Things that drive and ADHD/ADDer NUTS! | ADHD Information

I thought it was just me. I do hate noise. I hate loud T.V's specially when I am trying to read or talk to someone. I hate the news ticker at the bottom of your screen. I can either watch the news or read the ticker I cant do both. That ticker is so distracting! Oh if there's a noise I too must find it. Dogs barking drives me crazy. So my dogs know if the barking is getting out of hand is as good as asking to get inside the house. I am at peace doing my household chores with out any noise whatsoever. Its heavenly to me and it rarely happens.

Sylvia

Two things really irritate me to no end:

1. Stupid people. Especially stupid people who think they know everything.

2. Noise that I can't control. Other people's, TV, the awful rattle my glove compartment makes when it's not shut right, etc, etc. I sometimes get to the point where I can actually "feel" the noise. It's like it sends an electrical shock through my system with each sound...

im really sensitive to lights too. I am not really sure why. I wear sunglasses unless there's heavy cloud cover. I like it dim in my house. I have all my electronics "brightness" turned down. It's funny you mention that, I just associated it with my eyes. Wonder if anyone else has it?

I was thinking about this today... I wanted to see and compare notes. I figit, endlessly. I don't mean to. Half the time, I don't even know I'm doing it. I used to get yelled at by my tutor because I would figit so much when she was trying to make me focus on something. Now as an adult, I still figit. I know it must drive others crazy. I try to stop myself because I know if I was them, it would drive me nuts. So what DOES get on our last nerves? I'll tell you what I can't stand...

I don't like it when someone makes a noise like chewing ice, gum, popcorn, nuts, something loud and repeatidly (sp). Annoying tapping noises. If I hear a tapping in my house, I have to find it and stop it. My car rattles sometimes. Drives me up a wall. Certain music. Bright lights. I'm sensitive to lights and like low lighting. If I'm forced to deal with this annoying things, I become aggitated.. If I can leave, I will. If I can make it stop, I will try.

Something that gets on my last nerve. I know I'm smart. I feel highly intelligent. I know that I learn differently, yet when you tell someone that you have ADHD, they either think that you have the plague and you are very different from them, perhaps below them.. and then they start to treat you like you are a child. Condensending. It's very annoying.

Whoa. Somehow I don't think this is coincidence.
Lighting and repetative uncontrollable noise. Dogs
barking...eich!
I've been checking into alternative treatments, and
spectrum lighting was one thing I saw in a few
places.... hmmmm. (I wouldn't bet on it being a full
out cure, but I did have spectrum lights in my office
for a while, and it was a less frustrating time
work-wise.)

Solidarity!OMG I don't have ADD, but My lady does. I see me getting on her nerves ALL the time. Sorry, I am the annoying one. Thanks again to this forum for helping me learn about ADD and how to better relate to people with ADD.

that is the cutest thing newdad! you caller her your lady..and you think you're the annoying one! sweet.

sumi

Babies screaming or crying does the same thing to me. I just hve to leave the area. I thank God my kids are old enough not to make a tantrum in public.

Sylvia

People (my wife and children)not answering my questions right away. I don't like noise when I need it quiet.
I am a 2nd grade teacher and my students this year are making me realize alot of my problems. I have to go get my lovelys bye.

Some bright lights bother me. It depends on the angle they hit my eyes. High beams are killers at night!!

Ignorant people, too. Noises used to drive me crazy. The AC fan beside my desk used to drive me upa wall!! Then I was diagnosed, and started on meds, now I'm better at blocking if out.

When I was a kid my dad used to ask me to do something, then before I was done, he'd come with another job. If I stopeed what I was doing to start job #2 it would upset him, but if I forgot what job #2 was by the time I finnished #1 it would upset him. That just frustrated the life out of me. (STILL frustrates me if someone does that to me, but now I say something.) I was undiagnosed then, so he didn't realize what he was doing, and I didn't know there was a problem...

I hate noises too!! They just make me tense and I want to scream. My husband turns the TV way up to hear it over all the noise my kids make. That drives me nuts. I can't wait till everyone goes to bed. I stay up late just to savor a quite house. But, I sleep with the TV on if it is too quite I can't get to sleep unless I am exhausted.

Lack of light bothers me. I can't stand to watch TV in the dark. I live in the country and don't have covers on any windows except the bedrooms. I very rarely where sunglasses unless in a boat or am going to be in the sun for a long time.

Try living next door to an aspiring drummer :( As for lights, how about 1 flickering flourescent bulb in an overhead fixture. I always wondered why that drove me nuts :)

Oh the noises!! Aaaargh!

THey're that load for a reson I know but ambulance or police sirens go straight through me

Screaming kids are awful too

And when you're in a rush walking somewhere and there's an old lady walking really slowly in front of you. That gets to me me and I have to stop the urge just to pick her up and put her out the way

My wife tells me that I used to be oblivious to being overwhelmed, or not remembering, or the fact that I interupt her. But now that I'm on meds (Strattera) I realize when it's happening, I just can't do anything about it. That drives me crazier than anything else!!!

Will I ever be able to do anything about it? (With more meds, therapy, whatever?) "Cause if not, I may as well stop taking the meds and go back to oblivious!

".....when NO ONE understands that things are urgent for you..you must do something"

Right on! I can relate. Man! these things are important. (Whatever the important thing is) But the rest of the world is in neutral. Drives me bonkers!

TELE-MARKETERS ***AAARARRRRGGGHHHHHHH***

When someone says "Read this." then starts to talk to you about something else while you're trying to read!!!!!

People who work in shops who are really rude. They don't say thanks, don't smile, barely awknowledge you. Or they're on the phone and they sigh when you come to pay for something. Buggerin buggers!

Oh, and when ppl interupt you during a good movie. Asking loads of questions, especially during a really good bit/or the end.

"When I asked you if you wanted to come to mine to watch a movie, I didn't mean for you to be in the same room!"

pretty_lost38153.3168171296

[QUOTE=Chazinmo]How about that #**&*&^ tag in the back of the shirt that feels like it is made out of sheet metal![/QUOTE]

Oh my gosh . . . I know! I have cut the tags out of every shirt I own. Drives my absolutely nuts! I'm noticing that some companies are now stamping the back of the shirt with the info instead of a tag. Bout time!

How about that #**&*&^ tag in the back of the shirt that feels like it is made out of sheet metal!

Oh!Yea,

This is familiar, the cooling fan on my computer, extractor fan on air conditioning units, high beams on cars at night. the high beam thing gets me really going, mad as hell. then i let go a string of the most colourful words that hop in my head. my poor S.O. just stares away hoping i am not heard.

I am new to the forum - and thought I would just read a few messages and share later when I feel comfortable, but when I read this message of what things drive me nuts, I was relating right away. I feel all the same things. I have to put earplugs in my ears when the "little" things are getting to me. I don't know that I have met anyone that have the same long list of irritants - those loud repetitive and uncontrollable noises.

Babies screaming or crying, chewing ice, gum chewing, dogs barking, and annoying-tapping noises.

I know it drives my husband crazy that I have to say something each time he is chewing gum (it sounds more like - chomp, chomp, chomp).

The light fixture in my office at work has that humming sound (fluorescent) I HATE it with a passion. I have to have my own lights. I too have a window, but the sun is usually too bright for me.

There also seems to be a pitch of sound that REALLY gets to my last nerve – literally, like whistling. I can actually feel the noise and have to cover my ears if I cannot leave. I too get agitated if I'm forced to deal with these annoying things.

I sometimes think I have “bionic ears” and can hear every little thing. I would love to be able to block out sounds without earplugs. Anything else work?!

I have an office with a window that lets a very nice soft natural light in. My coworkers always come by my office and remark "you working in the dark?" They look at me like I have two heads.

My wife also remarks about be being in a room with no lights on if it is even a bit overcast or nearing sundown.

Oh how weird. I, too, have an aversion to noise and bright lights. I hate the sun. I know we need it and all, but I feel so much better on a cloudy day. I wear sunglasses even on a cloudy day.

And the one thing that absolutely positively drives me absolutely bonkers as far as noise goes . . . a baby crying or a kid screaming and crying! My husband and I have left restaurants because of it. I don't know how to explain it, but it actually causes me pain!

One time in a restaurant and little boy was just screaming and screaming and screaming and the mother did nothing about it. I literally had to plug my ears with my fingers it was so bad. She gave me a filthy look when I did that. Then her husband finally picked the kid up and went outside.

Screaming babies in places that SHOULD be quiet. (Like the library, church, theaters, etc.)

The turn indicators in my car. (Ticktock, ticktock, ticktock, ticktock) I don't use them unless I absolutely have to when I have a "tailgater" on my butt.

Tailgators! People who drive too fast.

Slow drivers! I drives me crazy to get behind somebody that MAKES me be the tailgator.

Truckers ahead of you in the rain. AAARGGGHHH!

Road construction flaggers who let a whole string of traffic through, then jump right out in front of you with their stupid little stop sign as soon as you approach the area where they are standing around drinking coffee!

I almost wish that I lived in a time before cars were invented; except that I am a huge race fan; and hate horse racing.

(I haven't taken my meds this morning yet. I'm a little cranky)

could we even have enough space to have our complete list of annoyances?

some of mine:

that my husband think i'm just being rude when i interrupt his sentences and refuses to tell me the rest b/c i interrupted and then goes on and on about how i've done to him for ten years. geez.

when my best friend who is major adhd asks me to do things for her, she's single and 31 and lives at her mothers house..and works for her mother. i have adhd and i go to work fulltime have a toddler and a husband and i'm about to start school again. then she acts like i'm whining. geez.

when i meet other adhd'ers thinking we can have some great feelings of relating..and (i've actually met a few ppl like this) they act like you're wimping out b/c you take adderall. "its all in your head"

when NO ONE understands that things are urgent for you..you must do something.you must say something , you must remember...geez!

life is one long emergency baby.

sumi

I've found that, depending on how many things are going on in my head at the time. Absolutely anything can drive me nutz.

Even the wind can cause me to curse at it if I am thinking about many different things in my head at that moment in time.

I have to catch myself all the time so that I am not a miserable sob. LOL

computerguy38150.1153356481

What drives me nuts is whining.......I cannot stand it when my kids whine. I have to give them hell for that all the time, but I just cannot stand it. I also cannot handle being behind some little old man (in a hat) on the road... Never goes fast enough until you go to pass him and then he punches the car out so he is going warp speed. That drives me totally nuts.

I love the sun, I can sit outside in it all day. I have a habit of turning on all the lights in the house and forgetting them on, which drives my husband nuts.

The tv's on loud bugs the crap out of me too. We have 2 of them, so both tv's are full blast so whomever is in either room can hear it, and then someone on the computer has those speakers full blast also. I am forver telling everyone at home to "turn it down"

yeah, what's with the hats anyway? they must know they're sucky drivers and don't want to be recognized :) Is that the reason they wear those dorky looking little old man hat's??? Good thought, I bet that is why they wear them.

Isn't it funny to see the similarities with all the others with ADD/ADHD too? See, we're not so abnormal after all... it's everyone else. I'm realizing that most of this effects people without ADD/ADHD too, just not as much as it effects us. They can tune it out too. I have great difficulty with tuning anything out, unless I'm in hyperfocus mode or daydreaming.

Kathy, you poor thing. It's one thing to fidgit, it's another to notice it and feel helpless to stop it! Have you tried rigorous daily excercise? Behavior therapy? Don't exhaust your options and try to help people understand. Don't let them judge when it's something you can't help.

Your Friend,

Cheekydeeky

everytime my friend calls me on the phone she has something in her mouth. I always say "what are you eating/" and why do you eat everytime you call me and she will say Oh, it is just a tootsie roll or something like that. That is so annoying. OMG!!!!! I am sooooo easily annoyed by some things and yet overly tolerant of others.

*Screaming children. I want to have a tantrum right on the spot when I hear it.

*I sometimes have petit mal seizures when I walk from outdoors into bright sunlight. I like natural light as much as possible too. Overcast days are my favorite. I love the way 4 a.m. feels.

*I HATE, HATE, HATE snotty, mean, rude, scary WOMEN...especially people in public service. I have such a problem with authoritative types...but especially coming from women for some reason. I worked at the post office (what a horrible environment for an ADHD'er) and got in trouble for telling a particularly militant, sadistic one off. I yelled that she was a f*!#$ing b*#ch and she did everything she could do to try to fire me, but apparently the union saved me. I quit after that. I was fit to be tied.

A couple of weeks ago (during my...ahem...PMS days) a clerk in a store was so snotty to me when I asked her a question, that I dropped the F-bomb so loud that you could hear it all the way across the store. My poor mom was with me and I embarrassed her to the very end. Had to apologize 3 times on the way home in the car. I felt bad that I would give in to that urge to react.

*I hate car honking. OMG! I went to NYC for the first time. A truck pulled up behind our taxi as I was getting out. Well, apparently he didn't want to wait 1 friggin' minute while we got our suitcases out. So, he just honked his big a$$ horn in my ear nonstop. Not honk, honk, honk...just HOOOOOOOOOOOOOONK! I was so pi$$ed off that I finally whipped around and stood in the middle of Times Square giving him the finger and telling him what that meant as loud as I could. I was ready to stab a hole in his tire right on the spot. The scary thing is, at those times, I don't realize a) I'm a woman and b) my size.

Now I'm embarrassed to admit that I have had those outbursts. :(
bluebird3838229.8410416667

this forum is hysterical today - everybody is having a bad day. Never mind - tomorrow will come and we will have to do it all over again. plod plod plod and eventually we will get there -not sure where but lets try to enjoy the scenery along the way.

Now didnt you hate that feel good lecture!!!!!!! Me Too

Hi all, At the risk of sounding like a person that is a know it all sounds like to me you all have the same thing I sometimes get when rebounding off meds and that my 13 y/o son has had forever...hypersensitivity to audio and or video overstimulation. Yes we all really can hear that person talking 100 ft away. I think that this is more to do with the executive functioning of the filtering area of the brain rather than the mind itself...no we are NOT going crazy. (ok so I've been there quite the while anyway)

I hope no one is reading this thread that wants to try to drive an ADHDer nuts!

Oh Bluebird, good one there. Oh course as for myself, I do a good enuf job of driving MYSELF nuts.

lol Allen

No , adhd's could get along because no one chomps on ice or honks the horn. We have a kinship lol

My worst thing is before my husband got hearing aids. The T.V. was so loud that I could not stand it. His voice was loud. Then we got three kids to foster to adopt(ages 5 weeks, age 1 and age 2). The crying I could stand better than I thought. We have been in Wal-mart when one of our kids had a tantrum and I am just so embarrassed. Any door that squeaks gets WD 40 immediately. My husband never heard a sqeaky door until after he got his hearing aids. He said he understood some of the noises that drove me crazy. I was relieved. I had been telling him for 17 years to get a hearing aid to no avail. Finally, I won an essay contest for him to get free hearing aids. It is so wonderful now that he can hear. Now we can go the grocery store and people dont think we are fighting because I used to have to yell for him to hear me.

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It is so wonderful now that he can hear. Now we can go the grocery store and people dont think we are fighting because I used to have to yell for him to hear me.

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LOLOLOL Dixiepeep! Good on you for winning that contest!!! Your story convinced ME!!!! I would have given you the money too!

My boyfriend had the same problem and I kept telling him to please get his ears checked. He would turn the radio in the car up so damn loud while we were driving. The guys that he worked with just thought he was an enormous you-know-what b/c they would say things to him and he wouldn't respond, and he would yell at them. It seemed like he was really irritable all the time too.

I FINALLY insisted that he go to the doctor. I went with him, and luckily it was just a matter of gettings his ears CLEANED for pity's sake. When we got into the car, the radio came on at the level he had left it and I thought he was going to put a sunroof in the top of the car. He said, "I can hear air moving now." As a test, I turned my head to look out the window (away from him) and softly said, "can you hear me?" And he said, "YES, of course I can hear you." Wow. Our lives changed immensely after that.

bluebird3838230.3454282407it was cool that he won because we got the three foster kids overnight and he could not hear the kids when they spoke. Men are so hard headed though. I could not believe it when he won the contest. I cried. We were in the newspaper, it was really cool. Welcome to the boards. You will find a lot of nice people here.Thanks for the welcome dixiepeep. :o)

That is a really sweet story.
People who post the same information on thread after thread after thread after thread. AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH

[QUOTE=Rae70]People who post the same information on thread after thread after thread after thread. AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH[/QUOTE]

AUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Somebody put me out of my misery.

I HATE listening to:

"Marco....Polo... AHAHAHAHAHA.....WHOOO WHOO!!! Marco......Polo. HEEE HEE HEEE <SPLASH> HEE HEEE HEEE <SCREAM, LAUGH, SCREAM, SCREAM, LAUGH> HELP, HELP! WHOOOOOO!!!"

It sounds like Beach Blanket Bingo going on outside my patio at our swimming pool and I am having to curb every impulse to go out there and have a fit. I'm having that unpleasant feeling of "WHO let these people in???" I hear lots of foreign languages too and it's totally annoying. Is there anything as annoying as partying sounds? Ugh..

There. I almost feel better now.

PMS, hot, sweaty weather, and ADHD...it's "a bad, bad thing."
bluebird3838241.7859953704 spam.

there is no punishment great enough for these evil little trolls.
bluebird3838242.4727893519today - being me.

I can't believe there are people out there, just like me. I just want to run and escape from them. When I have a conversation with someone. I can listen for a while, and then I go out to lunch. I can only process so much.

It has taken me years to get the hang of listening. I would hear a sentence from them and that would spiral my brain into a big idea and off i would go, then i would notice them looking a little glazed over and hand the converstaion back and then whoosh I would steal it again. I get really bored too with other people, but once I learnt to listen, i have gained lots of interesting knowledge and tidbits. But crikeys they must have got sick of me. The only friend I have left, is the same - she is a whooooosher.

My GP thinks I have ADD--will be checking in with a specialist in a couple of weeks to begin the process of seeing if the GP is on target, so we'll see. But judging from what I've read to date about the disorder, I feel almost elated that I might be closing in on a diagnosis of what ails me.

And now to the question - almost everything annoys me--in addition to what's already been mentioned, I am annoyed by imperfect people in general (i.e., their likes, dislikes, mannerisms, voice level, common sense, politics, character, etc., etc., don't coincide with what I find acceptable).

I am exceedingly judgmental but thankfully I've also learned to act on my annoyances sparingly. I seathe when I see or hear of injustices and yet I myself can turn around and get inwardly angry at people who go against my grain (equally unjust). I'm easily startled so will verbally strike out at the perpetrator. Among those I'm currently annoyed with is my grown daughter who laughed uproariously tonight when I told her of my possible diagnosis.

I am one angry lady most of the time but manage to keep it under wraps when coming into contact with people only superficially. Most of the time I compensate by being ultra ultra polite to those who I must interact with. Knowing the extent of my inward rage (politics and religion are my "specialties") I keep most people at bay. Of course, that's a no-brainer--why would I choose to befriend people who are imperfect clods? It goes without saying that the vast majority of my acquaintances are fortunately spared from ever getting to know the real me.

With the very few friends I do have I will occasionally blast them for their stupidity--and then later kind of regret it--but only from the embarrassment of having "lost it." The fact that they stay with me I'm hoping is an indication that they can see some redeeming qualities in me.

At one point in my life I thought of myself as being so different from the norm--just never seemed to fit in--had a terrible time with school--couldn't focus--couldn't think linearly--always making excuses for being late--wellllll, you know the list. But then I almost became entrenched in my behaviour--owned it entirely and was prepared to accept that this was as good as life was going to get for me. What a bummer. Anyway, I do hope there is hope.

Just discovering that there is a name for my supposed condition has served in some small way (in the short term at least) to soften the edges a wee bit and made me realize that the enemy is me and not all these so-called imperfect other people.

Is this anything like the overall feeling any of you have? Or is it possible that I'm just plain anti-social--period--the end? In other words I'm trying to get a sense of what your general demeanors are--

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It goes without saying that the vast majority of my acquaintances are fortunately spared from ever getting to know the real me.

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Yikes. You described me to a T. Annoyed is my middle name, but add to that that "Sensitive to criticism" is my last name. Wow, what a horrible combination.

Weirdly, politics and religion are my things too. Though it extends into other areas such as psychotic or mentally ill acting types aroumd me that I notice, but no one else seems to.

Our office manager at work, for example, is committable in my opinion. I'm not exaggerating even a little. I am thoroughly floored that she still has a job. She is 42 and today I came in and she just announced, out loud, "I have a hangover. I drank a whole bottle of wine last night and I think I am, in fact, still drunk.." She drinks at her desk. I swear that if I did the same thing, I would be hauled in to at LEAST a private meeting and asked what I thought I was doing...and then issued a warning. See...this stuff just freaks me out and I can get carried right away with it. So, I guess my other thing is interpersonal dramas that freak me out. I have to work hard to not to get caught up in the play by plays. I'm working really hard at letting things go, but that is like telling an eel to unclench its teeth after it has bitten.

Also, do you have a problem with authority? I think I might have mentioned it before....oh, yes, I did. Authoritative women make me feel rageful and sometimes punitive. I have NO problem with authority figures who are kind and make sense. If they tell me to do something and I think that they have a decent character and good intentions, I will go above and beyond and give 200%. I love to please people and to be of help, especially if it is appreciated. But, if I detect a power trip; it's an instant power struggle. I have been that way since I was a toddler and had a babysitter who slapped my hands in a grocery store when I reached from the cart to the shelf for something I saw.

My p-doc says this disdain for authority and willfulness is in large part from physical abuse from my dad. I guess I'm a fighter, not a flighter...and my mouth has gotten me into trouble, even though I have a B.S. in Interpersonal Communication. That degree was NO accident, let me tell you. I needed to learn comm. theories as well as study psychology and sociology...and STILL the crazy drunks can get under my skin. Auggh. (Well, I'll resay that...I have been working really hard to correct that.)

Also, if there is an alcoholic, single man in the room...a Dean Moriarty (On the Road, by Jack Keroac), I will attract him. It's gawd awful. I barely even drink...like one drink every 3 mo. P-doc said that is the attraction to excitement and charisma that is usually involved...a very ADHD thing. They are attracted to me too, I guess because I can have be quite "on" at times. I have recently proven to myself, though, that I am capable of walking away. It takes sheer willpower for me to do so, but I dropped a very exciting, good looking guy for being over-the-top with his caddiness (is that a word?), and partying ways. He was like a disco ball...exciting and colorful. It was hard, because not hearing him was like 'the day the music died' or something. But, I did it. I walked away and haven't looked back--I did it. I did something healthy.

And, I can totally relate to over compensating by being REALLY nice to people, and how many people don't know or are shocked by how angry I can really be. I am really trying to work on that.

I, too, only have a few close friends. I have a TON of acquaintances, and people seem to always want a piece of me...my time and I have to create space. I freak out if someone tries to lean on me too much...or expect to much from a friendship. My mom is the closest one to me...she lives close and I see or talk to her every day. Her soul will surely go to heaven (or deserves to if there is one) for having the patience to be kind to me, even though I am me.

I know we are challenged, but I still feel bad about myself...other times, I wonder if I am just doing what other people don't dare to do...speak up. I don't know--obviously, I'm confused too. P-doc said that I am HIGHLY sensitive to people, sounds, colors, and texture. And, I startle very easily too.

Sorry that I have gone on and on...please excuse grammar, typing etc., I just don't feel like editing.

bluebird3838230.9301041667Slooow & inconsiderate drivers! you know the kind that keeps us cussing all the time. This slow computer

and certain noises.

Oh, Bluebird, I really can't believe what you are writing!!!! :] You can't imagine just how relieved I am to learn that there is at least one person "out there" who seems so much like me.

Re authority figures - YES!!!!!! If the authority figure warrants my obedience (and I will be the judge of that--of course!) I also will bend over backwards to cooperate and give it my all. But, again, like you, if I think the person is on a power trip or I assess that s/he is not as smart as I, well, my friend, trust me, I'm up to the challenge and the war is on. But, yes, yet again, like you alluded, I don't think I want to ever give up my bent for questioning authority. In that regard, the world would do well to have more people with that trait.

Would you go so far as to agree that we would make remarkably effective benificent dictators? Oh dear, does that sound just too too self delusional? Ah well. Our sensitivities make it possible to relate to the hurts of others; recoil when the underdog is maligned and abused; despise the greed of the super rich; want to even the scores so the have-nots (through no fault of their own) get some breaks in life; that taking advantage of others for one's own gain is reprehensible; and on and on and on. etc., etc. Yes, you and I and others like us should form a movement in search of utopia. What?! Reality? I should get back to reality? True, but sometimes I have fun in my own little world trying to figure out what needs to be done to reach utopia. It's not that I'm a religious person--I'm not! But I am spiritual and think we would all do better to work with Nature instead of against her like we so often do.

I'm so pleased that your mom is in your court. My parents could always be heard saying that they just didn't understand me--that I was like no other member of the family distant or otherwise--and yet, paradoxically, whenever I got under their skin (which was deplorably often), each declared that I was just like the other. Inasmuch as our house was a verbal warzone, their likening me to each other was so endearing. NOT!!

Bluebird, thanks so much for responding--thanks for letting me know that you share many of my feelings about people. Some other things that I would like to explore is whether or not you and others consider ADD/ADHD a disorder? By that I mean there are definitely some traits that I don't ever want to give up. What I do want to be able to do, however, is learn to be able to concentrate on things other than only my passions: religion and politics. I want to be able to get more control of my life which some other traits of the "disorder" prevent me from doing.

How I do rattle on. So will sign off and again say thanks for responding. I do so enjoy reading about this stuff. Just knowing there are others like me--finally!!--is exhillerating and comforting.

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Oh, Bluebird, I really can't believe what you are writing!!!! :] You can't imagine just how relieved I am to learn that there is at least one person "out there" who seems so much like me.

Would you go so far as to agree that we would make remarkably effective benificent dictators?

Some other things that I would like to explore is whether or not you and others consider ADD/ADHD a disorder? By that I mean there are definitely some traits that I don't ever want to give up. What I do want to be able to do, however, is learn to be able to concentrate on things other than only my passions: religion and politics. I want to be able to get more control of my life which some other traits of the "disorder" prevent me from doing.

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Me too, me too, me too.

Compassionate dictators. Yes! haha I have told my mother that I would love a dictatorship if it were Christ. Just think...someone who would have all of our best interests at heart. :o)

Sorry to hear about the lack of support from your parents. Though my brother, whom I used to adore, just thinks I'm some kind of screw up who uses excuses. He is a pull-yourself-up-by-your-boots kind of guy--willpower solves everything with him and he doesn't respect people who don't knock themselves out as hard as he does. ugh.

ADHD as a disorder. Yah, it's a disorder for me when I do things I don't want to do and can't control very well...and a gift when I do something that other people have a hard time doing. I mean, can they drive a stick shift, eat a sandwich, talk on the phone, put a ponytail in, steer with their knee, and change lanes all at one time and have never gotten into even one traffic accident by the time they are 40?

Believe me, when I was working retail as a cashier at Christmas time...you WANT to be in my line!! Big lines, confusion, and hustle/bustle were like a fun slumber party game to me. I'd have people in and out and in a good mood by the time they left.

I have thought a lot about my hyper dog I used to have as a kid. I loved him, but he was a disaster and we didn't know how to handle him. Sometimes I get teary when I think of how mean we were to him in a way. We would scold him for not being able to hold still and act like the dream dog that I always wanted.

He would run around with a lemon from our tree in his mouth and just toss it right at your feet whenever you walked outside wanting to "play ball." And, when you were going inside, he had impeccable, unbelievable aim--he would chuck it right in the door as you were trying to close it. He never missed, so you would have to bend down and get the soggy lemon out (he'd lick your face while you did it too). Now, I understand him so well, and I could cry for not having known how to channel his energy.

He WAS a dream dog....we just didn't know the right setting for him to outshine every other dog in the city...cause he surely would have.

So, I think it is the same with us. Sure, some stuff we have to control, but dang! we are champion racehorses in our right environment. Racehorses aren't appropriate where plowhorses are required, and vice versa.

bb

bluebird3838232.5961226852

Pretty funny stuff and sad at the same time--about your dog I mean. He sounds absolutely precious--and that thing about the lemons and his impeccable aim and timing gave me a much needed chuckle.

Never mind your brother. Men can be so obtuse at times, besides which what he may see as his own "iron will" approach may be just what he's genetically wired to do--and nothing to do with "will" at all. You, on the other hand, are wired differently. He needs to develop some understanding to go along with his "pull yourself up by the boot straps" mentality.

Just had to make a comment about your hyper dog of the past--and now it's time to go and make dinner--we're late tonight.

That's so funny that all of us have these annoyances!!!

For me: Tapping/clicking/ticking/crying babies/distant dog barks = physical anger if it doesn't stop

I am VERY photosensitive - I can't stand sunny days!!! I get such headaches. It is overcast in Louisiana today and I'm LOVING it!

Most of the time though I can find 100 things at any given time that I get physically angry about... The biggest issue is when people don't Spay/Neuter their pets. I just wish I could reach out and strangle them and put them to sleep because of thier stupidity!!! I have to get off of this subject because I am just getting too mad!!!

Anyway, I try really hard to focus on the positive. I very much could dwell on the negative and the annoyances, but life would be pretty sh*tty then. Although sometimes it is pretty fun and funny with some of the annoyances.... I know it is mean, but I just have to laugh at some people who look stupid (in my opinion of course) or at things they say that annoy me.

Well, I hope we can all control this to a point...

Laura

Much of the same for me. I am sensitive to bright light, and wear sunglasses even on cloudy days but oddly enough, I despise the dark. I have to have every light in the house on at night, and all the curtains open during the day. Tapping sounds drive me nuts. I ask my son to stop that tapping and of course he says "why"? Then I can't think of a good reason other that it's driving me nuts.

I think slow drivers annoy lots of people, so do slow computers. I also have a big problem with "stupid" people and with authority. Fortunately, I don't have the impulsivity and am very shy and reserved, so I just quietly fume and totally avoid authority.

After whatever is annoying me stops, I immediately forget about it anyway

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I am VERY photosensitive - I can't stand sunny days!!! I get such headaches. It is overcast in Louisiana today and I'm LOVING it!

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Laura, warning GET REALLY CALM BEFORE YOU READ THIS! (WAR STORIES)

Wow, that's so interesting that you like overcast days too. I'm like a cave dweller. I really feel ornery when it's sunny. I'm in my best mood when it's cloudy and rainy. I love to go to the beach and walk around then. Hate summer sounds. My condo is right next to the swimming pool and I hate all the sounds that go with it.

Also really amazing is the spay/neuter issue. I mean, I am floored because this is the issue that anyone who knows me knows that I will just about lose my mind if I get into this conversation. I used to be a pet groomer and people would come in all the time and tell us about their plans to breed and sell their pets. We called 'em "backyard breeders" because they didn't know jack about what they were doing, they just wanted to breed Fluffy. One lady said, "I want my children to see the birthing process." My boss later said, "do she also want them to see the death process when they can't get rid of the puppies?

Also, at another job (different career), the owner of the business had a small dog that needed to be neutered REALLY bad. I would bring it up now and then and one day he finally said, "We've been thinking about getting him a little girlfriend so that he can have sex at least once before we neuter him. It would be really cruel to deny him THAT." AAAAAAUUUUUGGHHHH! This man was an attorney for crying out loud.

Anyway, I know that what people need is education, but I have a hard time not feeling like I want to smack the stupid out of them first. People can be so retarded when it comes to pets. IMO. Ok, that was really inflammatory--so back to my centered place.

Anyway, it's amazing that a lot of our issues are the same.

bb

Can I just say... wow? OK.

WOW!!!

I sooo relate to all this! GOD! Thank-you! I have four kids. My son is 9 months old, and when he cries it drives me BATTY. My husband tells me to ignore it when he NEEDS to cry (to keep from becoming spoiled, learn how to reach things himself, etc.), but I can't explain why I CAN'T ignore it. It physically HURTS to hear him cry, and not because I'm his mommy... because it's ANNOYING. MY daughters, 7, 6 and 3, interrupt me when I'm in the middle of something and it drives me nuts. Changing my attention from one thing to another almost hurts... sometimes it does hurt. I find myself snapping at my kids because they're BUGGING me when I'm in the middle of something, when all they want is for me to notice something they're proud of or something. It sucks. I have such guilt because of this. I stay up late because I need QUIET. I do my work best when I have my headphones plugged in and can't hear anything above the music. I turn my radio up LOUD when I can so I don't have to hear anything else. In the car, I have to have the radio up, and though my husband usually deals with it, sometimes he turns it down to talk to me and I get all worried that the kids will start talking too, and that evetything will get too loud and confusing and I'll snap. I feel so guilty for wanting... no, needing... to block my family out to get anything done. I stay up late and can't get up in the morning. Sunlight doesn't bother me, but duskish light does. I want it either BRIGHT or DARK. In-between drives me nuts. My husband doesn't get why I need lights on in the house during the day. I don't get it either, I just do. My husband thinks I'm making excuses for being lazy. He doesn't believe in ADD. He's supportive to a point, but then he goes off about how I drive him nuts and am just making excuses and how I just need to TRY HARDER. My mom tells me to get a planner... what good would that do? I'd just lose it or forget I have it. I forget EVERTYTHING. I forget where I wrote things down, I forget appointments, I forget birthdays... I forget EVERYTHING and that drives me nuts too. Once, my sister called and asked if we were going camping the next day. I said yes and we made plans. The next day, she called to ask where we were. I had TOTALLY forgotten! I can't concentrate on other people when they talk. I want to be interested and be a good listener and be a good friend, but they BORE me. It bores me to play with my kids so I don't, otherwise I'm afraid I'll get bored and frustrated and snap at them. It SUCKS!

Someone mentioned wanting to move old ladies out of the way if they're walking too slow in front of them. YES! I HATE having to go slow. I even go too fast when I play video games! Yet, at the same time, I'm always tired. Always. And even when I have a little energy, I can't figure out where to use it. There's always so much to do... and never enough time or brainpower to do it.

Another thing that annoys the hell out of me is improper grammer. Funny, I could care less about spelling, but people not writing properly drives me up the wall. I'm a writer and have studied it for YEARS, and when I see people abusing the written word it makes me cringe. I'll try not to be pissy about that here. I promise.

Anyway... for my second post, that was a novel. Sorry. I just... am so glad I found you people. You have no idea. (Or maybe you do!)

I know exactally what you guys mean about the noise and especially the chewing. My husband chews his food an unbelievably loooooonnnnngggg time!! He even chews icecream! (without nuts or anything like that) I can hear his teeth hitting together. I honestly have to get away from him. It's bad enough with someone who chews normally AND I have to live with him!!!!! It makes me crazy!! OMG! I went to see a play the other night, and this is SOOOO typical of me.

I was sitting behind a young, married couple. Something about them kind of intrigued me for whatever reason, and the next thing you know, I was completely aware that he was sitting there looking straight at the play, but SHE kept turning her head about every minute to quickly look at him. She would look for a couple of seconds, smile, and then go back to watching. He never turned to her the same way, just kept looking straight ahead.

I was about as focused on them as I was the musical!!!!! I kept wondering what on earth she was doing. A couple of times she would put her head on his shoulder for a minute of two, then back to looking at him. It was absoultely freaking me out. HAHAHA.

I asked my friend if she noticed, and I'm sure she wondered what my problem was because, No, she hadn't notticed. Wow.

Bluebird-

That is funny- That is totally something I would do!!! Notice the dumb girl in front of me! Of course my friend would be like yours and not notice too! Crazy!

Laura

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Really long threads - sorry guys but I only ready between the lines half the time. If I see the story goes for longer than 10 lines, I get overwhelmed and just read the last few lines

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I know...me too (unless of course, it is riveting), and I am one who is guilty of the long posts. Actually, I get pretty wordless believe it or not, depending on my mood.

bb
Hi! Bluebird38/Rae70,
like you I see a really long post and i think, Hell this is too long and move to a shorter one on the topic. Bluebird38, sometimes we all forget that a post is long because it is, an unload, a vent, a need to do something. Why be "Guilty" about your
need to get something out of you system, share a bit of information, spend time with
someone other than yourself. If the world shared more like you do here it would be a better place for us all.
Ryan

I, too, have to wear sunglasses at all times. You know, now that I think about it, perhaps we are all more sensitive to any of the senses perhaps than "normals"?

I have to cut the tags out of all my clothes because they drive me nuts if I don't! I can't even wear jewelry anymore. I thought I was alergic to gold and silver. But I think it's just the jewelry itself. I can't even wear my wedding ring.

Sensitive to light, can't stand loud noises. And hot foods (read spicey) seem to bother me more than others. Hmmm, I think I'm on to something here.

Oh - and I had to share this . . . I went to the post office the other day during my lunch hour. Got behind a very elderly gentleman walking in the door moving (no kidding here) and inch at a time!! He opened the door then stopped to read the sign on the door. I thought I would blow a head gasket!!

Thankfully he did not go to get in line right away so I went on ahead of him. Then he got behind me in line and left maybe 2 inches of "comfort zone" between he and I. I could feel him breathing on me!! So I turned sideways, stuck out my one leg and leaned in the other direction so at least I had some space between us. Then he kept inching his way in line (even when no one else was moving) and he would walk into my foot. Argh!!!!

Okay, rant over. Thanks for listening!

[QUOTE=ryan1950]Hi! Bluebird38/Rae70,
like you I see a really long post and i think, Hell this is too long and move to a shorter one on the topic. Bluebird38, sometimes we all forget that a post is long because it is, an unload, a vent, a need to do something. Why be "Guilty" about your
need to get something out of you system, share a bit of information, spend time with
someone other than yourself. If the world shared more like you do here it would be a better place for us all.
Ryan

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Awww...that is the sweetest thing to say. Thank you.

(((((((Ryan)))))))

I put a post on here already - but I have to add that the spicy food thing is a big one for me too!!! I even hate black pepper. The old guy at the post office would have pissed me off too!!! Don't feel bad!

Laura

Really long threads - sorry guys but I only ready between the lines half the time. If I see the story goes for longer than 10 lines, I get overwhelmed and just read the last few lines

Add PMS to any one of these annoyances and I swear it is like an ember ready to spark across the road to become a full-on, roaring forest inferno.

Another thing that drives me batty is any problem with my skin. Like if I get a hair somewhere on my face, and I can feel it, I become practically obsessed with wanting to drive home from work and pluck it out. Or if my skin breaks out or something and I get a blemish...I cannot leave it alone. Drives me crazy to feel anything on my skin Or if my nails get to where I can feel them, it bugs the hell out of me. Again, I am willing to drive all the way home and clip them if I don't have clippers in my purse. I can hardly think straight with either of those things going on.

Vitamin A -- helps me not have to wear sunglasses in the winter.

Choline -- helps me ignore annoying noises, I think.

Omega-3 essential fatty acids: helps with not being annoyed by the feel of things, I think.Repeatedly getting something stuck on the bottom of my foot after walking through my kitchen that I haven't swept or mopped in a long time.

people who hum or sing to themselves in public places. makes me crazy. I have to walk away because I can no longer think about whatever I was doing.

breathing. really. can't stand other people who have nasal noises. all through my elem and jr high years this mouth breather was in the same class as I was and I swear I could hear him from across the room. heaven help me when they are near by. i am an adult ed trainer and i have been known to force cold meds on poor students who dare to come to class with congestion.

coffee slurpers. AAHHHH!

Hi All,

This is my first post here, and this thread is irresistable! I can't believe I lived almost 40 years before I figured myself out a little better. It makes me smile to read and RELATE to all these annoyances. My husband is so opposite of me - "High Maintenance" he calls me. It feels so good to know I'm not alone in my idiosyncrasies.

NOISES!!! Oh my God, repetitive, monotone, so-called "white noise". Arrrrgh!!! I can't stand the fan on at night when that's the only thing I can hear. I, too, must hunt down noises in the house and put a stop to them. Crying babies break my heart! I'm a vendor at Target, and it is unbelievable to me how any mother could stand to let her infant cry while she continues to shop. I'm a mother, too, so I try (usually without success) to be understanding that sometimes you just have to get stuff done, but for goodness sake, PICK UP YOUR BABY!!! Feed it, change it's diaper - no one will ever say you are spoiling that baby. Some days the job is almost unbearable for that reason.

My own poor children are allowed to repeat that song, annoying noise or phrase about 5 times before I can't stand it any longer. Even letting them yell and scream outside is almost more than I can take. Although I know intervening upon every argument is probably not the best way to handle sibling rivalry, it's only because I can't bear listening to them anymore.

Barking dogs, car alarms, THE DINGING SOUND THE CAR MAKES WHEN IT IS RUNNING AND YOU LEAVE THE DOOR OPEN!!! Dear Lord! That one is enough to make me crawl right out of my skin.

Clothing tags! None of my shirts and a lot of my pants don't have the tags in anymore. I fell in love with John Travolta even more when I heard him say on Ellen that he has to cut all the tags out of his clothes and even wears his underwear inside out to avoid the seams. Ellen said she is the same way. Anything itchy or pilled! Nylon fabric that grabs at your dry skin when you touch it.

LOSING THINGS!!! I haven't seen anyone describe themselves as perfectionist (or at least I don't remember if they did ), but I have the unfortunate curse of being an ADD/Perfectionist. IT DRIVES ME CRAZY to not be able to find something when I need it. I will spend hours looking for the most insignificant thing, merely because I can't bear not knowing where it is. Packing for trips is an absolute nightmare for that and countless other reasons.

Okay, this will be my last irritation for now... This painfully slow process of diagnosis and finding the right medication/dosage. I didn't realize I had ADD until my first daughter was born, and I couldn't sit still for 5 minutes and play with her (or clean the house, or get dinner on the table, laundry, bills...). That was 8-1/2 years ago. I finally got someone in my HMO to stop treating me for Bipolar Disorder and try ADD meds 2 years ago. Every step of the way has been a battle. I am terrified to ask for a change in medication to see if something will work better for fear that it will just be decided that I'm an ADD imposter and lose what little insurance support I have. Sometimes I do feel like a High Maintenance Imposter. What if I am just weak and whiny and just don't have enough character to handle my own life? Will I ever stop feeling so da*n irritable with my children and feel like a good mother? Will I ever get the dishwasher emptied? Will I ever find the remote control? Some days I really feel like a rat in a maze, and that the surest way to insanity is to keep on trying and failing to get the same things done day after day.

I am really not suicidal or even as depressed as that last paragraph sounds. I've found this website, I have great friends, my children and husband love me in spite of everything. It just feels safe to finally say these things!

Thanks for reading!

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breathing. really. can't stand other people who have nasal noises.

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Sometimes at night when my husband snore, I just want to push him off, peg his nose or poke him in the eye - I thought I was the only person on earth that would wish another person to stop breathing!!!!

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I finally got someone in my HMO to stop treating me for Bipolar Disorder and try ADD meds 2 years ago. Every step of the way has been a battle. I am terrified to ask for a change in medication to see if something will work better for fear that it will just be decided that I'm an ADD imposter and lose what little insurance support I have. Sometimes I do feel like a High Maintenance Imposter. What if I am just weak and whiny and just don't have enough character to handle my own life? Will I ever stop feeling so da*n irritable with my children and feel like a good mother? Will I ever get the dishwasher emptied? Will I ever find the remote control?

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Wow, Cheyenne...I always feel like they think I am an ADHD imposter too! My brother does not have respect for what I'm dealing with....he thinks I'm just trying to find excuses for my laziness. His daughter is exactly like me and he feels the same way about her too.

I'm almost died laughing about your remote control. I posted several messages on another board about going crazy because "I cannot find my remote control." I was without TV for several months (my TV is almost non-functional without the remote). I turned my place upside down and went through each little nook and cranny of this place and finally concluded that I probably tossed it into one of my donation bags (I STILL cannot believe I would have done that). I finally gave in and purchased a universal remote that is still not fully compatible with my tv.

bb

One more...sitting through meetings at work that are not relevant to me, but that I am expected to be in where people just yammer on and on and on and on about things that should be a separate meeting altogether.

I'm over joyed to know It's not just me! I am very sensitive to light, I turn down the brightness on my computer and T.V. My son is ADHD when he screams for no reason it goes through me, this wave of anger. My other son taps his fingers all the time in the car on the table, Walls you name it, it drives me crazy. Yes, I agree any thing on the screen of the T.V. during any program, I have to change the channel. I'm on Ritalin when my last dose for the night disappears I get so hungry! I Eat and Eat does anyone else have this problem?

Oh my goodness! How strange...

Lights, yes. They have to be right, flickering ones make me nuts. I love the sun, but won't stay out in it by choice. I choose shady spots always.

Repetative noises, like tapping & squeaking. Droning noises, like this dam* computer, bathroom fans & my industrial sewing machine. I NEVER leave machines on when I am done with them. I'd turn off the fridge if I could.

Fumey smells upset me; I have to get away. Diesel, WD40, gasoline, cleaning fluid etc. Or chemical perfumes. I love natural oils, but the drug store kind of purfume makes me feel ill.

Crying babies and children upset me too. I can't believe that anyone would let their children cry like that. I just want to go and hold the poor baby... Little ones only have one method of communication, and for it to be that urgent AND ignored just sooo goes against every instinct we are supposed to have. Maybe we are upset by this sound because of past memories? In the 50's- 60's Dr. Spock used to claim that picking up a crying child spoiled the infant. (SNORT!!!)

Interesting thread.

repetitive noises. for instance:

Dearest young son banging something: thump, thump, thump

mom: stop please thump thump thump stop please

thump thump thump thump thump & nbsp; Please stop that now!

thump thump thump & nbsp; STOP THAT &n bsp; why mom?

mom: ummmm (thinking, it's not hurting anything, no real logical reason to ask him to stop) BECAUSE YOU'RE DRIVING ME NUTS!

OK mom

Stupid, self absorbed people.

Stupid, inconsiderate people.

Stupid, in my way, people.

Stupid people that NEVER stop talking.

Regular, average joe, stupid people.

noise, noise, noise

whistling

and

STUPID PEOPLE

Ok, I feel better now

Hey all.

I see lots of stuff about not liking lights and noise and spicy food. I love spicy foods, when I play music, I stream lots of different radio stations/cds at once, so that there is complete NOISE! and if I stop liking one sound, I sort of follow another tune, and when that one gets predictable, I tune that one out, and follow another one. Reggae on top of country on top of Classical on top of techno. So, For all the "WE're all the same, we're all a clan, we all hate noise and spicy food and bright flashy lights" it just aint so.

I hate people who stop you in the street to ask if you want to give to causes. I think it's rude and intrusive, especially when they're persistent. If I believed that something was important to donate to, I'd visit a website and do it there. It bothers me when I'm in my own happy world, and people make me feel like the sidewalk is some kind of meeting forum.

Oh, and I hate it when you and someone else in the street mutually bump into each other (I live in NY...it happens), and you're the only one who says sorry. AND when people on trains smile at other people's babies...seemingly excessive shows of compassion make me uncomfortable. I hate telephones, because if I'm absorbed in something, they throw my concentration off, and are generally not worth answering (citibank...). If it's a friend or relative, I never know how to explain wanting to get off the ohone- finding the right time to do it. Email is better because you have more of a say in when you want to talk.

Laurala, I completely agree with you about telephones. I hate when mine rings; most of the time I have it on silent mode.

Cell phones are the worst. As I was sitting here in a computer lab, the moron right next to me had a fifteen minute cell phone conversation and then told the person he was talking to that he had to go because he was around a bunch of other people in the lab!

Cell phone conversations everywhere you go. I hate hearing other people's conversations in general-mindless chatter showing how stupid they are. I've gone so far as to print "no cell phone" signs to post in the lab.

I also hate people who stop you on the street-especially those that are trying to "sell" you their religion.

Mochelle

I don't own a cell phone. And people who try to convert you on the street? THE WORST! ! !

There's this group called Falun Gong. At first, I sympathized. They are some religious group that is brutally persecuted in China. Horrible. I took their pamphlets, and signed their petition. And that's RARE. HOWEVER, I started to read their lit, and all it had to say was- this religion is good. Want to come to a meeting to learn about the glorious ways of Falun Gong? Wanna join?

That completely PISSED ME OFF, because it seemed like a CHEAP A$$ed way to sell a religion. The pity vote. The mercy conversion. A ploy. I wanted to give them support and money because I STRONGLY believe that everybody has the right to practice whatever they want, but the fact that they were not out for social justice- they were out for Proseletyzing (sp?) completely negated the cause in the first place. Which is a shame, because they really had me on their emotional (for whatever that does) support boat. Well, probably still am.....

What kind of lab?

Mochelle- just to articulate that better- the reason it seemed so horrible and tasteless was because it seemed like they were exploiting the suffering of people for the sake of expanding their numbers...Because when people see fake bloody prisoners on showcase in the streets, they stop to look. Like a naked woman selling toothpaste, but they dug her up from the grave. [QUOTE=Auntie][QUOTE=animalnutzo]

The biggest issue is when people don't Spay/Neuter their pets. I just wish I could reach out and strangle them and put them to sleep because of thier stupidity!!! I have to get off of this subject because I am just getting too mad!!!

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First of all, I SO AGREE. And what ticks me off even more is when I know someone didn't "take care" of their pet and then let them outside to roam free to mate and make oodles of babies. GRRRRR!

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I'm in agreement on this too. I'm always preaching to people to fix their pets. It makes me so angry to see people selling puppies on the side of the road when there are thousands of animals a day that are put to sleep across this country.

[QUOTE=Auntie][QUOTE=animalnutzo]

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First of all, I SO AGREE. And what ticks me off even more is when I know someone didn't "take care" of their pet and then let them outside to roam free to mate and make oodles of babies. GRRRRR!

Now for the truth. I admit, I love coming to the adult threads because I think you all have a fabulous sense of humor.

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Yup. I worked with animals for 10 years and the worst things I have heard:

"I don't want to neuter our dog because I think it would be cruel for him not to experience sex." (YES, a BOSS of mine (unrelated job) actually said this.)

"I want our children to experience the birthing process."

Or...backyard breeders and the ads they run in the paper:

"M worth of love for 0. Our rare Yorkies <oversized, with an underbite and poodle hair> are ready to go home..." etc.

:O me too. light and sound overwhelms me. i realised ages ago that i always shade my eyes when no one else is, even inside..

Remodeling sounds I am hearing from my condo...drilling, sawing, hammering. WAAAAAAAAAH!

Sound of the damn leafblowers.

Sound of a vaccum.

I carry a pack of foam earplugs in my purse--never know when I'll go to a coffee shop or bookstore or someplace where there is a misguided new talent who thinks that being loud is the way to make me want to purchase a CD.

(I would probably purchase a CD even if they are bad just because their noise level is pleasant.

)

Waiting...waiting...waiting...anything that requires me to wait!

I thought it was my birthplace: the Sierra Nevada mountains, and my living place: Fresno. A culturally learned environmental thing. Since I left home, I've always slept with 3 pillows, one to hug, one for my head, and the other to cover my eyes so its dark.

I hate loud surprising noises, and drip drip drip repetitive noises. Once, as a kid, I was visiting a house where the owner collected clocks. The ticking drove me so crazy that I turned off every single clock in that house (had to be about 20 or 30). I carry about 7 pairs of ear plugs, and have purchased two very expensive sound blocking earphone devices from Sure. On the other hand, every single time my 9 year old Torynado reads to me when I'm laying on the couch, I fall asleep. I guess she's not a dripping nag, eh?

I carry a black light blinder thingie in my briefcase, I collect tens of expensive sunglasses (high lights, mid lights, low lights, computer operating while day driving glasses, night driving glasses, etc). I own about 14 pairs of Oakley glasses, and they are not cheap. But I do not like bright lights.

Add this to ADHDers dislikes: heat and humidity. I hate hot, but chose a career in agriculture, so I have to live in it. I thrive in cold, dry, snowy, freezing, icy, etc. climates. But I experience 110+ degree weather 10 months a year, cuz I chase melons around the world, and basically have no winter. But lots of air miles. I've been in heat indexes of 135 in Choluteca, Honduras. Hell on earth. Humid hell. I left a diner in Phoenix last summer, and it was 105 degrees at midnight. That's just not right. Hell on earth, again. Dry hell.

Hey, do y'all have vivid, memorable dreams?

Davidornado

:P yeah, i like the cold better too,but for some reason i only like it when its hot if its reeeally hot, like in the 40s (celcius. i hav no idea why. i don't remember what this forum was about but oh well :p ooooh, right. there are lots of things that are annoying but i really only care that no-one understands it/me :P

I take it from your screen name you like the dark, too?

I still don't like it hot. I like it cold. Very very cold. -30 F cold.

I can't stand it when someone's going through a stack of papers, or handing out papers to a group of people and they lick their fingers while their doing it (to get a better grip). That is so disgusting.....like I wanna touch that paper now?!

People who don't get to the point!! Being touched!! Exposed clutter... clutter in a closet or in a drawer is okay. I also have problems with noises, the worst is when the phone rings!! I can't stand it. or when i can hear two things at once, like two people talking or the tv and the radio in the background.

I also can't stand dumb people. or people who cannot debate well and miss-quote themselves!I can not stand it when I am takling to someone I say what I had to say. Then they ask me questions about it. I act as though they should know and that they are stupid for not knowing. I hate that.I hate explaining stuff to people.

Things that drive me nuts:

Meetings. Any meeting. I can handle a presentation if the speaker is dynamic and intelligent, but I despise meetings.

Digital voice systems. Oh God. I hate those things.

People who keep me waiting!!! At my first ADD support group meeting, I drove 30 miles just to cool my heels outside a locked meeting room until someone showed up....I tapped my fingers on the desk and listened to people tell me all about their own problems....so in the middle of the main speakers talk...I stood up and walked out.....I just couldn't take it any longer.

1) High pitch noises. I have two dogs, one has a deeper/lower pitch
bark which does not bother me, but the other emmits an horrid shriek
which actually 'hurts' me. Some telephone ringers have the same effect.

2) Floresent Lighting. If I spend too much time under floresent lighting I
get horrible headaches. Bright sunlight does not bother me at all.

3) I cannot stand it when people repeat the same idea or thought using
different words each time. I got it the first time, if I do not understand
something I will let you know.

4) I cannot stand people who think that everything has to be their
brainchild/idea, and will not defend their idea when it is challenged.
Someone thinks we should do it this way, I think we should do it another
way - lets discuss/debate our positions identify the pros and cons of
each and choose the best course of action. If they cannot address my
arguments then we do it my way. If their design/idea is better then lets
do it their way. It does not matter who is right or wrong, we are on the
same team.

5) Informal Logical Fallacies, I would estimate that 60-70 percent of all
arguments (at work, the media, etc.) contain at least one and I have little
to no tolerance for them. I think that our culture suffers greatly from the
decision to remove logic from our public school curriculums.

A few of these are more of personality traits, but the sensitivity to light
and sound is common in this thread. Do you think this can be attributed
to the fact that we all have ADHD or is it a side effect of the medication
we take to treat our ADHD?

Subj: Things that drive and ADHD/ADDer NUTS!

[QUOTE=jaxkipi]it would drive me nuts. So what DOES get on our last nerves? I'll tell you what I can't stand...[/QUOTE]

And messages in ALL CAPS or All Bold Type.

Seriously though, you need to lighten up. Sounds like obsessive negative thinking to me. The reward for repetitive agitation, irritation and anger is stress, poor mental health and eventual physical health problems.

Sure I agree about some distractions you mentioned. My distractions include commercials, unnecessary noises, etc. Find ways to reduce, eliminated or avoid some distractions. But the rest you just have to deal with.

If there's nothing you can do about it (some particular annoyance or distraction), then there's just nothing you can do about it. Getting worked up about it won't help anything. How you respond is ultimately up to you: stress or managed acceptance (controlled emotion).

I posted a suggestion on another thread about "Stop Worrying, Start Living" by Dale Carnegie:

http://www.adhdnews.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1021&g et=last#53575

carpediem38511.9743865741

Hi, new to the boards.

How about the fry machines that beep constantly at Burger King etc. yikes!

When someone has no manners when they answer a business phone...like "XYZ Company" <said in an angry voice>. Makes me just want to hang the phone up and assume that this I will hear more of the same if I do business with them.

I called one company today to find out the price of a window installation. She simply asked for my name, phone number, and a time when I would like them to come out to my house. I asked, "Can I firsts get some ballpark figure for how much this will cost?" She answered, "No ma'am. I set an appt. and someone will come out and measure your window and then we'll give you a price."

"I can tell you the measurements of the window."

"That's not how we do it" and blah, blah, blah.

(Well, is it around 0 or a M?!) Aughghghhgh. "Can't even give me a ballpark figure for this size of window? Other companies have been giving me a rough price range."

"No, I cannot. This is the way we do it here."

"Ok, nevermind." (Oh yah...I AM THE CUSTOMER!)

I litrally will or will not do business with someone based on their phone manners of my 1st call.

I can't stand to hear other people using vacum cleaners, and lawn mowers.

standing by a free way...traffic noise.

loud TV.

babies crying and children playing.

blinking floresent bulb.

Titan...sensitivity to noise is a symptom of AD/HD, and perhaps light also, not sure. I've always been sensitive to noise, even before on medication. In fact, meds can perhaps relieve the sensitivity some.

Children with high-pitched screams make me want to scream! Although since on meds, they seem to be less bothersome, as well, and my working through it, so to speak.

Traffic nosies, as well.

On thing that drives me nuts, tho, is when someone is talking to me (not at work), and I need to go. I will actually say, "sorry, I need to go now," and start walking away...and they continue talking like I'm still standing in front of them. Get a clue!!!

Or someone starts on a topic I'd really rather not discuss, and I tell them so. Yet, they STILL start talking about it. I just don't understand. Do they think I'm just saying that for my health? (Well, actually, I may be

) Anyway, I think it's just rude.GypsyWomyn38530.5046527778Hi. I'm new at this board, and I have ADHD along with other problems. There are some things that bother me. For instance, at night when I'm in the car the street lights and traffic lights can really be a bother. ^^;; As for noise, there's quite some things. To top it off, babies crying or toddlers. It can be anywhere I am, but I can't handle it. However, I am able to leave if necessary. Another noise would be our dogs barking and we have two kinds of dogs, a lab and a pikapoo (sp?) the smaller dog's barking doesn't bother me as much but it can get annoying, but I just use my cd player to try and block out the sound. Having ADHD makes me impatient, like ridiculously impatient. For example sometimes i get irritated because I want to tell someone so many things but I feel like i can't get the news out of my head fast enough. Weird...For my second post and as an introduction of sorts: Here's my list. Not all of these are 'fair', but they effect me every day.

1. People. Not all people, but certain circumstances.
    a. Interrupting me. Ok, it took me 2 hours to get started on this project, it took a further 30 minutes to get a rhythm going. No, I dont want coffee. Yes, your shirt is nice. LEAVE ME ALONE!
    b. Instant Messenger blinky task bar lights. STOP IT. I cannot have blinky light going off on my machine without having to look at them, see point a. I would love to turn Im off, but its how we do things here at work.
    c. Talking. Please, get to a point. Quickly. Once. I dont care enough to hear the minutia, just give me hard facts, once. When you talk a lot I'm reminded of Douglas Adams "People talk a lot because they're afraid that if they stop they may start thinking". While you're talking I'm building castles in the sky, finding a cure for cancer and aids, and formulating a solution for world hunger. By the time you've finished I will have forgotten all of these advances that would have made the world a better place. See how selfish you're being? I hope you feel ashamed!
    d. Arguing. Know how to argue. I have ADD and if you get me engaged in an argument be prepared for war. I may be walking around in new pants that still have tags and labels attached cos I didnt notice them to remove them, but in an argument I will suddenly have a photographic memory and be able to pull up obscure facts that I read 15 years ago and will quote them word for word at you until you change your mind, admit defeat or start sobbing uncontrollably. I will only feel satisfied if I achieve all 3.

2. Social establishments. It's not that I hate people per se, I hate how social areas are set up. I dont have a filter. I cannot shut out the background music, the other patrons, the blinky lights, the dancing waitresses and hear you talk to me. Do not try to engage me in conversation if I finally relented and let myself be dragged into this sort of establishment. By the end of the evening I will hate the entire human race, my ADD, myself and you.
    b) Dont whine that I'm anti-social and boring. The people at the Skydiving club like me just fine, so do the guys in the band and the pro-wrestling crew.

3. ADD meds. Who exactly decided to create medication that needs to be taken at a regular time!? Hi, I have ADD, I barely know what day it is. I ate two breakfasts because I forgot the first one and will forget to eat lunch again until 5pm when I will realize I've been hungry for 4 hours, now you tell me I may have seizures if I miss a dose of this headache inducing wonder pill?

4. Driving. Hate it. If god had meant us to drive he'd have given us wheels, a metal exoskeleton, a built in subwoofer and cool shiny spinning rims.

5. Television. Passive mindless entertainment. I can sit slack jawed in front of a TV playing video games for days at a stretch but cant sit still for 10 minutes to watch any TV show that is not early NYPD Blue (up to Jimmy Smits dying). Everything else is horrible - except for Zombies. Especially exploding zombies who eat cute girls. Not sure why it works that way.

6. Conspiracy theories. Because I feel I have to research every single one that I'm exposed to, not to debunk it (i'm never that certain) but I need to fact check everything ARGH.

7. Politics. See point 6.

8. Anyone with a strong opinion contrary to mine. I will instantly think you are very very stupid. Even if your argument is impeccable I will find a way to prove you wrong. I'm getting better about this, but dont talk politics or religion with me. Ever. Should file this under point 1d but there are subtle differences.

9. My lack of organization and peoples reactions to it. Yes, my desk is a mess. Yes, it's amazing I can find anything in the many "piles" and "smears" of paperwork around my desk and office. However, please notice the use of "office" meaning " I have one and you're working in a cube farm downstairs. " I still hate that I can't tidy it tho.

10. Meetings. Hate them. Sleep in them. Have had the nickname Rip Van Winkle at other companies for my ability to pass out within 10 minutes of a meeting starting. My current hatred is reserved for this setup: There's a mangers meeting each week, it lasts an hour. Each manager compiles a written report of each major project in paragraph format. This report is compiled and sent to each person who's going to the meeting. We then sit around a table and each manager gets to read his report aloud. There are 10 managers, this takes an hour. In an average meeting there will be 2 or 3 deviations from this 'script'.

That'd be the random top 10 of today anyway.

11. realizing I focused on this for longer than I'd meant to, and wrote about 600 words more than I intended to rather than finish this thing I was working on over in this other window here........

I hate bright lights! I found my perfect job 26 years ago. I do vascular ultrasound. DO it in the dark!!!!!!

I hate noises! In the office down the hall a woman enters charges on her computer and I about die. She has long, nasty, half painted burgandy fingernails and the pecking is endless! She's also the splitting image of Loretta Lynn! But let's not go there!

If I get a noise in my dashboard I bang on it till it stops! I call it "fine tuning"!

fallen- you could be my psychic twin. hope we never meet. there might be lots of fire works then!

except i do watch tv, but i keep extra batteries for the remote nearby and can only watch with someone who tolerates major surfing. if you have your heart set on seeing a program in it's entirety, either watch tv by yourself or keep the remote hidden from me!

I can certainly relate to a vunch of this. I like TV, but I hate and I do mean HATE commercials. If I wanted to buy something I'd buy it, don't interrupt my show to tell me something I'm going to forget anyway!!!

I can't stand having an argument. I cna write a mean letter of complaint, but in a face to face argument, I keep fogetting what point I was about to make or what the argument is about.

I TOTALLY agree on the medication thing... I take 2 different ADD meds and 2 different Blood Pressure meds at 2 different times of the day (should have been 3 but that was a joke!!) In truth, I normally take 1/2 of my meds once a day and forget one of the 2 doses. I have alarms, reminders, a wife, I just can't seem to get it done.

[QUOTE=DADwithADD]

I can't stand having an argument. I cna write a mean letter of complaint, but in a face to face argument, I keep fogetting what point I was about to make or what the argument is about.

[/QUOTE]

Hi Kids

Thought I'd join the party. I cant stand bright lights, hate loud noises unless Im angry and the loud noise is Metallica or Slipknot or something of equal sound.

I have a desk fan which keeps me from boiling over (thats another thing I hate, HEAT) but the sound of it makes me want to peel my skin off.

I cant stand it when people argue their point knowing that they are wrong, but still they go on.

I hate the way my wife has to put up with me every single day, I am BAD.

I am very inteligent, but I hate it when I forget the easy things (very often), not as much as I hate it when someone is patronising or condecending.

I have been know to watch the TV with sunglasses when I have a particular sensitive day.

Hate long drawn out threads, only read the small to medium ones, sorry, but true.

Speaking of which, this is coming close to a big one now.......Bye

SLOW coffeehouse employees! Shouldn't QUICKNESS be a requirement to work in a coffeehouse? And don't get me started on the people who hold up the line because they can't decide what to order! Grrrrrrrrrrrrr.......

*I went to a coffeehouse today and ordered a breve (a latte made w/half-n-half). The idiot looked at me and said "uh...we don't have that." I said, "You don't have half-n-half?" and she goes "uh...yeah we do". I said, in the most controlled, nicest voice possible "Well that's what a breve is...latte made w/half-n-half." I had to make a game out of it b/c otherwise my head would've exploded. HOW THE HELL DO YOU WORK AT A COFFEEHOUSE AND NOT KNOW WHAT THE DRINKS ARE???????

Being FORCED to accept an untruth. AHhhh!!!!

When someone tells you something and you're just supposed to accept it...not allowed to ask questios or point out flaws... AHH!!!

OR someone that doesn't want a reply, they just expect a yes.....being expected to be a 'yes' man ...AHHHH!!!!!!

being forced to not only sit still, but keep quiet and do nothing...

other people wasting my time! I hate that! Waste YOUR time, don't come over here and waste mine!

Perfectionists that sit there and stare over your shoulder and just slightly adjust everything you do . .AHHH!!!!
[QUOTE=jaxkipi]

I'm realizing that most of this effects people without ADD/ADHD too

[/QUOTE]

I find myself thinking this all the time in these forums.
But it sure is fun to air out pet peeves anyway.

People who eat with their mouth open really, really bother me. I will leave if possible, move somewhere else, do anything polite to stop listening to them chew like a cow. Kids are often the worst but not always.

I am far too sensitive/ridiculous about it. I blame it on the childhood "trauma" of sitting next to my Father for ten-plus years listening to him eat with a wide open mouth. Further I blame it on my struggle to teach my oldest son to eat with his mouth closed. This took repeated requests, shouts, warnings, threatened punishments and once or twice actual (very mild) punishments over the course of every meal eaten for FIVE &!%$ YEARS!

When something goes wrong, you are the one to blame (because you can't remember to do things) so you waste an hour gathering proof it wasn't your error just for the principle of the matter.

When trying to explain why you can't do certain things well because of ADD & having people debunk you as a cop out saying its all "in your head" and "that stuff is a myth".

Striving so hard to leave on time & managing to be on time to catch a bus & watch it leave early driving down the road. Then having to sit 1 hour for the next bus in the hot sun.

Co-workers etc that spend lavishly, yet make rude comments every time you buy a candy bar (because you're so BAD with money they say & the candy bar is WHY you have no money APPARENTLY).

Being left out of activities that co-workers plan because you're the weird one.

Being looked down on just because you don't look like you were dressed for church on every day of the week. Most times I cut my hair for a REASON - so I can actually get work done at the office without spending hours adjusting & flipping it when I should be doing work. makeup is the only thing I do, because that I can't SEE while I am working. It was easy in high school to do hair & nails. All I had to do was just sit there in class and stare off into space.

I could have just said ditto to the majority of these. I think I could anyway, like thejestermuse, I hate long threads so I kinda skipped alot of the post.

I know I could have dittoed about 90% of Fallen's post.

I hate bright light, I have to wear sunglasses if I'm driving, even if it's a very cloudy day. Sometimes I forget to take them off and someone will ask me why I'm wearing shades indoors. I keep them on a string around my neck.

I hate loud noise. People that laugh loud drive me crazy.

I love to watch TV but it's very hard to watch a show all the way through. I have to channel surf, drives my wife crazy, she says I don't want to know what's on, I want to know what ELSE is on. With 200 channels I can do alot of surfing. I have an MP3 CD player in my car, so 1 CD may have 100 songs on it. I don't think I've ever listened to a song all the way through. I have to jump to the next song.

And most importantly, I ................ hey look, a lady bug, how'd that get in here?

Have any of you been checked for SPD you all sound like you may have this also. Therapy does help adults also. It gives you ideas to do.

Now I'm going off to look up SPD.

I've only have one partner for over 20 years now, so I think I'm safe.

People who click pens, you know the ones that don't have caps, that you click and it goes up inside. I can't STAND that click, click, click, click....ahhhhhh!!!

The things with lights, tags, losing the remote, and children yelling I can relate to. My youngest son is so LOUD. How can one person be so loud? I feel so bad when he yells out when he gets hurt and then I yell at him for yelling, meanwhile he's bleeding or something. My fiance used to make really loud noises--yells, animal noises--out of the blue. I broke him of it by threatening to kick him in his b*lls everytime he did it. I know it sound harsh, but it's like these loud noises actually make my body hurt.

I dread the beginning of summer, because by the end of the summer I'm just about crazy with all the airconditioners and fans going all the time. All night and all day. Sometimes I just turn them off and let the house start to boil, just so I can have some peace.

What about that ONE screeching dot matrix printer no one at work wanted to throw out??

i have to wear sunglasses all the time. bright lights just overload me. i keep them on a leash around my neck so i don't lose them. sometimes it's too dark inside(on construction sites in the basement or garage e.g) and i have to put them on to go to the truck, and take them off to see when back inside.... i am always forgetting what i'm looking for in the truck, so that makes for lots of extra trips.

i have been logging on the internet at the public library. the desk has 8 cubicles. there is always someone pounding on the desk or keyboard like they are playing a keith moon drum solo. it makes me want to pummel whoever it is.

people almost always aggravate the heck out of me. yes, it's because they are slow, and stupid, and like to act so superior to me. i usually know more about any given topic than they do.

i also hate those people that expect you to just agree with whatever nonsense they are babbling. i'm just not built to agree mindlessly, and can't pass up the opportunity to correct an idiot. 'contrarian' is the word applied to me, or just plain arrogant.

holding my tongue so much sure makes me tired by the end of the day, not to mention all the running to make up for what i forget.

Kinda ironic but what annoys me is people that have the same traits as ADDers but are not ADD. I hate it when people are late or forget things or fidget around...eventhough that's how I am (or was)!

crying or whining babies or toddlers at a store or any public place just droves me nuts! And their parents just ignore it! I've plugged my ears too, and said out loud, so the parents could hear me, how annoying it is........................

Also, when my husband is so clueless about something that is so obvious!!

Oh, and also when parents take their under 2 or 3 year old to Disney Land or a similiar place. Like their child is having so much fun!........................NOT[QUOTE=animalnutzo]

[/QUOTE]

First of all, I SO AGREE. And what ticks me off even more is when I know someone didn't "take care" of their pet and then let them outside to roam free to mate and make oodles of babies. GRRRRR!

Now for the truth. I admit, I love coming to the adult threads because I think you all have a fabulous sense of humor.

Auntie38553.7052430556The worst would have to be the office whistler. You know, the guy that insist on whistling his favorite tunes anytime he walks away from his desk and down the hall. [quote=terrie]my husband won't let me [/quote]

GAH!?!

This could explain why I'm not married. If a husband of mine told me what I can and cannot take, he would think a cat had just clawed its way up his back and wrapped itself around his head.

Oh yah, remember I said I had issues about controlling people? So just ignore.

bluebird3838576.6816666667

Bluebird38: The one man I didn't know for years on end I ended up marrying--must have been bored at the time--just kidding. I just thought since my bigger goal was never to get a divorce, why encourage marriage. Don't do it unless there's agun to your head is all I can say. I mean I love my twins and all but husband & I are an interesting mix & certainly not one I'd have imagined or picked for myself. Anyway, ironically, after sending him copies of many dissatisfied users of Strattera's emails he's said as long as the doctor monitored me I could take Stims just today. I am so I excited I could wet my pants!

Terrie, Whoopeee!!!

p.s. I think I still might have a cat suit lying around somewhere. I could be available to dress up and claw my way up...oh never mind. heehee

Signed,
Sweet Innocent Little Bluebird
bluebird3838576.7254513889

It's sincerely reason to celebrate at my house. Now all I have to worry about is whether insurance will pay for any shrink or meds or whatever. But get out your catsuit, anyway--meow!

Your insurance probably will pay. Catsuit is on; dog is scared. [QUOTE=terrie]Where are my fellow ADDers who find mistakes and imperfections a personal affront?[/QUOTE]Here. Actually all over the place, but can't be there or here at the same time.

It is Driven to Distraction.
[QUOTE=terrie]

It's sincerely reason to celebrate at my house. Now all I have to worry about is whether insurance will pay for any shrink or meds or whatever. But get out your catsuit, anyway--meow!

[/QUOTE] Insurance does cover it, except if you're with Kaiser. What country / state are you in? Kaiser Permanente doesn't believe in it. They label it bipolar and make you pee lithium byproducts of metabolism.
[QUOTE=bluebird38]CS Mommy, Terrie, and Pilgrim--not to be confused with....

Answers to Distraction (ISBN: 055337821X) by Edward Hallowell

hee hee

It's a good book too.

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[/QUOTE]Or Distractions to Distraction (ISBN: 782105533X) by Hallowell, Edward

I know what you mean about the thanking people who help. I always make a big effort to say thanks, write a letter, leave a comment etc. With ADHD, you know only too well how low you can keep and what a difference the recognition can make.

I definitely chase the bad ones too. If I can see that a person is unpleasant and has an attitude problem with me, I even find myself subconsciously daring them to cross me to give me an excuse to complain about them! I too find I can write very effective letters regarding complaints, refunds/compensation. Threatening to add interest onto amounts outstanding if the company does not contact you within 14 days is highly effective.

My ADHD Dad, a Professor of Graphic Design, is also makes a big point of doing both of these. After having a succession of problems with a new car, he eventually lost he calm and told the manufacturer he would set up a website entitled ‘<this car company> is crap’ to come up on search engines!

[QUOTE=thecrawl]Hey Davidornado,

This may be totally out of line, but you kind of sound
like Hunter S. Thompson sometimes in your posts.
(especially with the guns thing) Don't be offended! I
miss him!
(and I've wondered before if he was one of us, ie
ADHD)[/QUOTE]
Well, Hunter I'm not, but Hunter I am. If you ketch my drift, yawl.
What little I know of him, he was more an authorof the gonzo style, I'm more of a gonzo, less of an author. I like to get the ADHD message accross in a poignent way, with humor as my anchor. Most of my anecdotes are true, except the gay jokes. Which are pollitically incorrect, but so am I. It's very hard fro me to remain status quo, cuz once I achieve it, I'm challenged to tear down the walls, and move on... So, I'll talke that as a complement. I wasn't born to change the world, like I didn't set out to do it, but litlte by little, a piece here, a word there, a melon here, a pepper there, a life here, gets touched. They may never remember me, but they'll remember the day their walls came down, even for a moment, and their lives were changed, hopefully for longer, but even for a moment may be good enough to plant the seed. There is so much more to life than what we've boxed it in to be, and just a little nudge will open the gift you are for the world to see, enjoy, and be thoroughly blessed...

The ER doc that was sewing up my son on a busy night invited me to help when, in observing his knots, I said, hey, that's just a bowline. What he said changed me life that night: "Learn one, do one, teach one". If I can do that a few times with a few righteous topics, then I'm happy. Well, I'm happy anyway, but I'll be happier. :)

Thanks for the encouragement. Go cast your net on the other side...
Â Hey Davidornado,

This may be totally out of line, but you kind of sound
like Hunter S. Thompson sometimes in your posts.
(especially with the guns thing) Don't be offended! I
miss him!
(and I've wondered before if he was one of us, ie
ADHD)

The ER doc that was sewing up my son on a busy night invited me to help when, in observing his knots, I said, hey, that's just a bowline. What he said changed me life that night: "Learn one, do one, teach one". If I can do that a few times with a few righteous topics, then I'm happy. Well, I'm happy anyway, but I'll be happier. :)

Thanks for the encouragement. Go cast your net on the other side...
Â
Davidornado: What a beautiful freaking message. Well, it's official--I'm on it. 15mg of Adderall as I type. My GP practically let me write the Rx myself. God is clearly on myside--or waiting to laugh his hiney off. We'll see. All of a sudden I'm paranoid about being on this because my hubby & I used to fight when I was on Metadate. My GP said something I never knew--Ritalin is not a stim--I thought methylphenidate (Metadate) was a stim. She said that's what Ritalin is--methylphenidate. Am I nuts, or is it just the "Meth" part of methylphenidate that I am making assumptions about? I realize this is a truly selfish question since I couldn't even figure out how to open your private message/email/website thingy & you're not even coming back until tonight so I'm sticking this is in your private message thingy, please forgive. And apologies to all who have to read my self-centered concerns because I'm still learning how to navigate through this message board. It cost 4- after insurance--they paid like O- of it--I guess that's good, but I have - to live on for the next two weeks--I love a challenge. Now I need to commence the arduous task of finding a ADHD Psychiatrist in RWCity/San Carlos through Blue Shield HMO. Here I go. I haven't even told hubby what happened yet--don't want him to freak out on the cost & raise hell w/yet another doctor. Forced break now. Back in a sec--sure you're thrilled & waiting with baited breath.

Well, I did mean it as a compliment.
It probably was phrased a little weird, but most of my
compliments turn out that way. Me & internet
communication aren't good friends, not yet.
Anyway, gonzo rocks!

[QUOTE=Davidornado]
<span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="color:
rgb(0, 0, 255);">Well, Hunter I'm not, but Hunter I am.
If you ketch my drift, yawl.
What little I know of him, he was more an authorof
the gonzo style, I'm
more of a gonzo, less of an author. I like to get the
ADHD message
accross in a poignent way, with humor as my
anchor. Most of my
anecdotes are true, except the gay jokes. Which are
pollitically
incorrect, but so am I. It's very hard fro me to remain
status quo, cuz
once I achieve it, I'm challenged to tear down the
walls, and move
on... So, I'll talke that as a complement. I wasn't born
to change the
world, like I didn't set out to do it, but litlte by little, a
piece
here, a word there, a melon here, a pepper there, a
life here, gets
touched. They may never remember me, but they'll
remember the day their
walls came down, even for a moment, and their lives
were changed,
hopefully for longer, but even for a moment may be
good enough to plant
the seed. There is so much more to life than what
we've boxed it in to
be, and just a little nudge will open the gift you are for
the world to
see, enjoy, and be thoroughly blessed...

The ER doc that was sewing up my son on a busy
night invited me to help
when, in observing his knots, I said, hey, that's just a
bowline. What
he said changed me life that night: "Learn one, do
one, teach one". If
I can do that a few times with a few righteous topics,
then I'm happy.
Well, I'm happy anyway, but I'll be happier. :)

Thanks for the encouragement. Go cast your net on
the other side...
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Things that drive me nuts are:

1. People who interrupt conversations when they weren't invited in.

2. Nosy neighbors.

3. People who must push their carts right up (sometimes hitting your legs) to you when checking out.

4. Hairdressers who call you "hon". I, since I am impulsive, like to change the color of my hair often (and do it on my own). WEll, I finally did it once to many times and fried it. I then had to go in and get it professionally done. The girl had to bleach my hair. I got to marinate for fifteen minutes in bleach. She kept coming over and asking me if I was okay. I just made a comment about the fumes being strong and she said "I have to breathe in the same fumes, honey."

5. I live next to a busy street and I really can't stand the noise of loud motorcycles. My son calls the particular loud ones "crotch rockets".

6. Telemarketers

7. People who leave conversations abruptly. And they are not ADD/HDers so they do not have an excuse.

8. People who make a big deal out something small.

I think that is enough for today! Thanks for listening.

Hey territourney,

You did publicize it! Kooollll!

The ER doc that was sewing up my son on a busy night invited me to help when, in observing his knots, I said, "hey, that's just a bowline."

What he said changed me life that night:

"Learn one, do one, teach one".

If I can do that a few times with a few righteous topics, then I'm happy. Well, I'm happy anyway, but I'll be happier. :)

Hey, what's this little A thing: "Ã‚"? Hey, look what it did! I'm gonna copypaste it somewhere... see if you can find it. like where's WÃ‚"ldo...

DÃ‚"vidornÃ‚"do: WhÃ‚"t Ã‚" beÃ‚"utiful freÃ‚"king messÃ‚"ge.

TerrieTourney: WhÃ‚"t Ã‚" beÃ‚"utiful freÃ‚"king thÃ‚"nks!
[QUOTE=thecrawl] Well, I did mean it as a compliment. [QUOTE=Davidornado]Hey thecra, Look! You made it like a PoEm!
Now that's what I call an ADHDr compliment! [/QUOTE][QUOTE=Davidornado] [QUOTE=Davidornado]hEY, IT EVEN HAS THEMATIC PARAMETERS!
Wait a sec, I think i meant
iambic pentaMeters (definitaion of a pentaMeter: "a huge computer chip"... [/QUOTE]
Well, Hunter I'm not, but Hunter I am.
If you ketch my drift, yawl.
What little I know, he was more of an auth, of the gonzo style,
with drawl.
I'm more of a gonzo, and less of an auth, without any style,
at all...

To sail the AD/HD ship in a poignent way, across the wide seas
with humor, gay,
I anchor my posts, almost every day.

While these anecdotes are mostly true, ('cept the queer ones,
which'll turn you blue),
pollitic'ly 'ncorrect, but then, I am, too.

Tis hard fro me, to be status quo, cuz once I achieve it,
I'm bound to go
and tear down the walls, then move onward...
So,

I'll talke that as a complement.

I wasn't born
to change the
world,
I didn't set out, like a flag, unfurled. But litlte by little, a
piece
at a time, a few words arranged in a cute little rhyme,
with a melon here, ore, a pepper there, and a smile :)
just about anywhere, then,
a life
gets touched.

And it was all worth it.

They may never remember me, but they'll
remember the day their
walls came down, even if for a moment, and their lives
were changed,
hopefully for longer, but even for a moment may be
good enough to plant
the seed.
There is so much more to life than what
we've boxed it in to
be, and just a little nudge will open the gift you are,
for the world to
see,
enjoy,
and be thoroughly blessed...

The ER doc that was sewing up my son on a busy
night invited me to help
when, in observing his knots, I said, "hey, that's just a
bowline." What
he said changed me life that night:
"Learn one,
do one,
teach one".
If,
I can do that a few times with a few righteous thoughts,
then I'm happy.
Well, I'm happy anyway, but I'll be happier. :) :) :)

It was worth it all...

Thanks for the encouragement. Go cast your net on
the other side... [/QUOTE] [/QUOTE] [QUOTE=thecrawl] Well, I did mean it as a compliment.
It probably was phrased a little weird, but most of my
compliments turn out that way. Me & internet
communication aren't good friends, not yet.
Anyway, gonzo rocks! [/QUOTE]
No worries, myte.

Thanks for the complIment.

Wierd is well for ADDrHDrrss. Understand we well wierd, eh? hehe

Me and internet communication aren't that good, either. C'all the typos?

Gonzo Rocks!

He's from outerspace, you know... (I saw the movie)...

Davidornado: Here, here! to the personal affront of imperfection--ha! Regarding insurance covering any shrink/meds, I'm in California, not on Kaiser & have a Blue Shield HMO plan through my husband. It's the HMO part that's scaring me. I see my GP tomorrow to get referred--I pray she'll do that much.

BlueBird38: "Cat Suit is On--Dog is Scared"--Laugh Out Freaking Loud!!! I just about peed my pants! Thanks for the encouragement with the insurance & all. I'm on an HMO, and that's the part that makes me nervous . . . we'll see, I ask my GP to refer me tomorrow. Crossing every appendage I'm able.

I'm with everyone who posted about being annoyed
by bright lights, screeching infants, noise, stupid
people, slow people...well, among other things.

Whistling drives me up a tree, too. I want to grab the
whistler by the lips and swing them around for
awhile. Don't they know whistling is painful to listen
to?
Car alarms bug the bejesus out of me, too. What is
the point? They go off seemingly by themselves,
everyone tries to ignore it instead of looking around
for a possible thief (AGGHHH THERE GOES ONE
RIGHT NOW), so it can't be a huge deterrent.

It bugs me to no end that I somehow manage to
continuously drop or bump into things and break
them. I feel like a poltergeist.Beside dry hands--I can never have space between my fingerprints--I must always be coated with lotion to prevent this--The action that is most annoying to me ever is the PAINFULLY SLOW UNWRAPPING & CRINKLING NOISE OF A CELLOPHANE WRAPPER BEING "QUIETLY" UNDONE IN CLASS or church or some place where someone is speaking. I cannot believe how incredibly long some people can take to unwrap a butterscotch candy or some another annoying little item. I've listened to this agitating activity take as long as three to four minutes because someone thinks they're being quiet about doing it more slowly--I'd rather listen to nails on a chalkboard & have no problem whatsoever about jutting my head out, staring at the person with a raised eyebrow and administering a "Do you MIND?" look. [QUOTE=terrie]Davidornado: Here, here! to the personal affront of imperfection--ha! Regarding insurance covering any shrink/meds, I'm in California, not on Kaiser & have a Blue Shield HMO plan through my husband. It's the HMO part that's scaring me. I see my GP tomorrow to get referred--I pray she'll do that much.
Crossing every appendage I'm able.

?s'smatter, gotta P?[/QUOTE]
California is good. Not on KP is gooder. Blue Shield HMO, why scared? They use witch doctors? You ought to see some of my scars...

Why wouldn't your GP refer you? You pay her. Sometimes I think I know about ADHD than my dalks. I tell them what I want, and they let me do it. I even take my own BP.

Good luck tomorrow, I'll cross some of my appendages for you, too.

Davidornado38579.6765856482 [QUOTE=thecrawl]It bugs me to no end that I somehow manage to
continuously drop or bump into things and break
them. I feel like a poltergeist.[/QUOTE]
Then you must go bump in the night...
[QUOTE=thecrawl]Car alarms bug the bejesus out of me, too. What is
the point? They go off seemingly by themselves,
everyone tries to ignore it instead of looking around
for a possible thief (AGGHHH THERE GOES ONE
RIGHT NOW), so it can't be a huge deterrent. [/QUOTE]
That's from people like me that touch a car just before I get in my car to set off the alarm b/c of the ADHD things it causes in other people...

Hey, do you ever walk through a parking lot, or drive, and push the alarm button on your keyless entry unit, to see if you can set off someone else's alarm?

Oh, don't get me wrong, I hate the yonk honk konking of the noise, too, but it's like an experiment I'm stuck in time with...
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Good luck tomorrow, I'll cross some of my appendages for you, too.

LOFL! You're too much! (Well, not TOO much--is there such a thing?) Thanks for all the encouragement & suggestions. I'm afraid they'll say no. I've been told I don't take "no" for an answer. Have to get ready to jam.

[QUOTE=terrie]

Good luck tomorrow, I'll cross some of my appendages for you, too.

[/QUOTE]
hEY, don't let them say NO. You know your body better than they do, you know your mind better than they do. I can't believe I'm going to say this, but you have a choice. I DO NOT believe in abortion, b/c I'm also a medschool flunkie, but know enough a/b medicine, that kids are kids, whether they are twins, recently conceived, 49 yearold cowboy wannaBBBBs, female ADDtorneys, or TTTT9r fans.

Hey, did you see that? I'm 49! That makes me a 49r! Koollll.... I used to live in Santa Clara, San Jose, Cupertino, and The Cats. Tia lives in Mtn. View. There's a great Korean BBQ in Burlingame. There's a busy airport I get stuck in in SFO. My roomie and his legal wife (not that he had an illegal wife;...she made partner a while back), lived on a boat in the harbor in RWCity. I set fire to the grass there once during the fourth of July. They may live in the City now.

If they say no, at least ask why? Defend thyself, Healer! Juxtiposition, Dudette.

Oh, shoot, here it comes. Who will Heal the Healer?

Why jam? What's wrong with Jelly? Specially Lemon Jelly?

Ketch yawl later, Missie. Thanks for ruining my afternoon. I really was going to try to make it to Lodi, but got stuck in Fresno again...
Davidornado38579.7346180556Why on earth did you leave NorCal.? From experience I know precisely where the Redwood City Harbor is--right next to the Women's Jail! Been there 2x. 13 days total. Goody for me. (if you yell in San Mateo County it's domestic violence & if you have a control freak hubby who's had it up to here w/you, it's incarceration.) If the Doctor/GP tells me no, she'll get the Judge/Cop Earful that I administer to get out of most tickets--too much talk until I get my way. I'll pretend this is determination. I go see GP tomorrow morning. For honest & for true, I am really leaving now--have to lock up the firm. Will let you know the on-going saga tonmorrow when I return from GP's. Grazie! [QUOTE=terrie]Why on earth did you leave NorCal.? When I didn't make it to medjool, (Santa Clara U premed), I decided to get into Bo Tany, cuz I grew pharmaceuticals so well. So well, I went to CSUFresno and bcm Mastered & aggified. 'Sides, I like the look (no wool suits for me). From experience I know precisely where the Redwood City Harbor is--right next to the Women's Jail! Been there 2x. 13 days total. Goody for me. Hay, we cld B twins! 2x 4 me2. Orange county jail & Madera county jail. I wasn't arrested, though. My body was attached. Like those punk rockers with things in their flesh. I had steel bracelets. 4 days, tho. I'm a fast processor. (if you yell whoa, momma, I'm glad I don't live there. My wifeypoo is always threatening to call the cops, and I yell "go ahead"! in San Mateo County it's domestic violence & if you have a control freak hubby who's had it up to here w/you, it's incarceration.) If the Doctor/GP tells me no, she'll get the Judge/Cop Earful that I administer to get out of most tickets--too much talk until I get my way. I'll pretend this is determination. I go see GP tomorrow morning. For honest & for true, I am really leaving now--have to lock up the firm. Will let you know the on-going saga tonmorrow when I return from GP's. Grazie![/QUOTE]G'by, g'lcuk, & g'God!
I'll be in Lodi/Sac manana, so won't be able to typeatya until dark.
Â Here, I'll say it, and get it over with .

IT

"Stay on target!", to quote Wedge Antilles.

Loveactuary you remind me of myself almost exactly. 8)

The big thing with me & people on a power trip are those that self-proclaim to be in a station above me and try to force things upon me. Especially when I know they have no authority & the true authority figures choose to ignore it. I keep feeling like I will start ranting really loud.

I am a very calm person. I had a time in an old job that an employee in a position above me came into my office to point out something I overlooked (sheesh ADD lol) and she had the nerve to call me stupid. I hit the roof. Lost my calm and screamed at her at the top of my lungs.

[QUOTE=terrie]Giddy-up, Pilgrim: I'm pretty certain it's "Driven to Distraction"--that's Driven, not delivered--if only![/QUOTE]

There are 2 books, Driven TO Distraction AND Driven FROM Distraction.
[loveactuary]"This means I don’t respect them and I think they usually spot it a mile off. Bad vibes straight away! Because of my ADHD, I often misinterpret things if there’s even if there’s only the slightest double meaning, so I always ask. In my experience, a good leader always welcomes this and even thanks you for pointing out the possible confusion. The bad power trip people try to make you look stupid: which for me is the green light for unrestricted submarine warfare if I’m not careful."

ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think I am often a target because I swear I can sniff out a mean-spirited person like a bloodhound can find a hunk of cheese...too easy. I think it ends up showing on my face. It's like we have an unspoken understanding..."You are one of THOSE!" Maybe I just mirror back to them what they are or something.

My mom said that if I had been born to her first husband I might not have survived. She said that my brother was very passive and accepting of his mean-spirited father. She said that I was defiant and challenging of people like this from the get go and that I didn't have the ability to hide my disdain well; that I have done this to my own detriment at times.

When I encounter people who help me when I am vulnerable for some reason, I go really overboard to thank them in some manner (even with a generous tip or write a letter of appreciation, if it's someone in the service industry). If they do just the opposite when I'm in a particularly vulnerable situation, I make it a mission when I'm back on my feet to make sure they feel some pain and I usually attack them from several sides...a direct letter, letters to their supervisors, call the police, etc. I am able to write some wickedly effective letters that often involve refunds. I have a hard time sorting out important from non-important in these matters--someone who tries to be mean and controlling over a piece of bubblegum might get the same amout of attention as someone trying to sabotage me at work. Ugh.

CSMommy: I still blurt out on email--I somehow think I need no editing. When I was four, I wrote my short stories (because I didn't like reading the books I had, I decided any story I wrote would be far more entertaining because I knew what I liked) I would just write & write & never ate or even went to the bathroom for like three days. If my characters went to the bathroom or ate that was sufficient for me. I guess my parents thought I was busy composing & left me alone. Anyway, I never edit--it's perfect the first time & flows--& everyone always thought my stories were funny & begged me to write more. That definitely stuck, so clearly editing is not something I can do. My gut has convinced me my instinct is "perfection"--right on. Talk about rambling! Do I sound full of myself or what?!

I'm also sure I'm not the only ADDer who was allowed to sit out math lessons to write short stories to read to the rest of the class...probably not the best idea--I had to take Algebra twice during my undergraduate & never even took Physics, Trig or Calc!!! Scary thought.

Bluebird38: Thx for the addendum to the Distraction books--I'll have to check it out!

Shock: Thx for the update--CSMommy let me know, too. Give me all your knowledge anytime--I'm a glutton!

LoveActuary: Regarding the Office Pleasantries, Oh My Goodness--TRY BEING A RECEPTIONIST !!! All that same mundane crap over & over & over every freaking five seconds each time a body passes your desk--they know I was hired to be perfectly sweet & make pleasant conversation. I have no choice but to pick up the phone and pretend to talk. But I fear I'll never be able to focus long enough to do any other position! I need to go on meds & my husband won't let me take the stim kind & I read that Strattera takes something like four freaking months to work!

Aaaaack!!

loveactuary, you and I must have been separated at birth. I related to everything you said, esp. losing things (and looking for something that I don't really need, I just want to find it), time (I barely have a concept of time and I get in trouble over it constantly), boredom, short-term memory.

I cannot stand offices...I hate seeing people wearing dry-cleaned stuffy suits, the annoying sounds the telephone makes (boop, boop), icky carpet and lights, etc.

Another thing I cannot stand is to see the same people every single day at work and have to go through, "Hi, how are you?" 'Fine. How was your weekend?" Hell, I just feel like, "If anything changes from the last time I saw you let me know."

Power trips. Don't even get me started. I'm real sensitive to this. When I detect someone is just trying to be controlling for no good reason, I can feel myself start to smoulder. I have been this way since I was a baby my mom said.

In first grade, my teacher caught me trying to get a new pack of crayons because the tips on mine had become dull and I couldn't stand it. So, I walked over to the supply cabinet and got a new pack. She yelled at me not to do this. So, I kept doing it. She didn't just explain why she wouldn't like me to do it--she used the "because I said so and that's that" method. She got so ugly that I kept defying her. It was war and my mom had to get me transferred out. I got a new teacher that was so neat that I simply loved her and really thrived in her class. I was clear ahead in my self-paced reading program.

To this day I struggle to control myself around unnecesarrily mean or aggressive people, esp. women. If they do it at work (draw first blood, that is), I end up releasing fresh hell on them and am practically not satisfied until it looks like they might cry.

bb

bb
War, injustice, and poverty. They drive me nuts!

And alarm clocks. Even the name -- which prominently features the
word "alarm" -- tells you they cannot be a good way to wake up.Wordwoman38575.9106018519CS Mommy, Terrie, and Pilgrim--not to be confused with....

Answers to Distraction (ISBN: 055337821X) by Edward Hallowell

hee hee

It's a good book too.

bb

Terrie, I did not know there were 2. I had only heard of Driven to Distraction.

If there is 1 thing I have learned from my son being ADD & realizing I wasn't stupid or lazy growing up, but ADD, is to try & remember to check things out before I open my mouth. That is why I love the internet as opposed to "real time" conversations. I don't just blurt things out here like I do at home.

So true BB:

Offices are a nightmare! The first time I had to work in an open plan office, I nearly went mad. No natural light and lots of white noise – pure hell. I’m amazed I ever got anything done at all. I was always whipping round at movement and noises, which of course, are rather abundant in such an environment.

Totally with you on the office pleasantries: I hate them. People you know don’t really care, like you and regard you as verging on insane pretend to be nice by asking ‘did you have a nice weekend?’ If you answer, you immediately see that they’re actually not interested. Sometimes I’m a bit cruel and keep on going, such that they can’t escape, on purpose to teach them a lesson and for my own amusement!

In fact that really gets to me: You go round to a friend’s house and chat. They ask questions and I answer. I’ve learnt now these days to make more effort to balance things by making sure I also ask questions and don’t just talk at people. However, afterwards a friend will say I drove their Mum mad by continually talking and chatting, about stuff that ‘bored’ her. And this is the bit I don’t get: if these people have had enough of me talking, why do they keep asking questions?! Because if they ask questions, then I’m going keep going and answer aren’t I?! Aaahhhh! Why, why why?!

Unmediated I also find I have a really nasty, deep and dark anger. I used to occasionally fight as a kid when I lost if; however I learnt early on from my also ADHD Dad, that psychological warfare was far more effective and more difficult for authority figure to detect and punish! If someone annoyed me or set me up, as kids at school used to do lots, I would become very withdrawn and go over and over it my head. I would really hate them. I’d go through every possible permutation of how I’d carry the argument forward, what would happen if it came to a fight etc. Get really worked up and upset about it for hours or days. Then, after all that, I’d normally forget about it! On meds (Dex) I find I can let go and move on with my day much easier and I’m not as prone to the dark side of the force.

Power trip people melt my brain too! I’ve found I’m very logical and (on meds) even open minded to new things, especially if they’re explained properly. I’ve found I can reverse/over engineer my ADHD organisation to handle change better than most. But I loath the power trip ‘because I say so’ mentality people. They have power (usually just because they’ve been in the same job for 25 years, not due to actual ability) and want to show it off. They do not present things with or listen to reason or sensible questions. This means I don’t respect them and I think they usually spot it a mile off. Bad vibes straight away! Because of my ADHD, I often misinterpret things if there’s even if there’s only the slightest double meaning, so I always ask. In my experience, a good leader always welcomes this and even thanks you for pointing out the possible confusion. The bad power trip people try to make you look stupid: which for me is the green light for unrestricted submarine warfare if I’m not careful. Luckily I don’t work with these people anymore!

Lol… as for the crayons. That happened to me too with felt tips at school. Even worse, the other kids borrowed my set, used them, and purposefully banged them, making them all dull at the end. I got told off and the teacher didn’t believe me and said I had to continue using the ruined ones as punishment. This made me cross. I probably was cheeky and then helped myself to a new set. I was then banned from having any pens or crayons for the rest of the term. I’ve never really lent anyone anything since!

Giddy-up, Pilgrim: I'm pretty certain it's "Driven to Distraction"--that's Driven, not delivered--if only!Where are my fellow ADDers who find mistakes and imperfections a personal affront?

Driven To Distraction : Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood Through Adulthood

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0684801280/002 -3841360-6972030?v=glance

Delivered from Distraction : Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/034544230X/qid=112379 8525/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_2_1/002-3841360-6972030

csmommy38575.6358564815

TELE-MARKETERS ***AAARARRRRGGGHHHHHHH*** WIL, that is so funny! That's my day job!! I call and drive people nuts all day!!!! Its about the only job that would take me in after a crappy employment history such as mine.

WHAT DRIVES ME NUTS?

WHEN THINGS FLICKER CONSTANTLY AND BRIGHT LIGHTS.

SCREAMING

WAITING ON AND ON AND ON AND ON AND ON..............JUST TO GET MY PAYCHECK ON FRIDAYS IN A LINE OF 70 PEOPLE AND LINES PERIOD. AND WAITING IN GENERAL FOR ANYTHING.

WHEN I CAN'T FIND ANYTHING FOR ANYTHING AFTER LOOKING A WHOLE NIGHT AND THEN ITS IN FRONT OF MY FACE IN THE MORNING

THE TORNADO SIRENS THAT GO OFF ONE SATURDAY A MONTH (Torture)

just to name a few..........................

CS Mommy: Bless you for clarifying the two book titles--I love to be "taken down a notch" (it's got to be good for my ego) & corrected. I seriously appreciate it. It's all in the details . . .

I JUST HATE WHEN YOU ARE IN A LARGE GROUP AND TRYING TO LISTEN TO EVERY CONVERSION ...........CAN'T DO IT ........WELL SOMETIMES ...THEN FEEL BAD FOR NOT KNOWING WHAT EVERYONE IS TALKING ABOUT .....W...OR JUST IN A ONE ON ONE CONVERSASION AND DON'T HAVE A IDEA WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS TALKING ABOUT .................JUST SUCKS[I LOVE THIS FORUM I CAN RELATE WITH A LOTS OF YOU ......ADD OR ADHD HAS SLOWED ME DOWN I LIVE .....BUT FEEL IN OTHER WAYS IT HAS HELPED ..........BUT I HAVE A SOCIAL PROBLEM CAN'T HOLD A CONVERSACION OR EVEN CARE ABOUT WHAT SOME PEOPLE ARE SAYING .......UNLESS I HAVE A PART IN THERE LIFE.......I'M JUST BORED WITH PEOPLE IN GENERAL IT SUCK ......EVERYONE THINKS I DO'NT LIKE THEM .............I KNOW I HAVE MUCH STREET SMARTS OVER OTHER PEOPLE BUT DON'T KNOW HOW TO SHOW IT .........I TRULY LIKE MANY PEOPLE BUT JUST COME OFF WRONG .......HELP ANY SUGESTIONS WOULD HELP

Oooww annoying things. So glad that it’s not just me looking at the above.

Bright light. I nearly always wear sunglasses when driving, as I find the brightness uncomfortable. As long as it’s daytime, I pretty much will feel I want to wear them, even if it’s overcast. Interestingly, I have subsequently discovered that if you’re driving in fog in the daytime sunglasses help loads: the increase in contrast between features makes it easier and far less tiring on the eyes. I often forget I’m wearing my sunglasses and keep them on inside!Noise. University halls of residence were a nightmare for me because of this, particularly as I used to try to keep a set, normal routine. A baby crying stresses me immediately. I purposefully avoid shopping at weekends because of this. Barking dogs go here too. Ticking, tapping noises, vibration noises etc all drive me mad and I have to stop them before I can get on with things. Sudden noises get to me too, as I always immediately whip around to locate the source (usually dropping/breaking something in the process). Worse of all are defective fluorescent tube lights, that make noises and flicker and TVs. I automatically lock on to a TV set because it makes noise, is bright and has movement. Tesco’s supermarket is now hard work since they installed all the mini LCD screens on every aisle: I’ll stand there for 5 mins just staring at it and not even realise. Shopping now takes fr longer! I regularly turn off TVs, even in other peoples houses, because I can’t stand the over stimulation. I don’t have my own because I know I would never get anything done. I feel guilty to say it in modern times, but stupid people do get to me. A lot. I’ve always found I can grasp complex ideas, systems, theories quickly, almost intuitively, and get bored and frustrated with those who don’t. If something is straight forward or clearly depicted by logical thought, I get incensed when people don’t get it. I’m more tolerant when medicated but can get really grumpy or rude if I’m not careful. Waiting/traffic jams, especially if I can’t see the cause. I tend to shout at other cars. Losing things. I seem to spend half my life looking for things and I hate it. I always hyperfocus on it too, making things worse. I’ll have a report to be handed in or something else urgent to do and I’ll waste an afternoon searching for a favourite biro I don’t need. I have to try very hard and enforce priorities to avoid this. It’s a major disaster if I lose my list(s) or diary because I literally have no idea where I’m supposed to be or when.That horrible look other ‘normal’ people give you. I’ll be talking, probably animatedly, about something I’m interested in and someone will give you that disgusted, bored, you’re not cool and I am, you’re a freak look. Or look at you like you should just never speak. I never understand this: surely these people have hobbies and interested? Surely they talk about stuff when they socialise? I’m frequently told I talk too much or am boring, but who goes out for a day/evening with people in silence?Time. Where does it all go? Being medicated (Dex) although I can get things done, time seems to rocket by and disappear. To try be effective I mentally catalogue how long everything I do takes, so I can realistically plan. For example, I know it takes me an hour to get ready in the morning; it takes 40 mins to get to my parents’ house; I need 20 mins to have a shower etc. But I still seem to have to rush all the time just to be late half the time. I don’t get how everyone else I know can be so sedate, so unaware of time and how long things take, yet still be on time for things. A perk is that if I want to really chill for an afternoon, I halve my medication. Time slows down massively then. Of course, I (or in terms of doing anything effectively anyway) also slow down greatly but it can be a tremendous release to spend an afternoon out to lunch with the pixies (as my Mum calls it). I find I can spend hours playing with a paperclip or something daft like that! I tend to reserve it for otherwise stressful family engagements or similarly boring events: far better to be bored in my own head or daydreaming than to be really bored and aware of it!Boring stuff. I struggle to get though something like a church service. Even my own graduation ceremony was a nightmare. I spent most of it playing ‘who’s graduating with the longest name’ with another student sitting next to me: luckily we were at the back. Short term memory loss. If it goes into long term storage I’m sorted. That’s it. Forever. I can recall some events with exceptional accuracy: what people were wearing, who sat where, dialogue, the weather conditions, the petrol price, what people felt about things. I can be like an elephant and catch people out when they change their opinions. But ask me what I had for lunch! Not a chance.

Road signs for large roundabouts are a weakness: You read them about half a mile from the roundabout. As it’s a diagram, I understand it in an instant and glance at it just for a second; however, I then forget what it said by the time I get to the roundabout and have to go round several times!

I’d best stop here: I’ve probably hyperfocussed on this for long enough.

dlwman7 > a GREAT book to read is "Delivered form
Distraction", you could probaly pick it up at your
library.
           Another tool I've been using is therapy. It's just
talking to someone about your problems without
getting jumped on and another viewpoint @ how you
might handle inter-personal/social situations.
           Meds and therapy have been a H U GE help for
me, and brother let me tell you, I need lots of help ! You silly thing, it's "delivered FROM distraction".
Isn't it great to embarass your self in front of {well
not really in front of}   doz. and doz. or even
thousands of people.You may want to check out "Answers to Distraction" by the same author. It, too, is an excellent book! [QUOTE=kimo]You may want to check out "Answers to Distraction" by the same author. It, too, is an excellent book! [/QUOTE]How many books does he have? That can be pretty distracting.
I HATE KIDS & WIND CHIMESSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!Things that drive ADHDrs nuts--

Myself.

Must

finish

my

work.

Yeah, right! At this hour?

I know you think you've logged off, but I know you are ADHD, and will return b/c you are curious.

You'll log on b/c you'll take a break from your work, and you'll read the interesting repsones, and get distracted and respond yourself, and

[sound of head hitting the wall]

Having an argument only to forget what your argument was half way through telling it.

It drives me nuts when someone (I'm not naming names but I am married to him LOL) keeps coming back to prolong an argument when I thought it was over.

People who ask a question and start getting in your face for the answer when you are trying to come up with it. They can't understand that if they back off you will be able to answer them faster. All I can think at the time is how uncomfortable and pressured they make me feel and I want to run (or deck him, I'd love to deck him) so I start yelling at him to back off and let me think. I haven't ever hit him but I have these fantasies!

Sorry, bad weekend!

[QUOTE=coiled spring]Having an argument only to forget what your argument was half way through telling it[/QUOTE]OMG, I've done that, too! So I leave, but when I remember what it was, I go back and speak my last word...

Right now...what is really driving me nuts is this heat wave we are having. Living in Wisconsin, I know I need to appreciate what time we do have nice weather....but uggh-enough with the humidity. I am tired of breaking out in a sweat just walking to my car! I love having the windows open at night and have not been able to do that for awhile.

Noise gets on my nerves too...my son and his stereo..neighbor's dog barking, which starts mine barking...screaming, whining kids at stores, traffic, etc. I now have to sleep with a fan on all year to be able to sleep.

Rude drivers...I cannot stand when the driver behind me feels that it is totally necessary to get as close as he or she can at a stop light.

Rude people...I cannot stand when the person behind me in the grocery store check out line feels that is necessary to stand or have the cart as close to me as possible while I am checking out.

Most of all...my 18 year old's attitude of knowing it all can drive me nuts. There are many times that I have to bite my tongue. Oh well...I will miss him someday!

Jumping in late, but loud noises P*SS me off!

I mean really just make me angry. Screeching knives over plates do it too. I have learned, with time, to control my seething rage (no really, that level of fury) over loud sudden noises and such most of the time, but my husband still apologizes when his knife or fork screeches.

Oh, and in the house or when we're alone if something crashes and surprises me I just involuntarily curse, usually shouting something like "MOTHER******!!!!!" and then I'm over it. It's kind of funny, since my husband knows that's just me and is amused by it. I'm not angry at him, I just have to release the rage at the surprise of the loud crash/noise, etc.
[QUOTE=Sylvia]

Babies screaming or crying does the same thing to me. I just hve to leave the area. I thank God my kids are old enough not to make a tantrum in public.

[/QUOTE]

Sylvia, I think this was a driving force behind my decision to not have children. I hate the sound of babies screaming and frankly fear what would happen if I had to endure it for long periods of time in close quarters... How did you cope with it when yours were young?