consequences

Has anyone come up with a system of rewards and consequences for behavior? I just can't seem to come up with something. I've been trying to get help. My son sees a pshchiatrist for meds, but I need family counseling. I've called just about every resource in my area, and they all have 3-6 month waiting lists. Can you imagine?

Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

How old is your son?

The "Poker Chip" system works well with my 8 year old. We tried just about every token/reward/chart system available with absolutely no success. We bought a cheap box of poker chips in bright colors at Target and made a very simple chart of her basic wants. Try to keep the rewards list between 5 and 10. The very top reward is something that she wants on a regular basis, but is too expensive or far away. For my daughter, it's horse-back riding. I don't know about you, but I'm just a regular working gal and $20 every Saturday can get really expensive. You have to be flexible and change it up every couple of weeks. Okay, sorry to ramble. You set up the first one as the "goal reward". It is worth 30 chips in my house. The other 7 are things such as television, dessert, playing outside, helping mom cook, etc. These are things that she wants to do each day, but she has to "earn" them. She gets chips only when she is caught doing something good by me or my husband. She does not get a chip if she asks for one. She gets chips taken away for being bad. If she is playing nice, says please, or even goes 30 minutes without yelling or having a tantrum over something, she gets a chip or two. When I get home from work, we sit down and count her chips, then she gets to "buy" her activities from me. It's not perfect. It takes a few days to kick in, but it's worth it. She found out real quick that she will earn those chips if she wants to do anything after school/daycare. Hope that helps. My son doesn't seem to respond to consequences well it all appears like a game to him. My son, when younger, simply did not respond to consequences. If it
doesn't work, it doesn't work. What kinds of behaviors are you trying to
modify?All negative ones.

[QUOTE=Mrs Nelso]All negative ones.[/QUOTE]

And the meaning of your post is?

what ones are the most pressing? It would help if we had something specific which we could concentrate on.

Also, the age makes a difference. The younger the child, the more likely he is to respond to immediate rewards and the less likely he will be to respond to consequences.

At least that has been my experience. Simply catching his good behaviors and telling him how proud and pleased you are helps also.

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