Things done by AD/HDrs drive others nuts | ADHD Information
Hmmm, what do I hear the most complaints about... I play little hand-held games while watching TV - it actually helps me focus better on the TV. No one's every understood that.
I have loose hairs everywhere - it's no wonder that I am contemplating cutting my hair all off.
I go to the store and forget the coupons that I spent an hour perfectly sorting by category and date.
I forget to remind my husband of upcoming appointments that I have (like my therapist appointment this afternoon) until the morning of my appointment.
Oh - I buy things that I have every intention of using but then I never use them after a week. Such as Avon products, specific hair accessories, Day planners (major item there), etc.
Geez, I could go on...
Autumnstar
What is it you have done when you hear someone else, ADr or nOrmal, say that drive's them nuts?Probably the most frequent comment from the most diverse group of people is my driving style.
I multitask while driving. I have a computer bolted to my car, I have one earphone listening to music, I have one earphone/mic connected to one of my 2 cell phones, I'm navigating with GPS, and I'm driving fast looking at the world go by.
I do not have any accidents in years. Well, I take that back. A deer hit me last October. But that was his fault.
forgetting things I need- keys, important papers, train money,
etc.
running errands for them and getting the wrong thing or
forgetting to get something they asked for
being given chores and not doing some (or all) of them or
doing them only half -way like cleaning a table and somehow
missing the smudge marks that are glaringly obvious. While
they are yelling you're standing there wondering, How did I
miss that? i swear it wasn't there before!
forgetting what they said to you right after they just said it
lack of common sense.
I don't know how many people relate to this part- not being
curious enough. Some of my relatives are curious about other
people. I wouldn't say nosy but they just like know stuff. I used
to work at this place and my cousin would ask me stuff like how
old is she, what does her husband do, does she have children,
blah blah blah. And they don't understand why I just DON'T
CARE about all those details. What does it matter?
My aunt can't stand to see my stray hairs on the floor and
wonders why I always forget to clean them up.
[QUOTE=Davidornado]What is it you have done when you hear someone else, ADr or nOrmal, say that drive's them nuts?
[/QUOTE]
What haven't I done!!!
Things that really bug ADHDrsTurning down the chill levels in the fridge/freezer.
The lettuce freezes, the lemonade has fruitflies iceskating on it, and the ice cream is so hard, you can't get enough out and have to put it into the microwave. You need an axe to get a slice of butter, so you put it in the nuker, and it melts allover the place.
Hot coffee. Burns/scalds/peels/blisters/reddens your tounge, and you scream and spit and wimper..Oww, that hurts!
Cavities in your teeth when you're trying to eat that frozen ice cream.
Wow - that would be a long list - for my pre-medicated ADD anyway!
My ex - she was driven crazy by so much! My tendency to start something then drop it for a while. Leaving my things forgetfully here and there. Asking the same question over, and over, and over forgetting I had asked it. Blurting out inappropriate things during conversations with her friends. "I don't remember saying that" - totally nuts over that!
Others - got odd looks by my topics for talking. Would never talk about things they did. Also, would tend to talk negative about anything they seemed to like - a knee-jerk thing that was so hard to fight!
Glad to have it by the reigns now - most of the time anyway.
Oh boy, as the spouse of a newly diagnosed ADD person, and also the mother of a probably ADD 20 year old, I could make a long list here. My issue is, I have no good coping mechanisms in place yet to deal with it, so I live in a place of constant irritation. Any advice for that??
Hubby; constant and loud humming, tapping, whistling or nonsensical singing--if the task he is doing makes a noise ie; vacuuming, he will hum or sing LOUDER than the machine
hovering--this is a big one--he walks in the room I am watching tv in, gets attracted to whatever is on the tv and STANDS 2 feet from it mesmerized. OMG!!! I say please either sit down and watch or go do something else, don't HOVER and he gets mad.
Smoking compulsively, says he's trying to quit (for 10 yrs), and can't remember to wash his stinky hands afterward so I get subjected to the ashtray smell AND he's killing himself
Talking with his mouth full--no matter what I say, he does this
Taking on other people's causes/jobs--ie:if our youngest child has lost something, or is looking for something, he will immediately drop whatever he is doing and go on an hour long hunt--even if it is nothing crucial ;Or if I start unlaoding the dishwasher, he will join in, even though our kitchen is only big enough for one
II could go on and on but I will stop for now.If I say anything to him about any of this, he gets mad and the implication is that I am a b***. But if I shut up, I am doing a slow burn and get so resentful! It really, really doesn't help that we are both disabled and home together most of the time. We do have a 2 story home and I try to stay on different levels, but he likes to come and "see" me, even if just to hum or hover and then leave... He is tapering up on Straterra at the moment--will it stop this behavior????
Tornadoing the house. It was clean at 10pm when everyone but me went to bed. But somehow , in the course of looking for something , or having a great idea about how to reorganize the kitchen drawers which requires emptying them all first, by morning every room of the house looks like it was hit by a tornado. I hear my oldest daughter come out of her bedroom and gasp!... and only then do I notice what I've done. She asks "what happened?" and the only thing I can think to say is "I was cleaning", and I go on to explain that the top of the refrigerator is now clean, as well as the contact paper lining each drawer...and deep down it's really much cleaner eventhough it looks like I made a mess, so don't be mad.
Is that why when an ADHD person decides to "clean" it also includes tearing apart a room from top to bottom and organizing almost everything (note I said almost everything - there is always a pile "to go through later") but then once it is neat mess it all up again and decide that you are not going to clean again because you have to start all over. I would think it would be easier to just keep up with the few little piles as opposed to adding to it.
I'll admit once the room is clean - there isn't a speck of dust to be found - it is amazing. But in about a week - yes we have a tornado that hits our apartment too.
Oh yeah - and the humming and twitching while driving in the car - and its not any particular song just noisy humming sounds (when meds are taken - it rarely happens). Drives me nutty.
Hovering & being instantly sucked in by the television & taking on other people's causes--TOTALLY that's me--Ragurl, I promise your husband is not the only one. I drive my hubby bananas & nuts doing that--precisely that thing with unloading the dishwasher or folding laundry he's already started on. It drives me batty when he does it--I have to leave, yet vice-versa, I swear I can't stop myself.
LipinskiFan19--I couldn't agree more regarding the useless babble of how old is he, where does she work, what does she do--I mean, honestly--who the hel* cares?! Unless you're stalking someone, what's the point? I always used to wonder why I was never interested in joining in with "the girls"--boring "girly" conversation, materialistic crap that I could care less about--who wants to make a date to go shopping--ick! I guess something must be wrong with me.
Tornado-ers through the house are known as "Tasmanian-Deviling" in ours.
[QUOTE=bepatient]My ADD daughter and I both do something that drives my hubby crazy. Any time I (or she) takes something out of a cabinet in the kitchen, we leave the door open. Hey, that's my secret for getting sharron tickedoff. She then comes back through and bounces them closed (slams them soooo hard that bounce then close.) So when I'm cooking, pretty much all the cabinets doors are open. Who needs to be cooking? How about curiousling? Like, I wonder where I put that scissors? or meds? or favorite coffee cup ("My Favorite Gift I Ever Had, Came From God, I Call Him, Dad...) If hubby comes home while I'm cooking he's like,"what the hell ?" Then he starts shutting all the doors. My daughters favorite thing to do now is cook. So he has to deal with both of us! I do the same thing with the drawyers we have closet wars, with coathangers as the weapon in chief. in my bedroom. I leave them open and it looks like a tornado (not davidtornado
) 
came flying through! (I shoved him back into the monitor, he's back home now but not safe)[/QUOTE]HEy,
how can we expect to get any peace around here with all these
instigations going on? Are you just trying to get me started???...
okay. Thanks! I was just loafting on the couch anyway. OMG! Look at the
time! And at the one of my last post last night.... Y'all kept me up
until 05:00. At least I got 7 hours of sleep...
My ADD daughter and I both do something that drives my hubby crazy. Any time I (or she) takes something out of a cabinet in the kitchen, we leave the door open. So when I'm cooking, pretty much all the cabinets doors are open. If hubby comes home while I'm cooking he's like,"what the hell ?" Then he starts shutting all the doors. My daughters favorite thing to do now is cook. So he has to deal with both of us! I do the same thing with the drawyers in my bedroom. I leave them open and it looks like a tornado (not davidtornado) came flying through! (I shoved him back into the monitor, he's back home now)
[QUOTE=trying to fly]interrupting drives my ADHD friends nuts, but
surprisingly NOT the non-ADHDrs - possibly
because they have more patience and can
remember that, yes, I actually do end up saying "oh,
sorry, I interrupted" and being able to remember
precisely where I left off (I'm really good at tracing
conversations back to certain points, because I can
remember "anchors" about when they were said,
what was said before, and I usually have a visual
memory of the chain of events/discussion...
Tantrums, again, annoy my ADHD friends...
Probably my tornadoing bugs the non-ADHDrs the
most.[/QUOTE]
(2 kool!)
What is it you have done when you hear someone else, ADr or nOrmal, say that drive's them nuts?
Playing wheel of fortune on my cell phone at work and taking sales calls. my boss says to put it away. (it actually helps me think better and keep me excited for sales and involved)
when I lose things necessary to give to them or forget things
when I interrupt people or blurt out things or invade peoples offices, space, etc- (numerous occaisions)
that i can't budget my money
when i don't stay organized then my ex roomates have ended up cleaning or when people come over they say that since everything is clutter
when people talk and i space out constantly and they get mad since Im not listening
"milling around" a lot or being gone for long periods of time
when im reading the paper or playing with my cell and talking to my boyfriend at the same time and other friends as well
KTsDistraction38589.5151041667interrupting drives my ADHD friends nuts, but
surprisingly NOT the non-ADHDrs - possibly
because they have more patience and can
remember that, yes, I actually do end up saying "oh,
sorry, I interrupted" and being able to remember
precisely where I left off (I'm really good at tracing
conversations back to certain points, because I can
remember "anchors" about when they were said,
what was said before, and I usually have a visual
memory of the chain of events/discussion...
Tantrums, again, annoy my ADHD friends...
Probably my tornadoing bugs the non-ADHDrs the
most.Very funny. You are very, very funny, Mr. Davidoff! I'll get you, my pretty, and your little dog, too![QUOTE=falcoeur]Tornadoing the house. It was clean at 10pm when everyone but me went to bed. But somehow , in the course of looking for something , or having a great idea about how to reorganize the kitchen drawers which requires emptying them all first, by morning every room of the house looks like it was hit by a tornado. I hear my oldest daughter come out of her bedroom and gasp!... and only then do I notice what I've done. She asks "what happened?" and the only thing I can think to say is "I was cleaning", and I go on to explain that the top of the refrigerator is now clean, as well as the contact paper lining each drawer...and deep down it's really much cleaner eventhough it looks like I made a mess, so don't be mad.[/QUOTE]
My daughter is just like that. Her name is Victoria, so we call her Tory. My pet name for her is ToryNado. That's where I got the idea for my screenname.
Here's to all House Tornados!!! Here. Here. Here.
What are you--an infant? I've decided for you already that seven hours of sleep is sufficient, just in case you were wondering . . . Thanks, MomE You're welcome, my love! Just being my regular old nasty self--no meds today, in case you were curious . . . root canal this AM--why waste crappy Vicodin?
If this is your nasty elf, I can handle this. You're being pretty nice to moi... bon ami...grazci...P.S. I'd hate to see you on a bad day...
But I can take it. I can take anything.
I'm INVINCIBLE!!!
(but no delusions of grandeur...)
Megalomaniacs Need Apply Within
[QUOTE=Davidornado]P.S. I'd hate to see you on a bad day...
Si, Ortega! I used to bet my boyfriends in high school that I could make them break up with/hate me in fifteen minutes. And don't think for one minute I'd ever present a challenge I wasn't planning to win.Whoooaaamaaaan!
You penned in blue?!!!
I'd hate to see you on a blue day...
BTW, in repose:
BIO! Baby!
(Bring it On).
Like I'd like to see you bet me you could break up with/hate me in 15 millenia!
HAH!
(hah).