars (argh) or tight pants (feels terrible and stressful).
[QUOTE=HeidiMarie]Glen, I'm the same way. I cannot STAND anything tight . . I especially hate when my underwear and my jeans/shorts/pants are on two different parts of my waist -- drives me nuts! I hate to admit this, but if I'm wearing a long shirt, I'll fold my drawers down over the top of my pants so it won't make me lose my mind! :P [/QUOTE]
Boy I hear that a lot! I was SO glad when I first found out it wasn't a nutty thing only I (and my dad - though he doesn't have ADD just ask him LOL) do.
I tend to keep it simple and loose. I try hard not to gain much weight as it's hard to remember my size - and I'm a guy! Boy I sympathize with you ladies - I followed and exgf clothing shopping once and I nearly popped a blood vessel just in pants! too much data!
I had the same size since 18 - and for a while I went up 2 pants sizes but kept forgetting that and getting the old size. Had a drawer full of pants 32waist 31 leg and was 36 or 38. ARRRGH!!! Now I'm back to a (tight) 32 so all is well with the world. If I go up again hopefully my meds will relax my anxiety. Let's hope I never have to find out :)
Wow, i'm glad you told me that! When growing up I always wore my boy cousins jeans because they hit below the waist. I've discussed it with other people but never found anyone who really cared one way or the other, unless it was a style thing, vs a feeling thing. I remember wondering if the clothes at the waist maybe interupted the energy flow through the body or something, and that being the extraordinarily sensitive soul that I am I was more in tune to it- LOL Use to where tight stuff but now hate them. I stick with a basic color bottoms which then allows any top to watch. I saw on a Tv show a family with 14 kids and 1 on the way who did this sock things also. Guys had black and girls had white ones. The older kids assisted the assigned Buddy child to help that one With all things. They bought all clothing second hand. I agree with you! I feel contained, like I'm trapping myself and it does drain me mentally! Crazy, isn't it? :P
Feel the same way about tight clothes. ICK! Also can't stand anything high waisted, love that with the style now you can choose lower waisted pants (No not that low, how do they sit down in those?)
SuperWalmart survival tip:
I try to avoid the place as much as possible, but occasionally it's a must. Found a WONDERFUL key to decrease the stimuli. EAR PLUGS! You can just drift along and do your thing. On the rare occasion I go now I no longer fantasize about running people over with my cart, or my car-
msglitz i hate high waists too! The only time I have to do the folding thing is when I forget to see what type of underwear i'm buying and end up with the grannies! I HATE anything above my belly button, or less than 5 inches below it :PWow lucky you! And by the way - pizza is the most natural, balanced food source in the world! Everyone knows that!
Of course we go comfort over style! We are anxiety driven - we try everything to avoid it- and comfort removes anxiety like not much else can!
Heck I was so glad to take up factory work and surrender the suits, ties (agh!!), polished shoes etc. to the sally ann people. Complexity leads to anxiety after all. I don't often look back except to thank my luck.
Are they still using that "metrosexual" moniker?? I haven't heard that in a while thought maybe they made up a new one just because it would confuse me LOL
Sounds like you two are pretty well comfy in each other's shoes - except for that little passive aggressiveness I hear in both of you when you describe the day - to - day.. not that there's anything wrong with that! You are pretty lucky in the big picture. Congrats.
Ok autumn - I know where I'm heading for supper! Just joking - but it sure sounds better than my supper tonight. Damn. Oh and my clothing is easy to organize - one drawer for my work uniforms another for my jeans, dress pant (singular) and socks with some T shirts - that's all! Frugal but easy to remember.Glen,
I love these tips. My problem is that both my husband and I work full time. We get home, then we go to the gym. We get home from the gym and then look around going "what's for dinner". It typically ends up being frozen pizza. Not very nutricous.
Life was much simpler when I was in the air force, we wore BDUs every day. Just had to pick out a t-shirt. Sometimes I miss those days.
My husband does the laundry. This morning I looked in the closet - the only work pants i had, I don't like the way they fit. So I struggled for 10 minutes to find a shirt to match a skirt. Then my husband says "So what's the occasion?" - He asks me that when I wear anything other than pants. I looked at him and said "I had 2 pants in there that I don't like the way they fit, so I had no work pants to wear". Yes, it's an insult to him for not having the laundry done but I didn't care at that point after I struggled to find something to wear.
My husband often says that I can't pick out clothes that should go together - so I have him pick things out for me. Yea, my ADD makes me the untypical woman in that I don't match clothing well. And I pay no attention to shoes! I look for comfort in my clothes.
I was lucky enough to find the rare man (metro-sexual, 'straight but coordinated') who can help me out in the clothing and shoe department.
Autumnstar
I typically wear black pants or khaki colored pants to work. So I buy black socks and khaki colored socks to match them. Then I have white socks to wear all the other times.
I've been reading a great book for life management tips - "ADD - Friendly ways to organize your life" by Kohlberg and Nadeau.
I was just reading how to make it simpler to get ready for work.
Have all your clothes in your closet - if you can see it all, it's easier for us ADD people.
Color coordinate your wardrobe.
Place outfits together - any accessories place on hanger or in bag to hang from hanger.
Use color bins in kid's rooms. One color for socks, one for t-shirts, etc.
Streamline Dinner planning. Design up a 2 week dinner plan, leave Friday, Saturday, and Sunday open. Plan 4 meals for Monday - Thursday, for 2 weeks, then rotate them - example "Taco night, Sloppy Joe night, Salad night" for week 1, then "Hamburger helper night, Pizza night, Meat and frozen veggie night, and Spaghetti night" for week 2. Then you rotate them up - you know what you'll be having and you can stock up on what you need in advance.
I love those ideas and want to start to do them!!!
Okay -- I need extra help. I lose my glasses, my keys (have 4 sets, only know where 1 is), my lists to keep me organized.
Then, what about the time thing? I am always MIS-judging the time it takes to do something, go somewhere, etc. I knew it was a problem the other day when I was late to pick up my son, and he told the instructor that his mom doesn't mean to be late, but sometimes she just walks out of the store, etc., and realizes that it is the time she is supposed to be there! How embarrassing! Both of my kids accept my problem, but they still get nervous when I am late (many, many times)
I haven't had the same clothing issues - I am very, very picky about everything matching, type of material, style, etc. I can spend hours in a clothing store coordinating my clothes, my husband's, my son's (now that he is older, it isn't as fun!). Then there is my daughter's clothes. Weeks on color selection. Hmmmm.
heck - I can't comment on color - you know us straight guys are color blind unless it's primary. Even then we have no reasonable opinion LOL.
I have terrible time with spacial acuity and time management. It's just getting now on meds where I've found this wierd thing in my head they tell me is an internal clock! It actually works - some of the time. Kind of like an old heirloom - you have to wind and wind - but when it's working it's awesome to see!
Well - I have no tips - just bored and wanted to hail Amen to bad timing, sizing and such. Sorry carry on :)