30 SOMETHING aDHD | ADHD Information

A LOT of us in the 30s! I noticed most people posting seem to be around 34-38. I'm 38 and unlike what seems to be many I didn't really hear about ADD in much other than kids until this last year.

Many here seem to have at least one part of their life controlled - although many of us like me don't. I was a severe case - messed up my social, career. I do admit though I muddled through university - and ended up successfully passing it and making a decent grade.

My interpersonal skills were the most stunted. Just couldn't get the whole dealing with people thing under control.

Thankfully, with meds, I am feeling just like "one of the boys" I interact without overacting, strive to achieve instead of just trying to get by. It's nice.

31 here! I'm married to a VERY understanding man, I have a 4 year old son, I only reached an Associate degree in ECE, and now I work as a Child Care Administrator.

My social life is okay...I have few friends, but they are people I've known for years as trust is a big issue with me due to past experiences. I try to get along with everybody, but again, I'm not a very trusting person, which probably isn't healthy.

here we go more semantic & linguistic scrutiny, [QUOTE=rayray812]dating a true sweetheart 16 months[/QUOTE]
Hey, isn't that a little young?
Like robbing the cradle...
Are you going to adopt her?
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single never married no kids

great contracting biz thanks to hired managers lol

3 good friends

dating a true sweetheart 16 months

31 yrs old

god knows how i finished college

biz degree bach.

A lot of us still NOT in the 30s...

Still good with ADDitutes, though, I think...

Hey YODA (Yuppie On Drugs / Alcohol is what weEMTs call 'em),

Good luck! Don't pick an ADHD for a single nice guy )read some of the other threads(, cuz they'll drive you nuts, and all 4 of your kids will have ADHD of some kind. It'll be like an ADHD match... If you do, it'll be ok considering all that will be going on in the circus you'll call a home...

However, I don't think a nOrmal will be able to keep up with your thoughts.

"ON that thought, is it the speed of thought they can't keep up, with, or the frequency of thought, or thought shifts, or shifty thoughts, or the number of thoughts, or the number of shifty thoughts, or thoughts tracks, or the thought for thought thing, or have you even thought about what kind of thoughts you thought they can't keep thoughtfully up with?" I thought.

And you don't have to be a good social butterfly... be a bad one... or be a Mountain Lion... they have few great friends...

I once had 7 ongoing conversations with a single phsyical being )human(, and I could track with all of them )multiple personality: she had her own built in few great friends(. My wife )oops, sorry, strike two( thought it took one to know one... and refuses my dx of ADHD... she also thinks I'm bIpOlAr... although I do like the snow and cold... I'm not. Just simple, everyday, off the shelf ADHDr. I have three cell phones, and one GC85 EDGE GPRS PC Card, and I've had them all going at once, once, with someone in my presence, too. Hey, if my kids can do it )on the net(, I can so... Several times I have two phones on at the same time )as one is finishing their thoughts, I'm dialing the next thinker(.

Strike 1 is 49er soon to be 5 owe. Strike three, I'm out
is I'm not gay, but my boyfriend is... NOT!!! I'm sexually oriented, not a sexaplegic... nor sexually disoriented, like some...

But I'll keep up with your thoughts if you need someone to in the meantime... until you find your thoughtful single nice guy...

Kind of like rent-a-thought...

Or, have thought, will travel...

Or, book a thought through your thought agency...

Or, thought to thought transport...

Or, the thought circus...

O, I like this one: Or, the thought-O-lympics...

Or, the game of thoughtpong... or thoughttennis...

Or, I thought I'm an addict*...

Or, I'm a thought addict*...

Or, I need my thought fix...

Or, I need my thoughts fixed...

Or, I thought, therefore I thought I was, I thought...

Careful around BuggZ, he'll think your thoughts for you are rambling if you think outloud. But don't mind him, I luv the guy, he's like that blue donkey on that ADHD cartoon: PoohBear. Pooh is ADD, by the way, and TIGGR is ADHD. Hey, he could probably keep up with your thoughts, and he is young, and nice )Tiggr, not BuggZ(. Bowl you over, though... Come to think about it, I think Christopher Robin is ADD, too. Tut, tut, it looks like rain... Just write in paragraphs with lots of thoughts like this, and he can't follow you, but he'll try to right you, or at least write... maybe it was the blue bold size two font that got to him... Here, I'll test it out with this regular black notbold size one font and see what he thinks...

*addict: I thought I was a cereal addict once, when I was going to 12 Steps. I found out I was switching )like a multiple personality-hey a persownaplegic( addictions, but rarely had more than one at once, but over time they all occured sequentially...

... I am convinced now I am...
31--good career--veterinarian--specializing in diagnostic imaging...

Looking for a nice single guy that can "keep up with my thoughts!"...

Have a few great friends--not good at being a social butterfly...I am a swill drinkin no good sob with a bad attitude ...

Actually, I was a city councilman and have been married for 10 yrs and am at the same job for the last 6 yrs.

I do ok considering all that is going on in this circus I call a head..

RayRay812:

I was just found out i'm ad/hd back in march of this year. I'm 32 yrs. old. Married for 6yrs. Didn't finish college, but I am a pretty good restaurant manager...what about you?

anY1 IN 30S?

if so married kids , education level, career, social life?

just curious

I've just turned 32. Found out one year ago that I had ADHD, it explained alot. I was married once in 1996 but that lasted a year cause I was immature. I honestly think I was supposed to be by myself or I just haven't found the right man. I have 3 kids and they are wonderful. Don't know what it is. I'm funny, enthusiastic but then again I'm a Leo so I definately think things my way. God this is starting to sound like a personal ad.

Do you have something against elders....Or is it the youngsters you want to steer clear of?

I'm toooo old to post on this thread.

Lol… I think I’ll always be a scientist deep down. I’m just far to curious as to how things work (or don’t work). I’ve always been fascinated by how things happen and the way chaos propagates in a system (probably after having such as personal relationship with chaos!): this has given me a lifelong curiosity about accidents, disasters and major incidents. Aircraft, ships, trains, car the lot. Why, how, where etc did they happen? What isolated. Harmless features combined to cause the effect? Strange child really!

Just like Einstein was a patent clerk by day, I think the actuary job fills the need nicely for me! I found that I really disliked that academic culture and attitude in physics: it was very elitist and closed-minded. The exact opposite to what science needs in my mind. Interestingly I’ve read about the antigravity research and I agree… there’s certainly more to it than initially meets the eye. And there’s a lot of research you hear about that just ‘disappears’ from public forums.

One of my specialist projects at University was producing controlled explosions. Now that was real science and tremendous fun. Even I’m rather scared in retrospect that I was given a 3600psi hydrogen cylinder and left to it!

We might not make the world go round, but ADHDrs certainly keep it moving forwards.

[QUOTE=loveactuary]Managed to get into and through University, graduating with a BSc (Hons) in Chemistry and Molecular Physics. Now starting out on a professional career as a trainee actuary. [/QUOTE] Hence the screenname, eh? Too bad. I was kind of hoping you'd stick with physics, as I think there is a good chance that antigravity research is going to produce within our generation. It's going to take an ADHD physicist to do it, though. Einstein was ADHD. I had an idea on how to make it work, but I'm a chemicalBiologist, and don't want to get into another career. Somewhere around here I posted a list of all the things I've done in my life, but I don't remember psychics as one of them...

Well, I am 38, never married--though I have been involved with the same woman for the past 11 years or so. We have no children--more so because of her than me--though I doubt we could handle it anyway, so it is probably for the best. I have a Master of Fine Arts in Theatre: Design and Technology and currently work as a visiting professor and technical director for a university.

As for a social life...none. It doesn't exist. Again, it is probably more so because of her than me. To be fair, however, I do feel as if I have drifted further away from anyone I was even close to when I was younger, and it certainly doesn't help that we have only lived where we are for a year, that my job often requires nights and weekends, and that often when we actually plan things we end up not being able to go because she ends up in bed with a migraine. I don't know if the growing distance--or at least the sense of distance between me and my friends, associates (and to some extent society) has anything to do with the ADD. So, anyway, my social life has become the internet...the forums and the like. But that grows tiresome...

I was just diagnosed late June, 2005. Certainly do not have the meds worked out yet, nor anything else. As far as my life in general is concerned, I have either felt like I was drowning in a sea of loneliness, despair and helplessness or just on the verge of succeeding...but never quite over the hump...happiness is always just beyond my grasp.

There you have it...not much else to say...

Very happily married. He keeps me glued together. I'm 36 and was diagnosed after my daughter (10) was diagnosed. There were too many things the Dr. said and I would go. . . That's ME! Had been on prozac and Lexapro for YEARS...

I LOVE MY ADDERALL XR. Me and my daughter get along SO MUCH BETTER now. We just could not stand each other. I see things so much clearer now. and the depression and "making crap up" stuff is gone. I still work 3 part time jobs instead of one full time job. (same 3 for 5 years) I just get board WAY to easy!

YooHoo count me in I am 34. Wife of 12 years finally convinced me to see psy and I got dx with ADHD. Has pretty good education and didnt pay much attention. Perhaps that college was easy. Works as engineer but hate it. Details blah.. I notice of many years I dont get payraise! Has two kids and we suspect one of them has ADHD like I do. Daughter will see psy in 3 weeks.

22 here. No children and single: looking for a girl who is fun, like-minded and can keep up with me.

Managed to get into and through University, graduating with a BSc (Hons) in Chemistry and Molecular Physics. Now starting out on a professional career as a trainee actuary.

Still struggle a little socially sometimes, but have a small group of elite friends. Excellent at mingling and chatting at parties: tend to be the life and sole of the party, even without alcohol and with medication.

Hi all-- new here.

I'm 33, female, single, no kids. Masters degree, professional career.

I sometimes have a social life, but lately I've been pulling back since 1) my life has started to suck (YET AGAIN), 2) I've gotten depressed because of it, and 3) people have been "forgetting" to invite me to social events. A love life has LONG been out of reach, but I have several long-time girlfriends (few "hang-out" friends, though).

I was diagnosed as "hyperactive" before I started school (maybe around 4 or 5 years old). However, after I started school, I made great grades and wasn't too much of a discipline problem. I mostly got in trouble for being late to class, forgetting to get stuff signed, handing in assignments late, etc. You know-- classic ADD stuff. But because I got good grades and was labeled as "gifted," I was never treated for ADD/ADHD. I don't even think the diagnosis of ADD/ADHD existed.

Sometime during my college or grad school years, my aunt, who is a psychologist, said that I was probably ADD/ADHD, but "highly functioning". Well, so much for highly functioning. My life is a complete mess. My bosses at work want to fire me. I'm hanging on there by a thread. This has been a recurring pattern in my adult life: people wanting to fire me or not knowing quite what to do with me since I seem so capable, but am so hard to manage. I've been SO depressed recently about my repeated failures that I decided to try getting treatment for ADD/ADHD. So far, I've only told my regular doctor about my issues and contacted a local psychiatric practice. They should be calling me soon to set an appt.

I'm really glad I found these forums. It really sounds like many of you know what I'm going through.

I think all "Adult ADDers" are at least in their 30s...that's why it's called "Adult ADD". We were quiet as kids, not hyper, therefore we weren't diagnosed as being ADD. It wasn't until the late 80s that a doctor discovered that there are areas of the brain that react the same way people with ADHD do, yet without the hyperactivity. That's why we were all older when diagnosed because no one knew about it in the late 60s and 70s when most of us were children in school.

I'm about to turn 33 (....... Ooooooo, that is a scary number...... I'm getting older now ). Very happily married for 8 years on the 1st of next month to a wonderfully understanding and caring man ( unlike my Ex who tore me to pieces because I couldn't be what HE WANTED ).

We have a case of yours, mine and ours as far as kids go, 4 boys in total. 1 son each from our previous marraiges and 2 that are ours together. Our eldest from my first marraige has ADHD like me and the first son we had together whilst not diagnosed would be ADHD as well. I'm also actually starting to suspect that the 3 of us maybe bipolar as well. So as you can imagine life is never dull............... In fact it can be an absolute looney bin here sometimes, but hey it just spices life up a lil.

As for school I finished year 10. Then I did some courses but never really stuckat anyone thing. I've been a Mum for almost 13 years and that is had work enough when no matter how hard you try you just can't seem to get organized.

I do consider myself quite knowledgable and intelligent however I just never could, even as an adult, learn the way society dictates.

ADHD didn't have a name when we were growing up, you were just a hyper chatter box, fidget, underachiever or a naughty kid......................Or maybe all of the above, so like ADD in the post abve, it was just passed off.

GymRose38648.0662152778 [QUOTE=repairman]

[QUOTE=HeidiMarie]Only 23 here :P But married with a 21 month old son, attending college online after spending 4 years with the navy. [/QUOTE]

I didn't know your son nwas attending colledge!!

Sorry , my eyes skipped and it was really funny!!

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Hey, he's a smart boy! He can say his letters from A-H. That's the minimum requirements now to get into college.
HeidiMarie38648.1732638889[/QUOTE]

Hey, he's a smart boy! He can say his letters from A-H. That's the minimum requirements now to get into college.
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HeidiMarie, don't go spreading lies! I got into college and I only know A-F.

[QUOTE=HeidiMarie]Only 23 here :P But married with a 21 month old son, attending college online after spending 4 years with the navy. [/QUOTE]

I didn't know your son nwas attending colledge!!

Sorry , my eyes skipped and it was really funny!!

Only 23 here :P But married with a 21 month old son, attending college online after spending 4 years with the navy. 36yrs., Married 16 years 2 boys 14 & 12, I did take a few courses, at the current time I'm working for a printing Co.

I'm 35 and only diagnosed this summer when my son was. It was a relief to finally be able to explain my life (but not excuse it sadly). I've been married 12 years, two kids, too many college degrees for which I didn't study one bit, and I almost ruined my marriage (not alone but I reacted to his problems by jumping off the deep end in my ADHD way and it's been a long recovery). I'm working as a crime analyst/records tech/computer guru/powerpoint queen at a local police department. I was dissatisfied, as usual, until I was diagnosed and got meds. Now I'm happy and wouldn't trade my job. I'm still working on so many things but it's a blessing to have a platform to start on.

ps davidornado,, the name is EEYORE yup i am 34 (oh no, surely not...)

but hey, i am immature by nature so that's fine. not married - i find sex painful, so that's another problem on top of the ADD that makes life a little more complicated than for most. oh dear.

no children, but lots of neices and nephews which is great.

i love a lot of people in my life and for that i am very grateful.

career is err, not the right word for the catastrophic wreckage that describes my working life.
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Einstein was a patent clerk?! There's hope for me yet!!

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