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Over the past several years, as ADD has became more "commercial" I have suspected I may have it. More specifically my husband has insisted I have it for years. As a child I made good grades but could only learn from what I heard or did. Studying was not possible. I couldn't bring myself to do it. I have always been late for everything, to the point that it makes it hard for me to hold a job. I procrastinate to the point of ridiculousness, and make list after list, never getting much crossed off of them. I forget appointments ALL THE TIME, I can't bake because I forget there's something in the oven. I can't ever clean my entire house because when I walk into the bedroom to hang up clothes I end up organizIng my closet instead of finishing the laundry and watching the food that is now burning on the stove. My husband will grab me when i'm cooking and say "there you go again, off doing something else and letting the food burn." I read another poster saying that they talk over other people b/c they're afraid they'll forget what they wanted to say. That is so me, I am terrible about that. And my most spoken line? "I haven't done that yet but I'll do it right now."

I went to my dr. on Friday about this, and he pretty much dismissed what I was saying, and said to look on my insurance and see what psychologists are covered, to call his office and tell them, and they will schedule me. Then, after an evaluation, they'll confer and see what to do. I'm freaking out b/c I returned to college last semester, and barely got by on my grades. I start back next week, and I want to be on some kind of meds by then. It's so frustrating because I feel like I've reached a lightbulb moment, only to be against a brickwall.

Thanks if anyone read all this.

When you see your psych, just tell him outright that you think you are attention deficit. Have him start there, and add other observations as he makes them. Last I heard Kaiser Permanente doesn't allow their docs to diagnose it in adults. So seek a second opinion.

Here are some links that will help you defend your position.

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/archive/20040829/pubs/cbm/adhd.html #120

http://my.webmd.com/medical_information/health_tools/alpha _toc.htm?z=2000_00103_1113_rx_02
This one is a self adminsitered test for ADHD.

Best wishes,

David Hey there - I wrote up a series about my experience with ADD. The second part talks about how hard it was to get a true "diagnosis". My own primary care physician is only just now buying it:

Part One: Tales of a Fourth (And 1st-3rd, 5th-12th) Grade Nothing: ADD and Adult ADD ©
Part Two: "Are You Sure It Isn't Just [Depression|Anxiety|Anemia|Chronic Fatigue|PMS]?" Diagnosing and Treating Adult ADD ©
Part Three: The Amazing Successes of a Colossal Failure: Coping and Succeeding with Adult ADD ©

Hope these help out some...

It is very important to get a proper diagnosis. Your dr is admitting to you that he isn't qualified to make a diagnosis. There are other disabilities out there with very similar symptoms. I think you have a very good dr for him to admit his inability. Many adult ADHDers just have their drs blow them off and tell them they need an antidepressant or anxiety med.

We as adults who have lived with this for years do get frustrated when drs won't or can't diagnose because we know we have it. They haven't lived in our skin.

See if you can find a neuropsychologist who would be covered by your insurance. Your dr wants you to be diagnosed by a professional who understands the various disorders. He is not saying you are crazy. Psychs are the best ones to diagnose ADHD.

If you can't get an appointment with a neuropsych, call the psychs who are on your allow list and ask them outright if they diagnose for ADHD and other neurological disorders. Have your dr refer you to whichever one does.

Are there any people reading this who were diagnosed in college? Is there a way for coastal to get a diagnosis through the school?

Wordwoman,

Don't feel bad, my little ones missed swimming lessons AND gymnastics b/c I waited until the day the classes started to try to register them. I feel so terrible about that. My older son wanted to go to camp but I never got around to finding him one. My kids are one of the main reasons I want to get some help.

Hey, I have a good idea! (Now that's an ADD line if there ever was one.)

What if we traded those tasks that cause us blocks and procrastination?
You do mine, I'll do yours.

My son is not in camp this week because I waited until the last second to
enroll him. Naturally, it was full. I'm disgusted with myself about that
one.

But I think I could do things on somebody else's to-do list easier than my
own. Though, wait, then they'd become mine and I'd become full of the
same familiar dread. Never mind.

Thanks for the responses. I am always amazed when I take the self tests, I'm like OMG, THIS IS ME! And not just temporarily, but all the time. I've struggled to manage my life, but I gave birth to twins two years ago (I already had one child) and since then my life is just out of control, too much for me to keep up with. I feel like life is something that just happens to me, and it is beyond my control. Once I really began researching ADD it's like i'm seeing myself as a poster child. Can't go to sleep at night for my thoughts racing, can't sit still, but can't accomplish anything while I'm up moving around either. I research everything to the point of insanity, and giving myself more information to make decisions is NOT a good thing. My husband asked me 12 times yesterday if I had reserved our vacation accomodations, and I finally did it at around 1am! After researching it for two months! (our vacation is weekend after next!) We are going to disney the first week in October, and my gosh I haven't even started on that, even though my family has asked me repeatedly what the arrangements are (my entire extended family is going). We had two hurricanes to evacuate for over the past year, and both times I was the one that was left to find accomodations for our family's. I got so overwhelmed the last time, it was less than 24 hours before the hurricane was to make landfall, and I had found nothing. Kept researching it too much, then getting distracted by smoking cigarettes. I couldn't decide, should we go north? west? northwest? what if the hurricane turned? Finally I freaked out and my husband ended up making reservations for us at about 11pm the night we were to leave. Why do they all expect me to do this? I don't know.